Re: do you ever feel like you aren't like everyone else?

[Guest guest]

Flea, good point about the feeling alientated not really being

reality. I honestly don't think that any of my friends or colleagues

think I'm a weird-o with problems relating to people. I'm the one who

thinks that's true. There are certain things that really trigger me

to feel that way (like being around someone BP-like or otherwhise

dysfunctional) that get me feeling like there's something wrong with

me that everyone else can see. I've asked my husband about it on more

than one occasion because I was afraid people would think I was

weird--he was totally unaware of any strange/antisocial behavior on my

part every time.

It's weird how you can feel that way, and no one else would ever

know--but it's kind of reassuring too. Thanks for bringing up a very

good point that I forget A LOT.

Trish

It is actually

getting worse as I get

> older when most women I talk to says it lessens as they age.

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> Hi, !

> I hope you get some good responses on your post. I, too, have

definitely struggled with feeling " different " from others--oftentimes

feeling " alienated " or not quite fitting in. Over the years I have

concluded that (in my case) it is mostly illusory. For the most part,

people do like me, I'm about as likeable as the average person, even

if I don't always feel that way!

>

> So these days, when I have a day when I feel like I am not

" fitting in " --I realize (1) it is a temporary thing--next week or

next month I might feel differently; (2) something might be going on

in my life that is causing me to feel alienated from people (like

some of my KO issues)--and not necessarily that OTHER people are

distancing themselves from ME. I'm the one who is doing it. And once

I resolve my issue, the other people are " still there. " They never

went away.

>

> Another aspect is, I (probably like many KOs) have had some

depression at times. With mood issues--when you're in the midst of it

( this is true for me, anyway) it seems like I have " always " felt

this way. So I would have this feeling that I " always " felt like an

oddball or that I " never " fit in. And I genuinely felt that way, at

the time. I couldn't remember feeling otherwise. But sometimes (for

me, I'm not speaking for you), it was my mood talking, not reality.

>

> Also, I wanted to reassure you about the statement you made (I

snipped it above). I have heard that too, from several women.

However, the women I heard this from, were describing a turning point

that happened in their lives, maybe around menopause, or when their

kids left home--around age fifty. And you were mentioning walking

with your baby daughter, so I don't think you have hit that phase

yet! ;-) So, that might happen later on!

>

> Be well,

> Flea

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