Re: (unknown)

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 11/11/2001 10:35:25 AM Eastern Standard Time,

banesbaby1@... writes:

> Well folks, it's ofical. My life cannot get any worse.

>

> I have just been served an eviction notice by my landlord. I have

> until the 26th of November to pay $1350 (two months rent) or they're

> going to start eviction proceedings. So, I am now faced with starting

> the house hunting process and hoping for a break, because I do not

> have to money to pay the move in fees on a house anywhere.

> Why does this stuff keep happening to me? All I want to do is break

> even, and raise my kids. I don't want to be rich, I don't want to

> live in a mansion, I just wanna feed my kids and get by. Is that so

> much to ask? I just can't win. No matter what I do, I can't win.

>

> Sorry to dump on you all, but I had to get some of this out of my

> system.

>

> , who is going to go cry now.

>

>

>

I'm so sorry ....I know that doesn't help much...I, for one just can't

understand how the state of Fl. can allow this....

A shame in a country that can fee millions elsewhere but won't help their own.

Ron

[Guest guest]

kelly,

is it at all possible for you to move out of state. i mean, i'm not positive,

but i think lisa in ohio was completely serious. i would say i was too, and i

actually am, but i don't know if it's allowed with the different benefits i am

getting. however, if you want me to find out for sure, i will.

thinking of you.

love gina

" Isn't it wonderful how each of us on this earth was created just a little bit

different? " - Linus

" I gave up trying to understand people long ago. Now I just let them try to

understand me. " - Snoopy

[Guest guest]

I'm not sure, most of the problem would be getting to wherever I'd be

moving to, and then the related Dr. problems. There is also my BF.

We're supposed to be getting married sometime in the next two years,

but he won't even stand up to his familiy and tell the that my kids

are coming to familiy events as well. IE, I am welcome for

Thanksgiving, but my kids are not. I love him, andhe's a good man,

and I don't wanna lose him, but I don't know if he's willing now or

will ever be willing to put the commitment and time into this

relationship that it needs. Familiy is very important to him, he's

Greek/Italian, and Iunderstand and appreciate that, but he isn't

willing ot make the normal concessions necessary to bringing in

stepchildren. I don't think his familiy will really mind my kids, I

thinkit's more him. I know an insta-familiy marriage is a big step,

but we've been together for a lil over a year now, and I guess I

expected a little more from him, ya know? I gues I'm just not really

sure what to do now.

[Guest guest]

kelly,

i don't mean to be condescending or whatever, but i think you need to look at

this relationship with your boyfriend a little more closely. you say he's family

oriented, yet he doesn't consider your kids his family. you say he's a good man,

yet he isn't willing to support you the way you need. you say you're supposed to

be getting married " sometime in the next two years " ? what kind of positive

commitment is that?!

i've been in these relationships before. far too many times. when i was 18, i

was living with a man who had two young kids. i stayed home and took care of

those kids for 1 1/2 years while he was out working, yet i wasn't a part of his

" family " . i suppose you can guess how that one ended.

kelly, i know you love him, but you need to know he loves you. you need to know

he's going to be there for you when you need him, for now and for always. but

sadly i get the feeling that you don't really know any of that. it's hard to get

involved with someone when one of you already has kids. yes, the insta family

thing is tricky, but he knew from the beginning that you had kids and he should

have prepared himself for what that would involve. after a year together i would

have hoped he'd accepted it MUCH more than he has.

anyway, i'm not telling you to break up with him, but i am telling you that you

need to do what is good for you AND your kids. if being with this man isn't the

best choice you have, then i would go with what is. i wish you all the luck in

the world.

love gina

" Isn't it wonderful how each of us on this earth was created just a little bit

different? " - Linus

" I gave up trying to understand people long ago. Now I just let them try to

understand me. " - Snoopy

[Guest guest]

> I'm not sure, most of the problem would be getting to wherever I'd

be

> moving to,

I'm thinking that somehow with this group we could overcome that

issue.

