Re: Husbands

September 17, 2008

Ok, enough is enough!!! LOL I'm getting so tired of hearing all you women brag

about these wonderful husbands you have. I'm beginning to believe they are all

illusions!! ROFL!!! I've never heard this much good about the MALE sex in one

place, EVER. If we aren't careful here, you might change my perspective on men.

lol I might have to give them the time of day again. LOL

Of course I'm kidding about " enough is enough " !! I'm glad you all were so

blessed. Unfortunately I wasn't one of the blessed ones to have a husband who

would stick around " In Sickness and In Health " . That's just part of the ritual

everyone says at their wedding!! LOL My husband was great in many other ways and

I would have never traded him for anyone else and am still in love with him and

always will be. Even though he's gone, he is very much a part of my thoughts

each and every day. He was my first and only love, and I don't think I could

ever love anyone as much as I loved him. I did try once, but it just wasn't

there. Hang on to what you have and always count your blessings.

Hugs

~Tommie~

www.myspace.com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

Re:OT-a little, but still pain

Hi all. To Suz, and Tommie and Chelle (and everyone else),

Thanks for all the kind words. I am feeling better, but I have PT today. If it

hurts as much as last time, I'm going to be laughing for the rest of the day.

No, really, thanks so much. I find on here that I can vent about things that

even my family does not understand. The only person who comes close to

understanding is my husband. He's great, and some of my friends are still trying

to figure out how to clone him. He cooks because he likes it, and has the

greatest sense of humor. I'm still working with him to pick up after himself,

and most times he does. But, with all that he does, I don't mind doing it most

times. Hugs to all.

Kellie

September 18, 2008

Tommie,

I know, I know. Okay, I give. My hubby isn't perfect. LOL He watches WAY too

much football which drives me crazy. And he's a control freak, but I've learned

to live with that. He wants everything to be exactly his way or it isn't right.

And he is NEVER wrong. I can count on my five fingers the number of times he's

told me I'm right about something. My jaw usually hits the floor. LOL

But he's so supportive that I try to overlook his faults, since God knows he

overlooks mine, which are many. I think we are all lucky to find that one true

love in a lifetime. Sometimes we are lucky enough to have more than one, but I

will be very content to stay with just one for the rest of my life (hopefully).

I've always told him that he has to go last because I can't live without him.

I met when I was 17 at freshman orientation for college and it was love

at first sight. Of course it took us six years, another marriage (his), and

another child (his) before we finally got things right and got married. But it

was always him, even when I got engaged to another man while we were apart. I

could never have walked down the aisle with that other guy. I just wouldn't

have made it. You have to marry the one you truly love or it will just never

work.

I'm glad you have some good memories of your ex-husband to remember. That has

to be some comfort when times get rough. I tear up even thinking about losing

, so I can't imagine how hard this has been for you. I'm sure you miss

every single day.

Chelle

September 18, 2008

Chelle,

Yes, I do miss every single day. So do our boys. my oldest looks so

much like him it is eerie sometimes. His laugh is even just like 's, his

mannerisms too. So it's almost like still having here in a way.

was an awesome man, he just couldn't handle illness. Somehow I believe if

we were still together at that time, he would still be here. I knew how to

handle him. I will always regret not allowing him to come back when he called

begging me to let him a wk and a half after he left. If one of my sisters hadn't

have been there steering me to the NO decision, I would have broke and allowed

it. I can kick myself over and over again for that, but that won't bring him

back. We got together when I was a mere 13, he was 17. At the age of 14, I knew

I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and I sure tried. We spent more

than 1/2 of my life together. We did remain very good friends after the divorce.

It took him about a year to get over the anger from it. But then things were

always good after that. When he was single, he would always come spend

Thanksgiving and Christmas with the boys and I? I have lots of memories of him

in my life and no one can ever take those away from me. Not the mention all of

the pictures and everything I have. And most importantly, I have our sons.