Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 I didn't sleep at all Thursday night, and was a absolute wreck when i arrived at school. the day only got worse, and so I was home by 3 and crawled into my own comfy waterbed at my house and slept until 7. I went over to Millie's and she was still alive, so we ate a small meal and bout were in bed before 8. Slept until 10:00 after a brief breakfast a 6:00 and then Millie's son came over to stay and I went home and slept until 3. Emma, I find it amazing you haven't lost it more before this. What was the natioanl lampoon movie where the grandma died and they tied her on top of the car? No direspect intended, to those of you who do not appriciate our humor, but Emma, imagine grandma on top of the stationwagon. You have not done that to her, so I figure you are still a wonderful person. Remember back the day you had pancakes and you just told her she was having a bath after breakfast, and she didn't argue? What drugs were in those pancakes, and can you try that again? Millie's bruise from falling in the tub is still a faint yellow. I haven'dt told her sons what happened, b;ut they haven't asked. I told Jim right away, but he figures his brothers won't complain because they don't want to have more days with her. How about telling your own mom that grandma keep saying she will only take a bath from her own daughter? then when gram unloads on your clueless mother, she'll get just a glimpse of what you deal with? I think they should make drive-thru people washes. Load the lo on the seat, strap them in and let the brushes and soaping begin. there could be a mask for the face, so they could breathe, but after they are all done the blowers dry them off, lift them to a standing position, and then you dress them and drive them home! what do you think? We could be rich! Hope this posts! Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 In a message dated 1/12/2008 3:44:18 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, adhd5464@... writes: I think they should make drive-thru people washes. Load the lo on the seat, strap them in and let the brushes and soaping begin. there could be a mask for the face, so they could breathe, but after they are all done the blowers dry them off, lift them to a standing position, and then you dress them and drive them home! what do you think? We could be rich! Carol, this too funny. lol Jayn in S GA **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape. http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Hi Emma. I'm sorry to hear how your grandmother is going down hill. I know how hard it must be on you. Watching a close LO deteriorate is horrible and so is this disease. My mom has been going down hill for over a year now. She only weighs about 60 lbs. and doesn't eat but about 6 or 7 spoons of mushed food. She has bed sores and is out of it. I really know what you mean when you ask; How long? Every time we think this is it, she bounces back and fools us. I hate to say this but, it could be weeks, or months, or maybe years. I'm sorry but that is the way this works. Everyone is different and any way you slice it, it's up to God to take them when he's ready. The only thing we can do is ask for His strength and ask what is the lesson in this. It's the pitts for you and for her! I don't know where you live, I'm in California and there is a group called " VITAS " It is so much better than the hospice my mom had 3years ago. I think they are only here though. God Be With You, Lynn S. --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Lynn, Thank you for your thoughts and well wishes. We are in Michigan and besides Hospice I don't know of any other groups here. Also grandma was a Hospice volunteer for years and years so the one we will be getting in touch with is the one she used to work for. There are some people there that still remember her and I know they will be happy to help her after all she did for them. She was volunteer of the month a few times I believe! ;-) You're right that there just is no real way to know. Sometimes I look at her and think it must be a matter of days and other times it seems she could go a few more months. Its exasperating. But I am trying to have faith that as mentioned that when our LOs just STOP eating its because they are not really hungry anymore and that this is not painful for her. I hope and pray that the pain is all on my end because as much as it does hurt to watch this happen I know that I can handle it. And I would do anything to make sure she is not hurting. Up to and including taking all the pain onto me. I am young and healthy and I can deal with it. Emma > > Hi Emma. > I'm sorry to hear how your grandmother is going down hill. I know how hard it must be on you. Watching a close LO deteriorate is horrible and so is this disease. > My mom has been going down hill for over a year now. She only weighs about 60 lbs. and doesn't eat but about 6 or 7 spoons of mushed food. She has bed sores and is out of it. I really know what you mean when you ask; How long? Every time we think this is