Re: From whinging to The Work, but in vain/Pandy to Andy

[Guest guest]

I am saying that people who organize an event with BK,

and

> charge a small fortune for registration, should not be rude. Is it

> true? Isn't it?

>

> -----So these people are in a special " class " ? Can you see that

this

> is a belief and that reality simply does not conform to that

belief?

> Can you see that what is happening is that there is a preference

for a

> certain type of behavior (totally normal preferences are)?

> Perferences are never a problem. When they morph into needs (or

> demands), then one becomes confined to a very limited set of

> circumstances that will produce peace. There is no freedom in that.

>

> -----Look. Rudeness (or what we experience as rudeness) happens.

You

> can't control it (i.e., how others behave). You can't even control

> your reaction to it (i.e., how you experience their being rude, the

> emotions that bubble up in response to others' behavior). So what

can

> you do? Watch. Pay attention. If you can, see if you are able to

> identify the underlying beliefs that generate the thoughts which

> provoke the uncomfortable emotions.

Now that some time has passed, I can see that it is all in

perspective. And I am ready to take this advice on board. As it

came as a bit of a surprise, the support I received here made it all

better. However... After that telephone conversation I was so put

off and hurt, that I thought I can't go back to him (it's like I am

accepting his rudeness to me as a perfectly natural thing). He also

informed me that if I do want to participate, I'd better do it this

week, or there won't be any vacancies left, and I just couldn't see

myself dealing with him again. And there is another thing. I don't

put him in a different 'class', but does The Work deny certain code

of behaviour, particularly in people in the 'caring profession'. If

I'd been all sorted in the first place, I wouldn't have needed to

attend this event all that much, and that stuffy superiority is a

very unkind response to anybody trying to make inquiries about the

seminar. And now I might have missed the opportunity, but it would

have been really expensive anyway.>

>

> I haven't been able to move on from that point and spent a few hours

> over this, and I feel angry, frustrated, anxious, uncomprehending,

> threatened, helpless, and so many more things, and I can't go on

with

> the Inquiry . Help?

>

> -----The anger, frustration and related emotions are arising

because

> your worldview, how you wish the world to be, is not conforming to

how

> the world is (how you experience it). So how does one go on in

such

> an instance? Can one change the world, others' behavior? Can one

> even change one's behavior?

Ask me another one

Thank you for your reply.