Re: Re: I HATE EVERYTHING!

[Guest guest]

Christene . . .

I've got your hubby's type now! . . . My daughter's ex

is making good money, yet refuses to pay more than

token child support for his two children. He wants my

daughter to struggle! . . He's taken my daughter back

to court four times to get child support reduced . . .

The last time he was unemployed, so it was dropped to

almost nothing. She's spent so much in attorney's fees

(the last two took her money and did nothing) that

she's just biding her time until her new hubby

finishes his degree. Then she will be able to keep the

A****** in court the rest of his life!

In the meantime, it's the kids who suffer because they

don't have the little extras. . . They're old enough

now to see the difference between their father's life

style and their own . . . It will affect their

relationship with their father forever! - And he

thinks he's a wonderful father! My daughter supported

this jerk the majority of the time they were married!

What is it about some men that makes them so rotten?

Hang in there Christene . . . something will break

your way (insurance covering your explant sounds like

one break) . . and things will start getting better!

Hugs,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

I can understand your anger/aggravation now.... you say your hubby is not paying a dime now to hurt you... I am not a lawyer - please keep this in mind -but after speaking w/ my hubby over what he had to go thru w/ a terrible divorce back in '97 I think he was having custody issues and child support issues so he hired the best divorce atty in Orlando.... his ex was withholding visitation for months trying to make him come back - long story.... don't know if child support is the same as spousal support but he had thought of stopping to pay her until she let him see the child and went thru mediation to help the process and his atty said "NO WAY" - never stop paying - here is what I think you owe based on the 2 incomes... if you stop paying it will look very bad to the judge and put him in a bad situation.... she told him no matter what his ex was putting him thru to keep paying her this amount and it paid off.... she ended up looking TERRIBLE in court for the visitation issue, got quite the smack on the wrist, and he looked like the hero for continuing to pay throughout.... the atty had also said that if he wasn't paying thru the whole long drug out process the judge would make him "back pay" what he had owed... not sure what the laws are in your state of course - they could vary. Not that any of this may make you feel any better but I am wondering if he is refusing to help support you now as "punishment" if he may look REALLY bad in court and you may benefit from it and also possibly get back pay??? I am not sure on that one... just an idea. Sorry for all you are dealing with - he sounds like a real butt-head.

On another note - what Rogene said about the possibility of not needing a lift.... that is always something to think about... I went thru the same issue 3 years ago at my explant.... I was freaking out that I wasn't going to have the money for a lift and would have to come back later for it.... turned out I didn't need it after all which really is a miracle in my case as I was a AA upon implanting - went to a C - breastfed and went to a DD for 9 months and had the implants in for a total of 7 years almost to the day and still look normal now with my "A's" - you would never know unless you were looking for scars on me. I was lucky - you could be lucky too!!!

I noticed by your address that you may be a marine wife? are you in NC? My brother was in the core for 5 years and got a divorce during as well..... the rules there were much different - he had to be legally separated for a year before filing.... he was already honorably discharged (served his 5 years but could not re-enlist due to a terrible leg injury) by then and living in back in FL before the divorce could be finalized....(we live near Tampa)..

Best of luck to you.... I am so sorry for what you are going thru but keep the faith! I know it hurts now but you never know what could come of it....

love

shari