Guest guest Posted August 20, 2008 Report Share Posted August 20, 2008 Hi Donnie and Chelle, My son, Shane, age 36, died last Oct 2007 of a massive heart attack. He was married with two beautiful children. His birthday is the 26th of this month. There is such an empty place in or hearts. Last the year the holidays were just torture and this year I am not even caring about the holidays. Thanks you for your caring words. B Subject: Re: Re: welcome brenda To: Hugs-N-Pain Date: Thursday, August 14, 2008, 9:24 PM hi branda how are you doing you are feeling like shit there is no way to diescribe how yoy feel i was lost when i lost by son i lost a part of be i stayed to my self if you ever wanted to talk i am here donnieKY Re: welcome brenda , I am SO sorry to hear about your son. If you feel like sharing, would you mind telling us what happened? You must be very down. I can't imagine losing one of my children. I hope you can find some peace from your situation. (Did I say that the way I meant it?) Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2008 Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 Hi , My heart goes out to you and your son's family during this time. Four years ago this past Feb. we lost my ex and son's Dad to suicide. I do know how you feel to lose someone so dear to a sudden death. An unexpected death of a loved one seems to be the hardest to deal with. Over time, we learn to cope, and we also have learned that would have probably liked it more if we celebrated his life instead of continue to mourn our loss. It takes some time to get to this point. So now, on his birthday, we try to do something that he would have liked to have done on his birthday and we celebrate his life as it was. It does make it a bit easier to cope. The holiday's during the first couple of years were the worst. We didn't want to even participate in Christmas or Thanksgiving. The first year, we couldn't even bring ourselves to put up a tree. However, we did put out some decorations and went through the motions. After this, is when we decided it would be much easier to celebrate his life on the holidays and all of the other times we think of him, we try to focus on the positive things while he lived and we all know, he lives on in each of our hearts. I'm quite sure that dealing with the loss of a son, at such a young age, is truly much more difficult than losing an ex husband/friend of 20 yrs. But I do hope that something we have experienced in our lives since his death might help you and your family in some small way. God bless, ~Tommie~ www.myspace.com/tommiejj PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt, something will undoubtedly go wrong. Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude. Re: welcome brenda , I am SO sorry to hear about your son. If you feel like sharing, would you mind telling us what happened? You must be very down. I can't imagine losing one of my children. I hope you can find some peace from your situation. (Did I say that the way I meant it?) Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2008 Report Share Posted August 28, 2008 Thank you Hugs, in arkansas Subject: Re: Re: welcome brenda To: Hugs-N-Pain Date: Wednesday, August 13, 2008, 5:23 PM Hi , Thank you for the welcome. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I know that is hard as I lost my mom in 1999, at the young age of 49. It was difficult, but I've since gotten over it. I will keep you in my prayers, and especially on the 26th. I know how painful it must be for you. Love, k > > > Subject: Re: welcome brenda > To: Hugs-N-Pain > Date: Tuesday, August 12, 2008, 2:02 PM > > , > I understand what you are saying. I pray silently. Not out loud. I have a > speech problem, so I don't talk very often. I hope you're doing well > today? > > > > -- welcome brenda > > Hi there,its so good of you to want to pray for me ,i think its ok if > you want to.i pray alot just short little sentenses to God every day.I > say this one special prayer for my family and every one in pain.i find > it hard to express myself but i want give up on people even if i word > things not so great sometimes.I became very sick 20 years ago and i had > to relearn how to spell and speak .Its been very hard trying to get > back maybe near where i was be fore i got sick.hope you have a low pain > level tonight and BLESS YOU. > > > ------------------------------------ > > To read these messages on the Hugs web site go to: > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Hugs-N-Pain > you can contact me privately at starlyin@... > Rose > Owner/ Moderator Hugs N Pain > God Bless our Troops > Please Pray for them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2008 Report Share Posted August 28, 2008 Thank you Chelle, My son was 36 years old, married and two children and he died of a massive heart attack in his sleep last October. Hugs, in arkansas Subject: Re: welcome brenda To: Hugs-N-Pain Date: Wednesday, August 13, 2008, 7:31 PM , I am SO sorry to hear about your son. If you feel like sharing, would you mind telling us what happened? You must be very down. I can't imagine losing one of my children. I hope you can find some peace from your situation. (Did I say that the way I meant it?) Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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