> and then the related Dr. problems.

That's also something that can be overcome.

There is also my BF.

> We're supposed to be getting married sometime in the next two

years,

> but he won't even stand up to his familiy and tell the that my kids

> are coming to familiy events as well. IE, I am welcome for

> Thanksgiving, but my kids are not. I love him, andhe's a good man,

> and I don't wanna lose him, but I don't know if he's willing now or

> will ever be willing to put the commitment and time into this

> relationship that it needs. Familiy is very important to him, he's

> Greek/Italian, and Iunderstand and appreciate that, but he isn't

> willing ot make the normal concessions necessary to bringing in

> stepchildren. I don't think his familiy will really mind my kids, I

> thinkit's more him. I know an insta-familiy marriage is a big step,

> but we've been together for a lil over a year now, and I guess I

> expected a little more from him, ya know? I gues I'm just not

really

> sure what to do now.

Okay, sweetie, this is a toughie, but my grand daddy would say, " The

boy needs to piss or get off the pot. " If he is not mature enough to

love you selflessly then he is not mature enough to be your husband.

He may decide that you and the kids are what he wants in life, or he

may not, but you yourself cannot wait on him forever. You have to

take care of the kids and yourself now. Florida has a lousy record

compared to other states for aid and education. You have two solid

offers that IMO are worth considering. Love ya.

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry . It seems like all the crap falls down on people at once. And

that really sucks. Like our lives aren't stressful enough as it is? If I hear

the " God gives you what you can handle " thing one more time I'll scream.

Fortunately there is always an upside that comes after the downside & I hope

it comes soon for you.

Tracey

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 11/11/2001 10:58:29 AM Central Standard Time,

banesbaby1@... writes:

> I don't know if he's willing now or

> will ever be willing to put the commitment and time into this

> relationship that it needs.

,

I don't want to offend you but I have to say that he doesn't sound like

someone that is ready for a commitment as huge as children. I think in your

situation you should really consider the other offers. You are an adult &

have the choice of who you marry but your kids are stuck with your choice no

matter what. If he won't even acknowledge them to his family then that can't

be the right or fair choice to your children. I think it sucks that you are

in a situation where your future is so uncertain & I hope you get a break

soon because you sound like a really good person. I can't help thinking that

maybe moving (especially moving in with someone who knows autism as well as

you) could be a good starting over place for you. If your completely against

moving does Florida have some kind of housing program? Or even temporary

housing until you can find somewhere permanent? In Oregon we have special

funding for disabled people for things like therapy equipment, fences,

alarms... I was told they could also pay for the costs of moving (first, last

etc..). The program is called Self Determination here. You would need to

contact a case worker through either Adult/ Family Services or your cities

Mental Health clinic. I'm not sure if there is anything like that there but

it's worth a try.

Tracey

mom to

4

Brynn 7mos

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 11/11/2001 10:23:34 PM Central Standard Time,

vhunnius@... writes:

> My reply to that, and the " god chooses the right parents for special needs

> children " , my stock answer is, " Well then, somebody on his staff is gonna

> get fired, because they DEFINITELY put my file in the wrong box! "

>

> Somehow, noone has answer for this. :-P

>

> Jacquie

LOL... Somehow I'm not surprised they have no answer. I think they expect us

to get all teary eyed when they tell us that & grateful that God thinks were

strong enough. I'm grateful for my child but not for the autism. I like your

answer to their stupid unviversal quote.

Tracey

mom to

4

Brynn 7mos

[Guest guest]

, I asked this before, but don't think you answered.

Is there a reason you have to be in FL?

I AM sorry that you are having such horrible things thrown at you while

you're down. But you know what - that state has done JACK for you as a

resident.

And if you're losing your place - - - it might be due time you pick up and

wish it good riddance. Start anew, you know?

