Re: Learning to drive-Thanks everyone!

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Wow...what a powerful thread. Driving issues seem to have turned

out to be far more common amongst KO's than I could have imagined.

Funny that I can pinpoint where the issue comes from personally, but

never thought of it as something that other people experienced as

well. I don't feel like such a freak anymore...it's a normal

experience for those who've lived through anything but normal

circumstances. I'm lucky that I've never had a panic attack behind

the wheel...in crowded grocery stores, yes, but not behind the

wheel. I'd be willing to bet that each and every one of us

who have faced this issue are really very good drivers (as far as

the crappy messages have not infiltrated)! Charlie, I

am absolutely dependent upon mapping to get to point B. If you've

ever driven through the mad warren of San Francisco, you know that

it is one of the most nerve-wracking experiences ever...the first

time I drove to my therapist's office, I thought I'd have a poop

hemmorhage (to put it about as politely as I can without losing the

unique flavor that only such a hemmorhage can hold). I am lucky

that my life situation and the area I'm located in have forced me to

tackle my fears. Thanks everyone for your marvelous imput!

Cheers,

Sakura

>

> Dear Sakura,

>

> Thank you very much for posting this. Despite my bragging in the

post to Trish, I still

> have a lot to work out in the driving area. I also am scared to

drive in major areas--

> especially if I've never navigated them before. I mean

terrified. I am also scared to drive

> any place I've never been before, even if it's not in a busy

area. One thing that has helped

> me with this is always having a map printed out and a cell phone

with me.

>

> Notice how you said your nada never drove. Projection is such a

large part of all this! My

> nada didn't drive til her mid-adulthood, and to this day she has

never merged, nor driven

> a significant distance at night. But those are HER fears, not

mine. It helps to tell myself

> that. (And bring the map.)

>

> Knowing that this is a KO thing helps me tremendously. It helps

me to believe that what

> nada says is not 'true', but that this is a common technique among

nadas universally.

> Trish, as you shift those gears, or if you feel like giving up,

keep repeating to yourself:

> 'making me doubt my driving skills is a common technique among

nadas universally.

> making me doubt my driving skills is a common technique among

nadas universally ...'

>

> Charlie