Re: Valuable website, just wanted to share

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thankyou for that....a terrific site.

:-)

[Guest guest]

ENTER THE LEMMING! I realize that this has nothing to do with being a

KO or anything, but I love your email address! It cracks me up. --or

does it have something to do with being a KO. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. ....

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> thankyou for that....a terrific site.

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> :-)

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[Guest guest]

Hi all,

The name enter_the_lemming was developed while I participated on the

WelcomeToOZ group. Back then I was having a terrible time dealing with

my BPw ( poss NP ) and she was haunting the group then attacking me

with the things I wrote. The name came from a discussion thread on WTO

at the time...I cant actually remember the details because my stress

was huge at the time, but it was about us KOs being drawn to BP

partners like lemmings to a cliff...i made a return

as " enter_the_lemming " ...and generally sign-off as Cliff.

I am pretty much a full time lurker here although I have posted before

under another psuedonym. The reason I come here alot is that my FOO is

at least as screwed as anybody elses here, my father being NP/AP,

violent, stupid, alcoholic.

Im the eldest of 4 and Im 42 now. I have 2 kids 15 and 12, and a BPw

who remains *officially* undiagnosed but is having much counselling and

is taking Zoloft too. Its been 5 months now and we've only had a

handful of trips to OZ during that time...the last one was only about 2

weeks ago. I very nearly walked....NO MORE OZ for me or for the kids.

Somehow I escaped major major PD and Im covered in fleas. I have no

denial and I have always have been ready to confront/deal with the

issues that growing up in my FOO created. I dunno how I escaped really

but I guess that it was the birth of my brother that really started to

trigger my father off...I was about 7 then and had virtually been

raised by Mum, Grandma and Grandpa with not much influence from Dad.

Imissed the worst of it I guess.

My sister is low functioning BP, Hep-C, alcohol, dope, permanent

welfare mum with a 17yo, 10yo and 7yo (who is autistic and cannot

speak). Her partner and father of the last 2 is pretty much BP too. The

17yo left home this year and is putting himself thru school.

My Brother is somewhat high functioning but rages like a demon and is

scarily dangerous. I mean dangerous like a rattle snake and with the

patience of one too. He is creating some extraordinary problems for

himself and his kids ( 13yo and 10yo )....I was present when his

daughter (13yo) broke one of the small bones in her foot whilst in a

jumping castle...I was trying to ascertain if it is broken or just

twisted...the poor girl had no capacity whatsoever to express how she

felt, if it hurt, if she thought she need to see the doctor etc. From

the look on her face her primary emotion was fear. I was very concerned

about that.

Youngest brother is 35, alcoholic, avoidant, and still scared of the

dark.

You guys are a terrific help to me and a constant reminder that I dont

have to carry around all the blame or responsiblity and that my needs,

wants and feelings dont have to be subjugated. That I can stand my

ground, say no...or yes. That I can place boundaries for my protection

and for the protection of my kids. Sometimes its very seducing to

*forget* just how PD'd they are and how easy it is to become enmeshed

in all the drama and crap that surrounds them...Youre a reminder of why

10 years ago, I imposed my own NC regime for some of my FOO.

Thankyou all.

Cliff