Or maybe that is the philosophy of the OLD ME peeking out again. So I will

add that I don't know how WISE this advice is, but it SEEMS logical and

quite sensible to me. If this state is doing nothing for me, while others

in other states are OBVIOUSLY getting more help - - -then SCREW FLORIDA.

Grace

(unknown)

> Well folks, it's ofical. My life cannot get any worse.

>

> I have just been served an eviction notice by my landlord. I have

> until the 26th of November to pay $1350 (two months rent) or they're

> going to start eviction proceedings. So, I am now faced with starting

> the house hunting process and hoping for a break, because I do not

> have to money to pay the move in fees on a house anywhere.

> Why does this stuff keep happening to me? All I want to do is break

> even, and raise my kids. I don't want to be rich, I don't want to

> live in a mansion, I just wanna feed my kids and get by. Is that so

> much to ask? I just can't win. No matter what I do, I can't win.

>

> Sorry to dump on you all, but I had to get some of this out of my

> system.

>

> , who is going to go cry now.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

.

" Sometime in the next two years " when you have only been together for one

year is CRAP. BULLSH*T. HOGWASH.

First off - a true BF, or a man who truly loves you, would not let you go

through this without helping. If he just can't help financially, that is

fine. But then at least help by not adding onto my problems by making me

leave my children out of things.. or making me face such a choice.

Family might be important to him, - - but listen to what he's saying

and showing you - - he means HIS FAMILY. Not yours. Not now, not ever.

Doctors are everywhere, and the one you have right now can't be SO great

that you must stay in that state. Where is YOUR family?

I don't mean to be so brutal in the way I put things, but really - - - with

the way things are right now, I don't feel like I have time to be vague

either!

Grace

Re: (unknown)

> I'm not sure, most of the problem would be getting to wherever I'd be

> moving to, and then the related Dr. problems. There is also my BF.

> We're supposed to be getting married sometime in the next two years,

> but he won't even stand up to his familiy and tell the that my kids

> are coming to familiy events as well. IE, I am welcome for

> Thanksgiving, but my kids are not. I love him, andhe's a good man,

> and I don't wanna lose him, but I don't know if he's willing now or

> will ever be willing to put the commitment and time into this

> relationship that it needs. Familiy is very important to him, he's

> Greek/Italian, and Iunderstand and appreciate that, but he isn't

> willing ot make the normal concessions necessary to bringing in

> stepchildren. I don't think his familiy will really mind my kids, I

> thinkit's more him. I know an insta-familiy marriage is a big step,

> but we've been together for a lil over a year now, and I guess I

> expected a little more from him, ya know? I gues I'm just not really

> sure what to do now.

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

>If I hear

> the " God gives you what you can handle " thing one more time I'll scream.

Tracey:

My reply to that, and the " god chooses the right parents for special needs

children " , my stock answer is, " Well then, somebody on his staff is gonna get

fired, because they DEFINITELY put my file in the wrong box! "

Somehow, noone has answer for this. :-P

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> I'm sorry . It seems like all the crap falls down on people at once.

And

> that really sucks. Like our lives aren't stressful enough as it is? If I

hear

> the " God gives you what you can handle " thing one more time I'll scream.

Well............ it IS true.

I mean, we're all alive, we've all made it, so it didn't kill us off.

But I hate that too. While it's meant to be comforting, they have no idea

how condescending that is. I have made it a point to ask, " SO what did YOU

get then? "

Grace

[Guest guest]

> My reply to that, and the " god chooses the right parents for special needs

children " , my stock answer is, " Well then, somebody on his staff is gonna

get fired, because they DEFINITELY put my file in the wrong box! "

>

> Somehow, noone has answer for this. :-P

Well then yours must be a better answer, because I've actually had several

people ANSWER me! LOL

Grace

[Guest guest]

> I mean, we're all alive, we've all made it, so it didn't kill us off.

