A Rant

[Guest guest]

Hi,

Please feel free to delete this as I just need a probably selfish rant!

Basically, I'm starting a distant learning course in October with the Open

University (mainly just to keep my brain working especially when I cant get

around much). The OU have been very accommodating towards me and have

arranged for me to have an assessment at the regional access centre about

support they could offer me (think they mainly deal with specialist

equipment and help towards the cost of taxis fairs that I would have to pay

more of as a student with a disability than one without.. Hoping that makes

sense)

I was meant to have an appointment to go and see them on Monday and as I am

unable to get there on my own at the moment, my friend said she would take

me otherwise they did not have another appointment for me till after my

course has started in October.

Basically, my friend has now let me down, and I have no way on getting there

on Monday which means I'm going to have to wait till after my course has

started (and just before my first op probably) to have an assessment. My

friend now has other plans for Monday, and I'm probably being really selfish

but I was relying on her. She has no idea I'm this upset about it as I don't

want her to feel bad lol, but I have gone out of my way so many times to

help her.

Anyway Ima zip it now, and thanks for reading if you got this far

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

,

Please feel free to rant anytime.

I have found that I tend to give much more to my friends than I get back. It

seems like everyone is so wrapped up in their own lives, and they never think

about things that would be so helpful to people who are disabled, even when they

are good friends.

My " best " friend next door, who has six children, is the exact same way as your

friend. I try to remember that she's really, really busy with her kids (she

homeschools and her youngest is 6 months old) but it's hard when I know she

knows I'm sick and she doesn't at least call to say hi, how are you feeling?

I've done a LOT for her and her family because I really love them, but it's hard

to keep giving and giving and not get something back. I'll call and leave her

messages and then its days before she calls me back, or I have to keep calling

her.

When I was so sick last year with my stomach, I couldn't even get my own mother

to help me out. It seems like people just don't want to be bothered. I really

needed someone to help me with the house and the kids and my doctor's

appointments and neither one of my parents would make time to help me. I hope

I'm never like that with my kids. I'd like them to think they could depend on

me if they needed me.

I'm so sorry your friend backed out on you. I never know if it's better to tell

them we're upset or not, so I can't give you any good advice. I wish I was

there and could help you out.

Chelle