Re: just been diagnosis and in a new relationship

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Welcome

Firstly, congratulations on your neurodiversity, and secondly, how great that you now know about your AS so you can identify traits and to say 'aha!' because it makes something fall into place.

In terms of explaining your AS to others, if it is helpful for you being able to understand yourself better, you can pick who needs to know and who doesnt; although it hardly defines you as an axe murderer.....

Perhaps the thing to remember is that its not a bad thing to have AS, and that many influencers, policy makers, artists and creatives have been able to do what they do so well, because of their AS.

The good thing, is that you know, and can be supported to read up on AS, and get the support from the likes of our good selves here on Aspires.

Judy

To: aspires-relationships Sent: Friday, 30 March 2012, 8:01Subject: just been diagnosis and in a new relationshipHII went to see a clinical psychologist for some personal issues and he did some testing after a few visits and now have been told i have mild asperger's and in a new relationship only been seeing this guy a

month he has told me he has a reading problem can't read fast and write the best, i am 45 a single mum and have a son with ASD high functioning and my 11 year old is ODD/ADHD and SRBD and wears colored Lenses and Dyslexic.Just wondering do i tell this guy and i have not told my boys as i thought it came from their fathers side and don't need any more problems from his new bit of fluff have enough.Just wondering what your thoughts are i all ways knew things where hard at school but just put it down to being lazy and hating school and other things in lifethanks------------------------------------ "We each have our own way of living in the world, together we are like a symphony.Some are the melody, some are the rhythm, some are the harmony It all blends together, we are like a symphony, and each part is crucial.We all contribute to the song of

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Her two special needs teens are TEENAGERS! Therefore, they know EVERYTHING, cuz teenagers KNOW everything, and parents are the DUMBEST critters on the planet. Thus has it been with teenagers since time immemorial! And thus shall it always be! But don't worry, mom will start getting smarter over the next few years, reaching genius status by the time they are in their early twenties (and no longer teenagers)! ~ "Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal."--Albert Camus Sent from my VZW BlackBerrySender: aspires-relationships Date: Tue, 03 Apr 2012 01:37:51 +0000To: <aspires-relationships >ReplyTo: aspires-relationships Subject: Re: just been diagnosis and in a newrelationship Hi ....Glad you even have the time to run an autism support group. I understand how challenging that can be from how much you must go through daily. Sounds like you're doing the right thing by telling your boyfriend in " bits and pieces " at a time about your life and all. Until I became involved seeing someone who is a single parent of two special needs kids plus college aged daughter (plus as guardian of three grandchildren), I was convinced I'd never be involved with someone who is a parent (let alone of special needs children).But, as I have been finding out, it's a " quiet joy " that I experience daily because of the opportunities I have to make a difference in the lives of her three grandchildren (not anywhere close to her two special needs teens, since both claim they " know everything " and their mom " knows nothing " - which pretty much ticks me off).> > > Just wondering do i tell this guy and i have not told my boys as i thought it came from their fathers side and don't need any more problems from his new bit of fluff have enough.> > > > Just wondering what your thoughts are i all ways knew things where hard at school but just put it down to being lazy and hating school and other things in life> > > > thanks> > > >>

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Hi Thanks for that my eldest has a high iq and in year 9 at school but does year 11 work in maths and science he drives me nuts at times with things and yugioh cards also. I am coming to terms with it all slowly reading books and joined a group on facebook also and the support group i love as it helps parents like me that struggle but many of them are normal. So i know we have no normal in our house now.Have a great Easter To: AspiresRelationships <aspires-relationships > Sent: Tuesday, 3 April 2012 12:03 PM Subject: Re: Re: just been diagnosis and in a new relationship

Her two special needs teens are TEENAGERS! Therefore, they know EVERYTHING, cuz teenagers KNOW everything, and parents are the DUMBEST critters on the planet. Thus has it been with teenagers since time immemorial! And thus shall it always be! But don't worry, mom will start getting smarter over the next few years, reaching genius status by the time they are in their early twenties (and no longer teenagers)! ~ "Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal."--Albert Camus Sent from my VZW BlackBerry

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Date: Tue, 03 Apr 2012 01:37:51 +0000To: <aspires-relationships >ReplyTo: aspires-relationships

Subject: Re: just been diagnosis and in a new

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Hi ....

Glad you even have the time to run an autism support group. I understand how challenging that can be from how much you must go through daily.

Sounds like you're doing the right thing by telling your boyfriend in "bits and pieces" at a time about your life and all. Until I became involved seeing someone who is a single parent of two special needs kids plus college aged daughter (plus as guardian of three grandchildren), I was convinced I'd never be involved with someone who is a parent (let alone of special needs children).

But, as I have been finding out, it's a "quiet joy" that I experience daily because of the opportunities I have to make a difference in the lives of her three grandchildren (not anywhere close to her two special needs teens, since both claim they "know everything" and their mom "knows nothing" - which pretty much ticks me off).

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By what you have said, that makes me a lone exception as a teenager. I was

always looking to do anything to help my single parent mom, because I knew

instinctively of the " multiple hats " she wore without telling me anything.

I spent many weekends as a high schooler in the local college library, finding a

home in many book aisles and reading anything of interest to me. Of course,

reading things like Masters and , etc. was a " special interest " of mine

back then. To know the statistics of how many times men and women were " getting

some " in different ways and with how many different people. That sorta thing.

Totally fascinating stuff. Good thing I didn't become a sexologist.

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> > > Just wondering do i tell this guy and i have not told my boys as i thought

it came from their fathers side and don't need any more problems from his new

bit of fluff have enough.

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> > > Just wondering what your thoughts are i all ways knew things where hard at

school but just put it down to being lazy and hating school and other things in

life

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