High school

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Hi group! I am hoping for some input or experience. My son is a sophomore and

has had a very difficult two years. I have a meeting with the district head of

special Ed and vice principal this week to discuss issues. We have had a

multitude of problems but one is that he has inadequate inclusion support. The

person he has scares him. He cannot interpret her abrasive demeanor as anything

but personal attack. It has been a nightmare all year until it is now at the

point that she just barely interacts with my son to avoid confrontations. I have

had many meetings over this since this woman is his main support person

especially in the subjects he struggles greatly in. The special Ed director at

the school believes my son should learn to adjust to her even though he has no

idea how to interpret social interaction (obviously) and would need his aide to

help him do that. Many battles over this. Am I crazy to think that it is not his

responsibility to first " figure out " his inclusion support before he can even

get help?. The teachers in these classes both feel that my son's perspective of

this aide is accurate. She does not intentionally come across has abrasive but

they agree she is. Very difficult for someone on the spectrum. He hates school,

has poor grades and at my last meeting the school spec Ed director eluded to the

fact that he may have this woman again next year.

My questions for the group are: am I crazy to think this is awful, what

accommodations/support do other high schoolers have to be successful and are

there any flourishing high schoolers on the spectrum out there? The social

arena is a nightmare too

Thanks