Re: Gladys I won't delete, I care

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Imogene

Sending you back a BIG hug..... it's been one of THOSE days.

Gladys

-- Gladys I won't delete, I care

Gladys, not me. I will not delete on a wonderful caregiver as you. The

harder you try the worse it gets, until you are pushed into the ground. Do

what

you can and let the rest go. After all you are not super-girl.

There were a couple of things I had to lay the law down with my darling Don

I told him this is the way it is going to be. In a few days he finally

accepted what I told him, and seemed relieved to know the boundaries. They

can

become very selfish and self centered. And, like children, you have to set

boundaries. When you do they feel safer and will settle down a little more.

We all care very much about you, as we do our whole LBD family of

caregivers, and I am so sorry this has hurt you so badly. My sister used to

do me that

way on the phone, and Don wondered why I would call her. I loved her, and

she

didn't remember anything about our talking.

Love a whole bunch,

Imogene

My sweet mother just called and was not very sweet. I know its the disease,

but I just want to cry...... I feel like I'm killing myself and its never

enough to make her happy (btw this is how she was before the disease she's

been sweeter since).

AAAAAAAAAAAaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks! You can delete now! LOL

Gladys

**************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

[Guest guest]

Oh Gladys!

I know at least a little of how you feel!! You know its the disease but its

SOOOO hard not

to let it hurt your feelings. Grandma was always such a nice, sweet person

before LBD and

it has turned her into (and I know this sounds bad but its a perfect

description) an evil old

shrew.

You ARE doing a good job! You are a WONDERFUL person. And your mom would never

say those things if she were in her right mind. I've started leaving myself

post-it notes on

doors and the bathroom mirror in my little basement apartment that say things

like " YOU

ARE DOING A GOOD JOB! " and " YOU ARE NOT PUSHY OR OBNOXIOUS!! " (because those

are

the things she calls me the most) it helps a little, and my boyfriend thinks

they're

hilarious! ;-) I'm saying the same palative things that everyone will say

because there just

is no better answer. You have to try to internalize the good things and grow

them like a

little garden to be a calm place when things are bad. Easier said than done I

know (I sure

haven't mastered it yet!) but I think it will help if we can do it.

You are fantastic and we love you!

Emma

>

> Thanks, Imogene

>

> Sending you back a BIG hug..... it's been one of THOSE days.

>

> Gladys

>

> -- Gladys I won't delete, I care

>

> Gladys, not me. I will not delete on a wonderful caregiver as you. The

> harder you try the worse it gets, until you are pushed into the ground. Do

> what

> you can and let the rest go. After all you are not super-girl.

>

> There were a couple of things I had to lay the law down with my darling Don

>

> I told him this is the way it is going to be. In a few days he finally

> accepted what I told him, and seemed relieved to know the boundaries. They

> can

> become very selfish and self centered. And, like children, you have to set

> boundaries. When you do they feel safer and will settle down a little more.

>

> We all care very much about you, as we do our whole LBD family of

> caregivers, and I am so sorry this has hurt you so badly. My sister used to

> do me that

> way on the phone, and Don wondered why I would call her. I loved her, and

> she

> didn't remember anything about our talking.

>

> Love a whole bunch,

> Imogene

>

>

> My sweet mother just called and was not very sweet. I know its the disease,

> but I just want to cry...... I feel like I'm killing myself and its never

> enough to make her happy (btw this is how she was before the disease she's

> been sweeter since).

>

> AAAAAAAAAAAaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>

> Thanks! You can delete now! LOL

>

> Gladys

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you, Emma Mom was never good about talking about things that bother

her. Communication was never my families long suit. However, the past 48

hours have been HORRIBLE. She called this afternoon and said she needed a

bandaid. My daughter told her where to find them. She called a few minutes

later and screamed at my daughter and said she wasn't going to call again if

that was how she was going to be. It's getting very trying.

Gladys

-- Gladys I won't delete, I care

>

> Gladys, not me. I will not delete on a wonderful caregiver as you. The

> harder you try the worse it gets, until you are pushed into the ground.

Do

> what

> you can and let the rest go. After all you are not super-girl.

>

> There were a couple of things I had to lay the law down with my darling

Don

>

> I told him this is the way it is going to be. In a few days he finally

> accepted what I told him, and seemed relieved to know the boundaries.

They

> can

> become very selfish and self centered. And, like children, you have to

set

> boundaries. When you do they feel safer and will settle down a little

more.

