Guest guest Posted June 16, 2006 Report Share Posted June 16, 2006 Hi again Helen. Now that I found your post, it seems perfect as it is without that correction you sent separately. I'll try to write my comments after yours, as they are coming up. > > > Hi Pandy > We have expectations of people and when they don't 'live' up to them we are angry, disappointed etc. We tell ourselves they are not exhibiting normal behaviour. > I'm sure if I'd had the conversation you had I would initially have been pissed off. But it would have been my expectation that I would be talking to a loving human being, soaked in the Work, with a beatific smile and only endless time and patience. Well, no, I can't say that I had that kind of expectation at all. That's why I kept my questions brief. What I would have got was a human being, probably doing a full time job, plus organising a big event (usually unpaid), maybe tired and hungry, maybe just got off the phone for the umpteenth time and maybe even had a row with his girlfriend. Sounds a bit old for a girlfriend... That's human spiteful me talking . > Question one is where we confront our relationship with reality/ He should have been ? He wasn't. He should have been exactly as he was because that's the reality of the situation. The rest is just our thoughts and beliefs. I keep reminding myself of that, and it is good to be reminded, too. > > You don't need to get hung up on the first two questions - even if you answer yes in your heart to both, just carry on to the other questions and see what comes up. When I look at my belief that People shouldn't eat meat - I can't find a genuine yes to that, but by doing the rest of the Work I realised that I could allow people their own beliefs without raging about them in my mind all the time. > > And I'm sorry you didn't have a good reaction to your enquiry about the Work - you could always do a full work sheet on the guy and then ask him if he would like to see it? And you might be amazed about what you find out about yourself and the times when you maybe aren't as helpful as you might be! I have been in a similar (kind of) position, where I was answering endless questions. I made sure not to offend or brush them off with 'I've been doing it for hours already, why don't you read an encyclopaedia/go to school/church etc.', probably mainly because that was expected of me and not because I am such a nice person (well, that too). > > With love > Helen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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