Re: Abandoment techniques

[Guest guest]

Hi. I don't know if you got my email; I was using another name that wasn't

approved (it

had what appeared to be a full name, which is against the rules). I hope you

read my

recent post, which isn't up at the moment. It sounds like our mothers had

some... similar

body language.

I also know the silent treatment.

PapayaGal

>

> When I was little (5 or 6), she would use things like repeated

> abandonment to get her way - i.e. " You don't deserve a mother like

> me. Let's see how long you can survive without me. " Which was very

> effective for a young child. And, of course, the rages would always

> work, too.

>

> .......my nada would " park " me in a store and then go shopping. She

> always bragged about how she could sit me down and how I would not

> move " for hours on end " Good Lord, what terrible things she must

> have said to me so that I would not move for such a long period of

> time.

>

> Then when I was a little older, maybe 10 to 12, she would withdraw

> her " love " , use the silent treatment for days on end, and

> intersperse that with raging.

>

> ..........my nada is Queen of the Silent Treatment. Her rages were

> what I call the " twitch " . She would stomp, slam cabinet doors, and

> twitch when she walked. I cannot really explain the body language

> on paper, I called the mannerisms " The Twitch " .

>

> It is so comforting to know that I am not alone in this zoo of life.

> take care, mg

>

[Guest guest]

>

> ..........my nada is Queen of the Silent Treatment. Her rages were

> what I call the " twitch " . She would stomp, slam cabinet doors, and

> twitch when she walked. I cannot really explain the body language

> on paper, I called the mannerisms " The Twitch " .

Well, there you go!!!!!!! I must have not been paying attention when

I read mg's post. You really are not alone. Dee