NC Blowup! Need advice

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Hello all---

As some of you may know, I was contemplating going NC in 2006, but

ultimately had decided to continue my current RC.....Until today.

My brother's girlfriend called me this morning telling me that my

brother was furious with her, and that my nada had said that she and

I made fun of her and said she was " very seventies " . Now firstly,

my nada is not very seventies, or any other era...it is rather a

melange of bad taste from various decades---she has no style of her

own and copies people whenever possible. Secondly, this NEVER

HAPPENED.

I told her I would call nada to sort it out---but nada beat me to

it. She called and asked about the baby, I responded politely and

then asked her what she had said. She replied that she had casually

mentioned that we make fun of all things seventies, but not in

reference to her. I told her this offhand comment would not make my

brother fly off the handle, and I proceeded to tell her that I will

not engage in this nonsense and that I did not want my name brought

up in her concocted stories. Well! She went nuts! Accused me of

being mentally ill, saying that it is too bad I have not " gotten any

better " , and that if my baby is anything like me she will make my

life an " infernal hell " (redundant, no?), as I made hers.

She called me every name under the sun and said, " I have so much

sadness that your head can invent these lies " in this she is

referring to things I brought up that SHE said.

Anyway, I had enough and I said, " Look, I wish you all well, truly

from my heart I wish you all the best, but I only have peace in my

life when you are not in it, and I am very sorry but we cannot be in

contact. Do not call me. Goodbye. " And I hung up.

I just can't take anymore, and I was giving dh the replay and I

said, " I know I am far from perfect... " and dh replied, " but she is

far from NORMAL. " That was such a great eye opener---what a great

distinction. They are so far removed from normalcy and reality that

they just lie and distort things---I am so glad dh and many others

know the truth.

Still, it is sad....but I have shed no tears, it is time to bury my

FOO in the past, and move on with dh and dd into the future. I am

happy with this choice but still so conflicted about never getting

that sense of validation that I am the one telling the truth.

I spoke to my brother's gf and she confessed to me that they had

told her I was mentally ill and she never believed them. I think it

is perhaps the aspect of BP I hated dealing with the most---the

always trying to prove I was honest, and not crazy....going to great

lengths to prove this or that...I won't miss that.

Cheers to all of you in 2006! Thank you for being here!

Sofia