Guest guest Posted August 3, 2012 Report Share Posted August 3, 2012 A couple of years ago, I began seeing a therapist because I was depressed and very unhappy with my marriage. My husband went to a therapy session a couple of times, after which the therapist told me she believed he has Aspergers. I began reading about the condition and it was a huge revelation to me. It was my husband. Knowing this has helped me so much to understand him. My therapist believes that my husband should not be told that I believe he has Aspergers, that I should just be very patient and understanding of him. She believes that I should just work on myself, which I have been doing for the past 2 years. He is 63 years old and we have been married 32 years and have two children. The therapist says he would be blown away by a diagnosis at this stage of life. I am 7 years younger than he is and we both are healthy. Even though I no longer am depressed and we are getting along better, I feel like we could have a better marriage if we were both working on understanding each other. I long to have a closer connection with my husband and I don't feel like he understands where I am coming from at all. I have read two books by Maxine Aston, and she recommends that both partners know the diagnosis. I feel deceitful hiding this information from him. I would like to hear what others think about me gently letting him know what I believe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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