Guest guest Posted January 7, 2008 Report Share Posted January 7, 2008 Maybe Kaiser does things differently. Jim was never on Medicare before entering the nh. I had him admitted by paramedics to ER, because he was highly aggressive. They would ask him questions too and he would pull the " Show Time " and answer things appropriately, but the paramedics knew me from so many visits and they would ask what I wanted to do and I would say take him to ER. On the day I decided to put Jim in a nh,I asked to speak to the social worker at the hospital and told her I was ready to put Jim in a nh and she gave me a list of nhs that provided doctors from Kaiser in our area and I visited all the nh and selected my top three and the first two were booked and my third had a room for him. They kept Jim with a sitter for 3 days in the hospital, because yes, 3 days in the hospital is a rule, before they could transport him to a nh and they had to watch that he was not aggressive before sending him to the nh. He was never put on Medicare and didn't receive any therapy or any intervenous drugs. I had seen an Elder Care Attorney for about a year and a half who told me that nhs will not usually accept coming in with Medicaid, they'd rather have pay out of pocket, so I paid for the first few months and then I applied for Medicaid and began on that when it processed through. Kaiser has even kept Jim over a night or two when I needed respite when he was living at home. They told me they could hold him an extra night before releasing him. They were always very understanding and actually everytime Jim was in ER they would ask if I wanted to put Jim in a facility. Nothing to do with Medicare, usually a UTI or some kind of infection like Pneumonia that didn't require therapy or an IV drug only antibiotics orally. They were always willing to help me move him to a nh when I was ready. My Elder Care Attorney told me when I was ready to put Jim in a nh, to follow the guidelines he gave me and that is what I did and it all processed through. I have also been told by others when one is on Medicaid that they can only go home 18 days out of the year. Medicaid and the nh staff have all agreed that Jim can go home every weekend. Since I am the one that admitted Jim to the nh, I know he was not on Medicare. I would have loved if he could have received physical therapy, since he was losing his walking abilities at the nh. There was a time several years back that Jim was in the hospital for two weeks and they transported him to a Convalescent Home for another two weeks and that was on Medicare, because he needed continued care with an IV. I was not ready to leave him there at the time and when he was well he was released to go home. But this time, since I am the one that admitted him to the nh, there was no Medicare for therapy involved.........Jan adhd5464 wrote: Yep! You understand it completely! We weren't fully aware of all the in's and out's and we had Millie transported by ambulance after 2 cop cars, a fire truck and an ambulance were all parked in our yard. Her psychiatrist ended up calling the sheriff and insisted that if the ambulance would not take her, the deputy was to deliver Millie to the hospital himself in the squad car. Medics didn't want to take her because she knew she was in her yard, the day of the week, and her name! This was the day she came after us with a board and was threatening to kill all of us, and the bastard dogs. Had we tried to transport, she could have easily broken a wrist, hip, or arm if we tried to force her into the car. Other than that, Mrs.Lincoln, how did you enjoy the play? Carol > > > When Millie had a UTI and we needed some respite, > > they put Millie in a nursing home for several weeks > > to build her back up, but inside of three weeks they > > could not find enough wrong with her to allow her to > > stay and still get paid by Medicare. They pretty > > much said she could not stay unless she were > > bedbound. > > > > LewyBody was not enough of a dx to allow her to > > stay. Incontinence, might have been enough, but not > > Lewy Body alone. > > Had she been on dialysis, or something, we miy > > have had a chance. > > Lewy Body Dementia, in, and of itself, was not > > enough. > > > > Millie was just too functional. She was stronger > > than most of the residents. Even though she was on > > a dementia ward, they were doing nothing in our > > favor to figure out a way for her to stay. > > > > She may not have needed enough services by the > > home to make her a profitable candidate. She was too > > fit to need physical threapy, and she did not need > > speech therapy, and the occupational therapist > > didn't see much she could work toimprove. > > > > Now, if we were lied to, I didn't know it, but if > > I requested her to be put in a nursing home > > tomorrow, we would probably be shoo-ed off to > > assisted living. > > > > Just because a family is tired of dealing with the > > LO, it doesn't merit a bed in Fort Myers. I suppose > > we could convince a doctor she is too dangerous, too > > violent, and then we might get some help, but > > medicare, and then medicaid, beds are very hard to > > come by in our community. > > > > If Emma ran into any of those roadblocks, I wanted > > her to be prepared. If grandma were denied, it > > would be devastating. I wanted Emma to be have a > > smooth admission experience, if need be. > > > > I am sure every state has different rules. > > Florida is such a huge retirement mecca, and with > > all the touristy stuff, we become fairly jaded about > > a lot of things. > > > > Remember, I am not long from my own father's > > stroke and 5 1/2 weeks of industrial strength > > caregiving. > > > > If no one has any problems anywhere else, then > > it's all gravy. If they run into roadblocks, they > > will know they are not alone. > > > > So, there's my take! > > > > Carol > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them > > fast with Yahoo! Search. > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. 