>

> We all care very much about you, as we do our whole LBD family of

> caregivers, and I am so sorry this has hurt you so badly. My sister used

to

> do me that

> way on the phone, and Don wondered why I would call her. I loved her, and

> she

> didn't remember anything about our talking.

>

> Love a whole bunch,

> Imogene

>

>

> My sweet mother just called and was not very sweet. I know its the

disease,

> but I just want to cry...... I feel like I'm killing myself and its never

> enough to make her happy (btw this is how she was before the disease she

s

> been sweeter since).

>

> AAAAAAAAAAAaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>

> Thanks! You can delete now! LOL

>

> Gladys

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hello all,

I'm new to the list (I happen to be Gladys's daughter the one she just

referred to lol). I just wanted to say thank you because everything I have read

so far has been a TREMENDOUS help to me. I haven't had time to post until just

now, but I wanted to share that.

Thank you!

Ruth Stefany

Gladys Stefany wrote:

Thank you, Emma Mom was never good about talking about things that

bother

her. Communication was never my families long suit. However, the past 48

hours have been HORRIBLE. She called this afternoon and said she needed a

bandaid. My daughter told her where to find them. She called a few minutes

later and screamed at my daughter and said she wasn't going to call again if

that was how she was going to be. It's getting very trying.

Gladys

-- Gladys I won't delete, I care

>

> Gladys, not me. I will not delete on a wonderful caregiver as you. The

> harder you try the worse it gets, until you are pushed into the ground.

Do

> what

> you can and let the rest go. After all you are not super-girl.

>

> There were a couple of things I had to lay the law down with my darling

Don

>

> I told him this is the way it is going to be. In a few days he finally

> accepted what I told him, and seemed relieved to know the boundaries.

They

> can

> become very selfish and self centered. And, like children, you have to

set

> boundaries. When you do they feel safer and will settle down a little

more.

>

> We all care very much about you, as we do our whole LBD family of

> caregivers, and I am so sorry this has hurt you so badly. My sister used

to

> do me that

> way on the phone, and Don wondered why I would call her. I loved her, and

> she

> didn't remember anything about our talking.

>

> Love a whole bunch,

> Imogene

>

>

> My sweet mother just called and was not very sweet. I know its the

disease,

> but I just want to cry...... I feel like I'm killing myself and its never

> enough to make her happy (btw this is how she was before the disease she

s

> been sweeter since).

>

> AAAAAAAAAAAaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>

> Thanks! You can delete now! LOL

>

> Gladys

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Gladys,

Ive been on digest or no email for the past three days or so and everything

has gotten behind, but I got back on the email list and receiving emails today

so I hopefully will keep up better.Im so sorry your going through this.Warm

supportive hugs to you and your family and I hope things get better for your

dear mother. My very best Ron

Gladys Stefany wrote:

Thank you, Emma Mom was never good about talking about things that

bother

her. Communication was never my families long suit. However, the past 48

hours have been HORRIBLE. She called this afternoon and said she needed a

bandaid. My daughter told her where to find them. She called a few minutes

later and screamed at my daughter and said she wasn't going to call again if

that was how she was going to be. It's getting very trying.

Gladys

-- Gladys I won't delete, I care

>

> Gladys, not me. I will not delete on a wonderful caregiver as you. The

> harder you try the worse it gets, until you are pushed into the ground.

Do

> what

> you can and let the rest go. After all you are not super-girl.

>

> There were a couple of things I had to lay the law down with my darling

Don

>

> I told him this is the way it is going to be. In a few days he finally

> accepted what I told him, and seemed relieved to know the boundaries.

They

> can

> become very selfish and self centered. And, like children, you have to

set

> boundaries. When you do they feel safer and will settle down a little

more.

>

> We all care very much about you, as we do our whole LBD family of

> caregivers, and I am so sorry this has hurt you so badly. My sister used

to

> do me that

> way on the phone, and Don wondered why I would call her. I loved her, and

> she

> didn't remember anything about our talking.

>

> Love a whole bunch,

> Imogene

>

>

> My sweet mother just called and was not very sweet. I know its the

disease,

> but I just want to cry...... I feel like I'm killing myself and its never

> enough to make her happy (btw this is how she was before the disease she

s

> been sweeter since).

>

> AAAAAAAAAAAaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>

> Thanks! You can delete now! LOL

>

> Gladys

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

>

>

>