Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 Sometimes we focus so much on the anger that we have when people say things that they shouldn't say that we forget that Ignorance is the beginning of Knowledge. Most people say these things because they have no clue what else to say to keep us from getting angry and they have to think quick, to come up with something that can be somewhat sensitive and at the same time " nice " . They are ignorant as to what we live each day. We should take these ackward opportunites to say " you know if you like, I could share a little of what it's really like for me if you're interested. " You'd be surprised how many people will say " sure " . Because they want to know. It's up to us to educate them and make them aware. Just a thought! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 Linette I don't think it is a matter of forgetting. I think it is just that sometimes we are so stunned by the rude remarks, and hurt by them as well, that we just don't know what to say to them. Some people are just ignorant and say things to try to connect with us, but other times, they are just down right rude. And, as parents, we want so much for everyone to see our children the way we see them, so sometimes it hurts when we realize they see our kids differently. And, in this discussion, I think everyone was just really having fun telling the remarkable things that people have said and done. It helps for us to get those hurtful remarks out and vent a little. Now...I educate EVERYONE I come in contact with. (lol...they are all getting tired of me!) But, before, I didn't have those snappy comebacks of " let me educate you " and like most parents I just stood there with my mouth open! lol Kristy michiganimdsa wrote: Sometimes we focus so much on the anger that we have when people say things that they shouldn't say that we forget that Ignorance is the beginning of Knowledge. Most people say these things because they have no clue what else to say to keep us from getting angry and they have to think quick, to come up with something that can be somewhat sensitive and at the same time " nice " . They are ignorant as to what we live each day. We should take these ackward opportunites to say " you know if you like, I could share a little of what it's really like for me if you're interested. " You'd be surprised how many people will say " sure " . Because they want to know. It's up to us to educate them and make them aware. Just a thought! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 The only time anyone has said anything to me about my daughter was at the DS clinic. The nurse said to my husband and myself, " wow you two are going to have a hard time, you will not fit in with the parents of down syndrome children and you are not going to fit in with the parents of NORMAL children " . " You are always going to have to be explaining her behavior because nobody would even know she has downs " . You would think she would be educated enough not to say something like that. My husband and I left there feeling like the toys on misfit island. I am still angry over that comment to be honest with you. I would have been so much more understanding if it would have come from someone that did not know better. Sue Re: Why do we forget? Linette I don't think it is a matter of forgetting. I think it is just that sometimes we are so stunned by the rude remarks, and hurt by them as well, that we just don't know what to say to them. Some people are just ignorant and say things to try to connect with us, but other times, they are just down right rude. And, as parents, we want so much for everyone to see our children the way we see them, so sometimes it hurts when we realize they see our kids differently. And, in this discussion, I think everyone was just really having fun telling the remarkable things that people have said and done. It helps for us to get those hurtful remarks out and vent a little. Now...I educate EVERYONE I come in contact with. (lol...they are all getting tired of me!) But, before, I didn't have those snappy comebacks of " let me educate you " and like most parents I just stood there with my mouth open! lol Kristy michiganimdsa <conceptosprint@ peoplepc. com> wrote: Sometimes we focus so much on the anger that we have when people say things that they shouldn't say that we forget that Ignorance is the beginning of Knowledge. Most people say these things because they have no clue what else to say to keep us from getting angry and they have to think quick, to come up with something that can be somewhat sensitive and at the same time " nice " . They are ignorant as to what we live each day. We should take these ackward opportunites to say " you know if you like, I could share a little of what it's really like for me if you're interested. " You'd be surprised how many people will say " sure " . Because they want to know. It's up to us to educate them and make them aware. Just a thought! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 Most of the ignorant comments I have gotton are because people just don't know any better and they are not trying to be mean. My favorite came from a woman who was upset that she lost her speech therapist for her 5 year old " typical child " that has a speech problem and she was venting that she didn't want her kid in class with the autistic kids. (Probably not knowing that the autistic kids parents probably don't want her there either) She also was upset that her speech therapist went off to work with a bunch of " babbling babies " . Well I guess I have a " babbling baby " because she is in speech therapy. Ignorance on the value of speech therapy for an infant. Char ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2008 Report Share Posted January 29, 2008 Go !!!!! I'm going to steal THAT line too!!! It's MUCH nicer than the things that roll through my head....... To all the group; I also have to ask you ALL something, dont be afraid to just " tell me like it IS " ,ok? That said.... I have tried my best to protect people my whole life, I am an " instant caregiver " , just add a disabled person of any age, size, gender or creed, mixed w/ just a hint of pain, fear, or tears & I turn into Florence Nightengale in 2.5 seconds!!! Since this IS my job, that's a good thing, right? Well, Here's my dilemma, I take care of a 45 yr. old DS female pt. who's parents are struggling w/health issues. The mom is mid 70's, so is dad, and they love her SO much, take awesome care of her, but dad had foot surgery recently that went into more extensive problems, mom had a heart cath. & found out she needs heart surgery asap as only 25% of her heart is functioning. This pt. has an older sister that is willing to take her in while mom & dad " recuperate " (for a small fee), and has added " As long as you realize what I say goes in MY house!, She'll learn that sissy wont kiss her butt like mommy & daddy have " . Isn't that sweet?....Here's my dilemma, I KNOW the older sis's husband, and I also know he did 12+ yrs. for raping (the charge was molesting) a mentally challenged girl in the late 80's. By all rights, I cant tell the " in-laws " that information because I am bound by law, and my job! I dont know WHAT to do!!! I can't lose my job! But if anything happened to that sweet girl, I would NEVER forgive myself! I'm sure the in laws have no idea of his record, as we have discussed such issues & I can just tell they don't have a clue. He appears to walk on water in their eyes! WHAT DO I DO???? ANY opinion is welcome... Thanks~Peg (grandma to Raven 4, MDS,) --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 Wow Peg. That is tough. Can you talk with your supervisor about this? Maybe she has suggestions? There must be some kind of law against him being around certain people??? How sad! Kristy Peg Robbins wrote: Go !!!!! I'm going to steal THAT line too!!! It's MUCH nicer than the things that roll through my head....... To all the group; I also have to ask you ALL something, dont be afraid to just " tell me like it IS " ,ok? That said.... I have tried my best to protect people my whole life, I am an " instant caregiver " , just add a disabled person of any age, size, gender or creed, mixed w/ just a hint of pain, fear, or tears & I turn into Florence Nightengale in 2.5 seconds!!! Since this IS my job, that's a good thing, right? Well, Here's my dilemma, I take care of a 45 yr. old DS female pt. who's parents are struggling w/health issues. The mom is mid 70's, so is dad, and they love her SO much, take awesome care of her, but dad had foot surgery recently that went into more extensive problems, mom had a heart cath. & found out she needs heart surgery asap as only 25% of her heart is functioning. This pt. has an older sister that is willing to take her in while mom & dad " recuperate " (for a small fee), and has added " As long as you realize what I say goes in MY house!, She'll learn that sissy wont kiss her butt like mommy & daddy have " . Isn't that sweet?....Here's my dilemma, I KNOW the older sis's husband, and I also know he did 12+ yrs. for raping (the charge was molesting) a mentally challenged girl in the late 80's. By all rights, I cant tell the " in-laws " that information because I am bound by law, and my job! I dont know WHAT to do!!! I can't lose my job! But if anything happened to that sweet girl, I would NEVER forgive myself! I'm sure the in laws have no idea of his record, as we have discussed such issues & I can just tell they don't have a clue. He appears to walk on water in their eyes! WHAT DO I DO???? ANY opinion is welcome... Thanks~Peg (grandma to Raven 4, MDS,) --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 Is this man on any kind of predator list that is public. If he is nobody is saying you could not anonymously send it to them. I would think by law they would have to tell the girls parents. I can understand that you can not give out patient information but why would the law protect a pt's in law. What am I missing here? RE: Why do we forget? Wow Peg. That is tough. Can you talk with your supervisor about this? Maybe she has suggestions? There must be some kind of law against him being around certain people??? How sad! Kristy Peg Robbins <lizrdluvnmom@ yahoo.com> wrote: Go !!!!! I'm going to steal THAT line too!!! It's MUCH nicer than the things that roll through my head....... To all the group; I also have to ask you ALL something, dont be afraid to just " tell me like it IS " ,ok? That said.... I have tried my best to protect people my whole life, I am an " instant caregiver " , just add a disabled person of any age, size, gender or creed, mixed w/ just a hint of pain, fear, or tears & I turn into Florence Nightengale in 2.5 seconds!!! Since this IS my job, that's a good thing, right? Well, Here's my dilemma, I take care of a 45 yr. old DS female pt. who's parents are struggling w/health issues. The mom is mid 70's, so is dad, and they love her SO much, take awesome care of her, but dad had foot surgery recently that went into more extensive problems, mom had a heart cath. & found out she needs heart surgery asap as only 25% of her heart is functioning. This pt. has an older sister that is willing to take her in while mom & dad " recuperate " (for a small fee), and has added " As long as you realize what I say goes in MY house!, She'll learn that sissy wont kiss her butt like mommy & daddy have " . Isn't that sweet?....Here' s my dilemma, I KNOW the older sis's husband, and I also know he did 12+ yrs. for raping (the charge was molesting) a mentally challenged girl in the late 80's. By all rights, I cant tell the " in-laws " that information because I am bound by law, and my job! I dont know WHAT to do!!! I can't lose my job! But if anything happened to that sweet girl, I would NEVER forgive myself! I'm sure the in laws have no idea of his record, as we have discussed such issues & I can just tell they don't have a clue. He appears to walk on water in their eyes! WHAT DO I DO???? ANY opinion is welcome... Thanks~Peg (grandma to Raven 4, MDS,) ------------ --------- --------- --- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 Peg, These kind of cases are public