Guest guest Posted October 24, 2006 Report Share Posted October 24, 2006 hi T, yes, of course i have hated people before. i'm sure i hate someone now, i just can't think of anyone ; ). clearly i see that trying to control or change the way my brother looks/feels at things is stressful...yet it's kind of automatic for me (to want to. not to actually try to). i'm trying to " protect " him from his own anger. hopeless? can i stop? can i love it? i don't know...we'll see. love, J In a message dated 10/24/2006 11:14:46 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, tamar_fa@... writes: , Have you ever hated someone in your life? Yes? No? And when you where hating (assume you have, after all you are human, right?) Could you not hate, at that moment? We all hate, sometimes And love sometimes Right? So, he should hate less that how much he does? J, welcome back T -- my brother shouldn't hate. 1. it's not true that he shouldn't. apparently he does. that's the reality. 2. i can't know that he shouldn't hate. i just wish he didn't. 3. i don't want to be around him. i want to 'correct' him by showing how i don't hate *whoever or whatever* he's hating. i try to get him to stop blaming everyone around him for his unhappiness. get him to let go of all the grudges he holds. i also tiptoe around him so as not to upset or ignite his anger. 4. at the very least i could just listen to him w/out wanting to interrupt and 'set him straight' every two seconds. i don't see how i could ever " love " it though. TA's my brother should hate. maybe so. he is full of it, after all. maybe it's his job to hate, hate, hate and blame, blame, blame. i shouldn't hate. i shouldn't hate his hate. i should love his hate. hm. this feels like making myself wrong, and is not comfortable. i should love. i should love him as he is. yes, this would be more peaceful. i have a serious question... is there anyone here who had a very hard time getting the work, to find that it was helpful to them later on? i keep coming back to it, but it always feels like a disappointment to me. a lot of the time i actually feel worse afterward, which makes me feel scared to look into other painful thoughts. i don't think that's how it's supposed to be. is anyone willing to help me with this? it's really upsetting to me to see this helps so many people see that life is actually good, but not me. maybe i should do a work on my anger at the work. thanks, jeremy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2006 Report Share Posted October 25, 2006 Dear , Don't you hate it, when that happens? ;-) Being aware of what you are doing is the first step. And it's a movement out of automization. Next time you realize that thought comes up, you may react different to how you have reacted in the past. You seem to react different already, don't you think? Love, Am 24.10.2006 um 22:13 schrieb jmknapp74@...: > > hi T, > > yes, of course i have hated people before. i'm sure i hate > someone now, i > just can't think of anyone ; ). > clearly i see that trying to control or change the way my brother > looks/feels at things is stressful...yet it's kind of automatic for > me (to want to. > not to actually try to). i'm trying to " protect " him from his own > anger. > hopeless? can i stop? can i love it? i don't know...we'll see. > > love, > J > > In a message dated 10/24/2006 11:14:46 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, > tamar_fa@... writes: > > > > > , > > Have you ever hated someone in your life? > > Yes? No? > > And when you where hating > (assume you have, after all you are human, right?) > Could you not hate, at that moment? > > We all hate, sometimes > And love sometimes > > Right? > > So, he should hate less that how much he does? > > J, welcome back > > T > > -- > > my brother shouldn't hate. > > 1. it's not true that he shouldn't. apparently he does. that's the > reality. > > 2. i can't know that he shouldn't hate. i just wish he didn't. > > 3. i don't want to be around him. i want to 'correct' him by > showing how i > don't hate *whoever or whatever* he's hating. i try to get him to > stop > blaming everyone around him for his unhappiness. get him to let go > of all > the > grudges he holds. i also tiptoe around him so as not to upset or > ignite his > anger. > > 4. at the very least i could just listen to him w/out wanting to > interrupt > and 'set him straight' every two seconds. i don't see how i could > ever > " love " it though. > > TA's > > my brother should hate. maybe so. he is full of it, after all. > maybe it's > his job to hate, hate, hate and blame, blame, blame. > > i shouldn't hate. i shouldn't hate his hate. i should love his > hate. hm. > this feels like making myself wrong, and is not comfortable. > > i should love. i should love him as he is. yes, this would be more > peaceful. > > > i have a serious question... > is there anyone here who had a very hard time getting the work, to > find that > > it was helpful to them later on? i keep coming back to it, but it > always > feels like a disappointment to me. a lot of the time i actually > feel worse > afterward, which makes me feel scared to look into other painful > thoughts. i > > don't think that's how it's supposed to be. is anyone willing to > help me > with > this? it's really upsetting to me to see this helps so many people > see that > life is actually good, but not me. maybe i should do a work on my > anger at > the work. > > thanks, > jeremy > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2006 Report Share Posted October 26, 2006 says that when I walk into a room I already know that everyone in there loves me. I just don't expect them to know it yet. I've noticed that I can turn that one around. When I walk into a room, I already know that I love everyone in there. I just don't expect me to realize it yet. I hate you actually means, I love you so much, how could you hurt me like this. Carson Boyd Email Visit on the web <http://www.1being.com/> Visit <http://www.1being.com/sMusicPages.htm> 's Online Demo-Kit with sample music files, song lists, etc. Look up on My Space <http://www.myspace.com/frankcarsonboyd> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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