Re: School Anxiety

[Guest guest]

, do you exercise? I remember taking up jogging in college and it really

helped me de-stress, have more energy and get my focus together. And the

endorphins are great for mild depression (I started working out again recently

and notice a huge difference in how much happier I feel.)

Also, I've never done it, but I've heard meditation is VERY helpful for

increasing focus and making you feel more calm and centered. And if there's a

yoga class near you, definitely check it out -- majorly relaxing!

Shana

School Anxiety

To: WTOAdultChildren1

> I definitely experienced a lot of anxiety/stress problems in college,

> but at the time, I didn't know that's what I was feeling. I would

> procrastinate & avoid work, I would avoid asking for help from

> professors I was afraid of because they reminded me of Fada...

> and I

> had problems socializing with classmates. (I expressed some of those

> feelings in previous posts:

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/WTOAdultChildren1/message/48842

> http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/WTOAdultChildren1/message/48840 )

>

> My main motivation throughout college was a life of my own,

> without my

> Fada. If I didn't get a good job out of college, I woulda had

> to go

> back home & live with my parents. That was not an option for

> me. You

> want a better life than your folks have & you are in charge of

> achieving that for yourself. Write down your priorities & goals &

> post them on your mirror so you face them every morning.

>

> I'm not sure what other advice I could have given to motivate myself

> thou, I know I didn't motivate myself well enough thru college,

> and it

> has been a struggle ever since as well. Perhaps there is someone

> on-campus to talk to about how you are feeling; the campus medical

> facility.

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> > Did any of you have problems managing stress during college?

> That is

> > anxiety brought on by the pressure of school, compounded a

> million

> > times by your reactive dynamic with your nada? I'm graduating

> in the

> > spring and I just went NC 16 days ago. Im going through an

> extascy of

> > almost like a rebirth, but I still suffer from anxieties and

> stress

> > that feel like her doing. I'm having trouble motivating

> myself, I

> > think I'm strugging through some depression. Any ideas on what

> to do?

> > How do I motivate myself till this depression passes? I really

> have to

> > get my came face on, these courses are tough!

> >

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[Guest guest]

Shana,

Thank you for that great idea. I broke out my running shoes, I'm

starting this weekend.

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> > > Did any of you have problems managing stress during college?

> > That is

> > > anxiety brought on by the pressure of school, compounded a

> > million

> > > times by your reactive dynamic with your nada? I'm graduating

> > in the

> > > spring and I just went NC 16 days ago. Im going through an

> > extascy of

> > > almost like a rebirth, but I still suffer from anxieties and

> > stress

> > > that feel like her doing. I'm having trouble motivating

> > myself, I

> > > think I'm strugging through some depression. Any ideas on what

> > to do?

> > > How do I motivate myself till this depression passes? I really

> > have to

> > > get my came face on, these courses are tough!

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

I have not been to school yet but I feel an urgent need to go. I

just can't have anything happen to hubby and be forced to go back to

the foo. I told dh to put enough in life insurance that God forbid

but supposing for a moment something were to happen to him that I

would be able to pay off the house, pay bills for a few years and go

to school and get a degree. He is so understanding because in no way

dose he want our children raised in that setting. So he is happy to

comply. I plan to start my education in the next 1-2 years I hope to

get a degree in psychology specializing in personality disorders. I

am going to take my time so I don't get a nervous break down. But I

would love to be called Dr lizzy and tell my parent to stick that in

their pipe and smoke it. HA. Plus I would love to help all the

K/o's. That is my real passion. I have been fortunate enough to be

able to volunteer for a non profit organization for the last 3

years doing counseling/interviewing and many of those people have

mental illness and very hard life problems. I have been able to

excel in that area. Lucky for me there is no degree required there

and they are always looking for help. The people there have grown to

love and trust me. I have been able to keep all the stress there

when I leave and I know I listen with all I have so I think I would

be pretty good at it in that aspect it is just a mater of if I would

be smart enough. But I agree with the exercise it is a great

distresses. I love a good walk, bike ride, or just being in the

garden if I am to tired. I have kids so sometimes I just race them

around the house or down the driveway or we play catch. It doesn't

have to be complicated just get up and move. This helps for sure. As

for meditation I am sure it helps. I once read If you have trouble

falling asleep write your issue on a paper before you sleep in a

prayer and put in under your pillow (obviously this works for any

religion) the point is to talk to God and get out your feelings and

trust. Anyways they say this will help you sleep. I tried it I

think I not only fell asleep better but I built my faith and trust

in God. I found this form of meditation easy and relaxing. Do what

works for you weather it is an hour a day on a yoga mat, writing in

a journal, praying in your mind or an envelope under your pillow.

But meditation in good. It prolongs life and gives the mind peace.

(at least that was what an old friend from India told me) He said it

didn't matter how you did it but everybody should have some form of

mediation, even 5 minutes a day. Good luck to all. Love Lizzy

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> > > > Did any of you have problems managing stress during college?

> > > That is

> > > > anxiety brought on by the pressure of school, compounded a

> > > million

> > > > times by your reactive dynamic with your nada? I'm

graduating

> > > in the

> > > > spring and I just went NC 16 days ago. Im going through an

> > > extascy of

> > > > almost like a rebirth, but I still suffer from anxieties and

> > > stress

> > > > that feel like her doing. I'm having trouble motivating

> > > myself, I

> > > > think I'm strugging through some depression. Any ideas on

what

> > > to do?

> > > > How do I motivate myself till this depression passes? I

really

> > > have to

> > > > get my came face on, these courses are tough!

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