> But I hate that too. While it's meant to be comforting, they have no idea

> how condescending that is. I have made it a point to ask, " SO what did

YOU

> get then? "

Just say, " Apparently God didn't have much faith in YOU! "

Salli

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 11/14/2001 8:47:11 PM Eastern Standard Time,

aaron@... writes:

> Been There Done That...

>

>

>

Oh...and I thought it was some kind of secret woman thing I was going to get

to learn...

Ron

[Guest guest]

> > Been There Done That...

> >

>

> Oh...and I thought it was some kind of secret woman thing I was going to

get

> to learn...

Don't feel left out, Ron. I'm sure all your exes say it about you.

Sissi

Mom to:

Amber 17 Dillon 10 Boone 4

Scoliosis HSP Autistic

http://home.isoa.net/~nitetrax/dillon.htm

" If it doesn't spin, it's obviously broken. "

Boone (translated)

[Guest guest]

LOL Rita, you have fun spoiling that boy! And have a safe trip. We'll see you

when you get back and thank you for letting us know you'll be away for a few

days.

Hugs

~Tommie~

www.myspace.com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

(unknown)

Hey everyone,

I am going to be visiting my brother in Dallas for a couple of days so I won't

be in here.

I didn't want anyone to get worried because no one had heard from me. I get to

go spoil my new nephew and I plan to do it up right. He will be so rotten by the

time I'm through with him that his parents may just send him home with me!

LIVE AND LET LIVE

RITA

[Guest guest]

hi rita how are you doing what kind of pain do you have i have rsd for 7 years

now 7 years of pure hell my wife thanks there is nothing rong with me calls me a

drug addic my familey thanks i am fakeing most of my freands i had to run off

because i would not give them my drugs i am all alone i wish i had 1 freand my

wife was only had sex with me 2 times in 1 year that was last week only because

i bitched the werse sex i ever had she only had sex bcause i bitched she just

layed there i just quit she was nt puting nothing into it i am all alone i am so

lonely that is the in side now here is the out side me and my wife have a nice

28 arcer farm 4 horses checkens 3 dogs 17 ncats i have a2001 silverrodo truck

a2001fordf150 one of a kind show truck a 1965 ford custom car a 1983super sport

montycarlo 2 4wheelers a fishing boat 10.000 dollers worth of tools all kinds of

mersonal goodys evenwith rsd i rebelt houses for a liveing i made good money i

new i was

going to have to quit working and go on SSD so i stocked up on personal

belonging because when i whent on SSD i would be set one thing i did not count

on was my wife not standing behind me i love fer with all my hart i would give

her give her everthing that is how much i love her i would with out love this

shit means nothing i would give it all fore rocance that mean more than

enythan         

i would give all of this um for 1onist womamiwould give it to 1 onise women so

lets make each ofer pappy mo nape is donnieKY

(unknown)

Hey everyone,

 

I am going to be visiting my brother in Dallas for a couple of days so I won't

be in here.

I didn't want anyone to get worried because no one had heard from me. I get to

go spoil my new nephew and I plan to do it up right. He will be so rotten by the

time I'm through with him that his parents may just send him home with me!

LIVE AND LET LIVE

RITA 

 

[Guest guest]

We're still around. Just doing that weekend thing.

Rod Tx.

Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

[Guest guest]

Yep I'm still alive. I took a nap at 7:30 last night and never got back up till

6:30 this morning. I needed the sleep. I'm still tired. lol There has been so

much going on in my life the past couple of weeks and lots of emotional stuff

and stress. I need more sleep and will get more today. lol

How are you?

~Tommie~

www.myspace.com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

(unknown)

hi everbody were you all at no emails to day tommie you still alive and

lotacats were you at i hope you all doing good donnieKY

[Guest guest]

hi tommie i know what you are talking about this last month my life has ben hell

donnie

Subject: Re: (unknown)

To: Hugs-N-Pain

Date: Sunday, October 26, 2008, 2:22 PM

Yep I'm still alive. I took a nap at 7:30 last night and never got back up till

6:30 this morning. I needed the sleep. I'm still tired. lol There has been so

much going on in my life the past couple of weeks and lots of emotional stuff

and stress. I need more sleep and will get more today. lol

How are you?