it, she bounces back and fools us. I hate to say this but, it could be weeks, or months, or maybe years. I'm sorry but that is the way this works. Everyone is different and any way you slice it, it's up to God to take them when he's ready. The only thing we can do is ask for His strength and ask what is the lesson in this. It's the pitts for you and for her! I don't know where you live, I'm in California and there is a group called " VITAS " It is so much better than the hospice my mom had 3years ago. I think they are only here though. > God Be With You, > Lynn S. > > > --------------------------------- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2008 Report Share Posted February 7, 2008 Emma- This seems like a rerun movie to me. It all sounds so familiar to what I went through with my dad. My heart goes out to you. I shall send up special prayers for your grandma, you, and your family. Heartfelt hugs- Sandie -- " emsyfay " wrote: At the rate things are going I don't know that we're going to have time for any of it at all. This morning Grandma is weak as a kitten and completely zoned out. My mom came over for breakfast and by the time we got the eggs cooked Grandma was staring blankly into space and not responsive. Mom tried to feed her and the food just sat in her mouth. She would not/could not chew or even spit it out. I had to lift her out of her chair, into a wheelchair, and then lift her into bed. She is out like this more and more every day. She is not eating. I wonder every time she goes " out " like this if its the last time or if she will snap back one more time. I think her body is shutting down. It seems clear to me that she is trying to make the decision to go. Now its just a matter of how long will it take her. Mom had planned on just having breakfast and leaving but she is going to stay the day now. We are going to talk to Bob (grandma's husband) about hospice and call this afternoon. I have a feeling this may all be over even before I leave for my trip next week. If not than certainly while I am away. Which makes me a little sad but in that case I will be able to say my goodbye while she still might be able to hear me. My mom seems ok with me still going on my trip no matter what the situation here. The trip is not something I can really cancel easily and I have the feeling that if she could say so that Grandma would still want me to go and try to enjoy myself. At least I hope thats how she would feel. Seems like things are rapidly coming to a head here... Emma > > > > Hi Emma. > > I'm sorry to hear how your grandmother is going down hill. I know how > hard it must be > on you. Watching a close LO deteriorate is horrible and so is this disease. > > My mom has been going down hill for over a year now. She only weighs > about 60 lbs. > and doesn't eat but about 6 or 7 spoons of mushed food. She has bed sores > and is out of > it. I really know what you mean when you ask; How long? Every time we think > this is it, she > bounces back and fools us. I hate to say this but, it could be weeks, or > months, or maybe > years. I'm sorry but that is the way this works. Everyone is different and > any way you slice > it, it's up to God to take them when he's ready. The only thing we can do > is ask for His > strength and ask what is the lesson in this. It's the pitts for you and > for her! I don't know > where you live, I'm in California and there is a group called " VITAS " It is > so much better > than the hospice my mom had 3years ago. I think they are only here though. > > God Be With You, > > Lynn S. > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! > Search. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2008 Report Share Posted February 7, 2008 Lynn, How difficult for you. 60 lb!!! With your mother still surviving at that weight you must be doing something very right! Thinking of you. , Oakville Ont. Mother, age 92, died Aug. 12/06 after 13 year decline from PDD > > Hi Emma. > I'm sorry to hear how your grandmother is going down hill. I know how hard it must be on you. Watching a close LO deteriorate is horrible and so is this disease. > My mom has been going down hill for over a year now. She only weighs about 60 lbs. and doesn't eat but about 6 or 7 spoons of mushed food. She has bed sores and is out of it. I really know what you mean when you ask; How long? Every time we think this is it, she bounces back and fools us. I hate to say this but, it could be weeks, or months, or maybe years. I'm sorry but that is the way this works. Everyone is different and any way you slice it, it's up to God to take them when he's ready. The only thing we can do is ask for His strength and ask what is the lesson in this. It's the pitts for you and for her! I don't know where you live, I'm in California and there is a group called " VITAS " It is so much better than the hospice my mom had 3years ago. I think they are only here though. > God Be With You, > Lynn S. > > > --------------------------------- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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