information, as well they should be. You can get with the Dept of Social Service and make them aware of the situation. The daughter may have to go to a facility during the recouperation of her parents. But she won't be subjected to such a person as one you have metioned, who is a known felon. I too have the Florence Nightingale symdrome and know what you are going through. I will keep you in my prayers. , Mom to Tiff(MDS) and Des Sue wrote: Is this man on any kind of predator list that is public. If he is nobody is saying you could not anonymously send it to them. I would think by law they would have to tell the girls parents. I can understand that you can not give out patient information but why would the law protect a pt's in law. What am I missing here? RE: Why do we forget? Wow Peg. That is tough. Can you talk with your supervisor about this? Maybe she has suggestions? There must be some kind of law against him being around certain people??? How sad! Kristy Peg Robbins <lizrdluvnmom@ yahoo.com> wrote: Go !!!!! I'm going to steal THAT line too!!! It's MUCH nicer than the things that roll through my head....... To all the group; I also have to ask you ALL something, dont be afraid to just " tell me like it IS " ,ok? That said.... I have tried my best to protect people my whole life, I am an " instant caregiver " , just add a disabled person of any age, size, gender or creed, mixed w/ just a hint of pain, fear, or tears & I turn into Florence Nightengale in 2.5 seconds!!! Since this IS my job, that's a good thing, right? Well, Here's my dilemma, I take care of a 45 yr. old DS female pt. who's parents are struggling w/health issues. The mom is mid 70's, so is dad, and they love her SO much, take awesome care of her, but dad had foot surgery recently that went into more extensive problems, mom had a heart cath. & found out she needs heart surgery asap as only 25% of her heart is functioning. This pt. has an older sister that is willing to take her in while mom & dad " recuperate " (for a small fee), and has added " As long as you realize what I say goes in MY house!, She'll learn that sissy wont kiss her butt like mommy & daddy have " . Isn't that sweet?....Here' s my dilemma, I KNOW the older sis's husband, and I also know he did 12+ yrs. for raping (the charge was molesting) a mentally challenged girl in the late 80's. By all rights, I cant tell the " in-laws " that information because I am bound by law, and my job! I dont know WHAT to do!!! I can't lose my job! But if anything happened to that sweet girl, I would NEVER forgive myself! I'm sure the in laws have no idea of his record, as we have discussed such issues & I can just tell they don't have a clue. He appears to walk on water in their eyes! WHAT DO I DO???? ANY opinion is welcome... Thanks~Peg (grandma to Raven 4, MDS,) ------------ --------- --------- --- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2008 Report Share Posted January 30, 2008 Peg, If he did 12 years for a sex offense, then by law he is to register every year in his state, town, county as a REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER and that Honey is public knowledge. So what you do is look his " sweet a$$ " up on your state's sex offender registry website, print out the page and leave it on their door step....by way of " secret admirer " . Don't you dare for one moment put that pt. in the care of her older sister (she sounds like a " witch " anyway for wanting a fee to take care of her family) or the sister's husband. Just remember that all it takes is ONE TIME to be bound for life and known as A REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER no matter what! What state are you in? I'd love to look him up for you (wink wink, nod nod LOL) Hmmm, could my open hostility towards any person who would harm a child be the reason I didn't go into Law Enforcement (probably because I'm a great shot?!) Let me know what happens, Becky Warmest Regards Team BRATS http://teambrats08.chipin.com/team-brats-becky-rowe-austin-trey-smith to add the widget to your site click here: http://www.chipin.com/mywidgets/id/d8c674ed5b95e675 Thanks for Donating! RE: Why do we forget? Go !!!!! I'm going to steal THAT line too!!! It's MUCH nicer than the things that roll through my head....... To all the group; I also have to ask you ALL something, dont be afraid to just " tell me like it IS " ,ok? That said.... I have tried my best to protect people my whole life, I am an " instant caregiver " , just add a disabled person of any age, size, gender or creed, mixed w/ just a hint of pain, fear, or tears & I turn into Florence Nightengale in 2.5 seconds!!! Since this IS my job, that's a good thing, right? Well, Here's my dilemma, I take care of a 45 yr. old DS female pt. who's parents are struggling w/health issues. The mom is mid 70's, so is dad, and they love her SO much, take awesome care of her, but dad had foot surgery recently that went into more extensive problems, mom had a heart cath. & found out she needs heart surgery asap as only 25% of her heart is functioning. This pt. has an older sister that is willing to take her in while mom & dad " recuperate " (for a small fee), and has added " As long as you realize what I say goes in MY house!, She'll learn that sissy wont kiss her butt like mommy & daddy have " . Isn't that sweet?....Here' s my dilemma, I KNOW the older sis's husband, and I also know he did 12+ yrs. for raping (the charge was molesting) a mentally challenged girl in the late 80's. By all rights, I cant tell the " in-laws " that information because I am bound by law, and my job! I dont know WHAT to do!!! I can't lose my job! But if anything happened to that sweet girl, I would NEVER forgive myself! I'm sure the in laws have no idea of his record, as we have discussed such issues & I can just tell they don't have a clue. He appears to walk on water in their eyes! WHAT DO I DO???? ANY opinion is welcome... Thanks~Peg (grandma to Raven 4, MDS,) ------------ --------- --------- --- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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