~Tommie~

www.myspace. com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

(unknown)

hi everbody were you all at no emails to day tommie you still alive and lotacats

were you at i hope you all doing good donnieKY

[Guest guest]

Donnie, I'm praying the storms calm soon in your life. I bet you are very tired

too. I hope you can get some rest that you need and take care of yourself.

Stress will sure make our illnesses much worse and much harder to deal with.

Take some quiet time for you.

~Tommie~

www.myspace.com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

(unknown)

hi everbody were you all at no emails to day tommie you still alive and

lotacats were you at i hope you all doing good donnieKY

[Guest guest]

hi tommie thanks cant get werse so thay have to get better i am haveing an mri

on my left knee next tuseday and that is my good leg it is my werst rite now i

am flat on my wack sence last friday cant hardly move at all donnieKY

From: Tommie <tommie_jones@ cox.net>

Subject: Re: (unknown)

To: Hugs-N-Pain@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, October 26, 2008, 2:22 PM

Yep I'm still alive. I took a nap at 7:30 last night and never got back up till

6:30 this morning. I needed the sleep. I'm still tired. lol There has been so

much going on in my life the past couple of weeks and lots of emotional stuff

and stress. I need more sleep and will get more today. lol

How are you?

~Tommie~

www.myspace. com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

(unknown)

hi everbody were you all at no emails to day tommie you still alive and lotacats

were you at i hope you all doing good donnieKY

[Guest guest]

Hi Donnie,

So sorry to hear about your knee. I hope the MRI will show them the problem and

then hopefully they can fix it once and for all!

~Tommie~

www.myspace.com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

(unknown)

hi everbody were you all at no emails to day tommie you still alive and

lotacats were you at i hope you all doing good donnieKY

[Guest guest]

hi tommie i put one of my knee brases on to day and it did ok if it keeps doing

better i am not going to go get the mri i had a good day untill my wife sead i

could have a devores but i could not sell 7 acrers of land to buy me a house i

was giveing her 21 acrers of land she is nuts she wants it all i donot get

nothing the way she sees it she blew it now i am takeing my 7 acrers premarital

and 1/2 the 21 acrers now we will see how she likes that i am takeing everthing

i can i am selling the 7 acrers and let the atternys fite it out i went to a

anteake car authion today and got me a 74 dodge dart demam a nice street rod to

play in and go to the car shows and rod runs i have allways wanted to do it now

i am that will piss her off i hope everbody is haveing less pain this is the

first time i have stayed home in 4 days my brothers girlfreand is moveing in

with hem i lost my place close to home to stay monday i thank i am going to a

city and rent me a hotel

room for a month or untill i sell a pease of land i am up a creek with out a

paddle i amnot doing no argueing and my pain level going throw the roof my crept

for my oxys come in the mail and she didnot tell me i found it on the couch i

wish i could get out of this mess if we didnot own the farm i would hit the road

donnieKY

From: Tommie <tommie_jones@ cox.net>

Subject: Re: (unknown)

To: Hugs-N-Pain@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, October 26, 2008, 2:22 PM

Yep I'm still alive. I took a nap at 7:30 last night and never got back up till

6:30 this morning. I needed the sleep. I'm still tired. lol There has been so

much going on in my life the past couple of weeks and lots of emotional stuff

and stress. I need more sleep and will get more today. lol

How are you?

~Tommie~

www.myspace. com/tommiejj

PH, CFS, FMS, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Restless Leg Syndrome

Don't waste energy second-guessing what you're missing or

what can go awry. If you put enough energy into doubt,

something will undoubtedly go wrong.

Instead, focus on the positive possibilities with a hopeful attitude.

(unknown)

hi everbody were you all at no emails to day tommie you still alive and lotacats

were you at i hope you all doing good donnieKY