Re: Nada Pride

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Thanks Sofia, I appreciate the pat on the back! I sometimes find

myself in a rut where I can't quite get over the feeling that

something is wrong with me--it's related to just HAVING a nada and, of

course, growing up with that. I often feel damaged and just. .

..inadequate, I guess. I've definitely been trying to dump that

mindset, but it's just hard. . .I'm not even totally sure why it's

here yet!

And that Olympics BS that your nada did sounds absolutely infuriating.

It does remind me of my nada. For her, my academic abilities were

all important and I could never seem to do enough. She has harped on

my baby brother's sports-life FOREVER. . .so tiring. My brother could

have been really great, I think, but always seemed to give up part way

through--it seemed nada-related. And I'm kind of the same way about

my education/career: burnt out. I'm not saying I for sure would have

decided to take on more challenges had I not had a nada there to link

my personal worth with my success in school--but it really seems that

it's a big reason I need to shy away from that scene these days.

Those nadas!!!!!

Trish

>

> Hello all--

>

> During the Olympics I was reminded about how growing up I used to

> sit and watch the Olympics with my FOO and it was torturous. Nada

> would sit there and remark, " His/Her parents must be so proud. " But,

> with a tone, that implied, that unlike them, SHE had NOTHING to be

> proud about. Then she would weep as people won medals and just go

> on about what a great moment it must be for the parents! NOT the

> athletes mind you!

>

> As I got older this infuriated me more and more, because since the

> Olympics are every four years, she needed to pepper those non-

> Olympic years with similar examples of other people's parental

> pride.

>

> The last Olympics I observed to her, " Yes, they must be proud, and

> the athletes must also be proud and grateful for having parents who

> would move for them, get up at the crack of dawn to take them to

> practices far from home, go with them to competitions, etc...Not

> every parent is willing to sacrifice of themselves to watch their

> child shine! " Her reply, " Come on! Please....We took you to

> swimming lessona and you made up that story so you wouldn't have to

> go anymore! "

>

> THAT STORY, was that when I was in said lessons at 10 years old, the

> instructor molested me, and I couldn't bear to go. I still love

> swimming though! ARRRRRGGGGGH! <--(Charlie Brown style)

>

> It still irks me that she thinks that kids should just POOF! be

> amazing and brilliant and talented and gorgeous....all these things

> with no parental guidance or support!

>

> I do have one last comment though....despite all the tribulations

> that I and all of you, my wonderful fellow KOs have gone through, I

> think we have all done a remarkable job at not only tackling nada's

> but OVERCOMING on our own. I think everyone here deserves a gold

> medal or at the very least a pat on the back and a hug for our

> resilience, and perseverence!

>

>

> Big pat on the back and hugs to all---

>

> Sofia

>