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Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Hi all, Sorry I haven't been responding much the last day or two. I HAVE been reading all of your posts and advice but I just didn't have anything good to say and was starting to feel like I abuse all of your niceness with my whining. ;-) We have at least a temporary solution now, after a fashion. I will be physically here 7am-3pm Sunday thru Friday and will be on-call (as usual) the rest of the time, an aid will be here 7:30am-2pm on Saturdays, and that same aid will start doing overnights 11pm-7am Sunday thru Thursday so Bob and I can sleep without one ear open. Mom and I talked about this when she came over on Sunday to snipe at me but apparently we were having 2 different conversations. When I got down to business making phone calls yesterday and got all of this set up she got angry at me again because apparently I wasn't doing what she wanted me to. I got a lot of " someone to stay FIVE nights?? Thats too expensive! Why would you do that? What about X, Y, Z??!! " All stuff we had already discussed! Yes, an aid that much is not cheap but its not like Grandma is destitute! The woman has $25,000 in ONE checking account alone! That doesn't take in her several savings accounts and all her investments. AND the more we search the more bank accounts we have found that she never told anyone about. I don't think she's a millionaire but its looking like she's damn close and there os still more coming INTO her checking account each month than is getting spent. I think we're doing ok with the money. Not that I want to spend all her money away but if thats what it takes to keep her at home like my mom is so vehement about than thats what it takes! A few hours after all this I got an email she sent to my uncles filling them in on things and of course she made it sound like it was all her idea and she did all the work to make it happen and she is SOOOOOOOOOO exhausted and stressed out. Cute how she jumps all over me initially then realizes what I did was the right thing and takes all the credit. Jan, you are right that my mother " taking care " of my step-dad doesn't involve all that much actual care. The only " more work " than usual factor with him is that he is on a low bacteria diet so they have to get a little creative with the grocery shopping and he can't eat leftovers if they've been around more than 24 hours so there has to be a " real " cooked dinner every night. Otherwise he is pretty capable of taking care of himself and except for a minor bit of " chemo-brain " he is mentally very capable. Mostly that just seems to effect his reading. He can't focus enough to read a book so he watches a lot of TV instead. He also can't leave the house to go out into the big germy world just yet. So mostly her care of him is just her worrying. I need to get over my own need to protect her. She doesn't handle emotional stress well and starts doing stupid things (like drinking) when she has too much to deal with. Thats why I am where I am. Having had to " take care " of alcoholic parents when I was young turned me into the caregiver I am and I can't seem to shake that role when it comes to her. And now she expects it of me. Sorry I don't have more good things to say. I'm so glad that I can keep telling all of you all of this and I know you don't think I'm exaggerating or being dramatic like my family seems to. I wish I could make them understand they way you all do. But I suppose the only way for me to do that would be for me to leave and MAKE them try to do what I do. ;-) Emma ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Good for you Emma. Good luck with the new arrangement. Doris, daughter of Ramona, 78yrs old, first diagnosed with AD in Sep 2004, then changed to LBD in March of 2005. Living independently with much support until now. On waiting list for NH. Meds: Reminyl, Wellbutrin and Seroquel. (Mississauga, Canada) Re: When do you start thinking about a NH? Carol/June. Hi all, Sorry I haven't been responding much the last day or two. I HAVE been reading all of your posts and advice but I just didn't have anything good to say and was starting to feel like I abuse all of your niceness with my whining. ;-) We have at least a temporary solution now, after a fashion. I will be physically here 7am-3pm Sunday thru Friday and will be on-call (as usual) the rest of the time, an aid will be here 7:30am-2pm on Saturdays, and that same aid will start doing overnights 11pm-7am Sunday thru Thursday so Bob and I can sleep without one ear open. Mom and I talked about this when she came over on Sunday to snipe at me but apparently we were having 2 different conversations. When I got down to business making phone calls yesterday and got all of this set up she got angry at me again because apparently I wasn't doing what she wanted me to. I got a lot of " someone to stay FIVE nights?? Thats too expensive! Why would you do that? What about X, Y, Z??!! " All stuff we had already discussed! Yes, an aid that much is not cheap but its not like Grandma is destitute! The woman has $25,000 in ONE checking account alone! That doesn't take in her several savings accounts and all her investments. AND the more we search the more bank accounts we have found that she never told anyone about. I don't think she's a millionaire but its looking like she's damn close and there os still more coming INTO her checking account each month than is getting spent. I think we're doing ok with the money. Not that I want to spend all her money away but if thats what it takes to keep her at home like my mom is so vehement about than thats what it takes! A few hours after all this I got an email she sent to my uncles filling them in on things and of course she made it sound like it was all her idea and she did all the work to make it happen and she is SOOOOOOOOOO exhausted and stressed out. Cute how she jumps all over me initially then realizes what I did was the right thing and takes all the credit. Jan, you are right that my mother " taking care " of my step-dad doesn't involve all that much actual care. The only " more work " than usual factor with him is that he is on a low bacteria diet so they have to get a little creative with the grocery shopping and he can't eat leftovers if they've been around more than 24 hours so there has to be a " real " cooked dinner every night. Otherwise he is pretty capable of taking care of himself and except for a minor bit of " chemo-brain " he is mentally very capable. Mostly that just seems to effect his reading. He can't focus enough to read a book so he watches a lot of TV instead. He also can't leave the house to go out into the big germy world just yet. So mostly her care of him is just her worrying. I need to get over my own need to protect her. She doesn't handle emotional stress well and starts doing stupid things (like drinking) when she has too much to deal with. Thats why I am where I am. Having had to " take care " of alcoholic parents when I was young turned me into the caregiver I am and I can't seem to shake that role when it comes to her. And now she expects it of me. Sorry I don't have more good things to say. I'm so glad that I can keep telling all of you all of this and I know you don't think I'm exaggerating or being dramatic like my family seems to. I wish I could make them understand they way you all do. But I suppose the only way for me to do that would be for me to leave and MAKE them try to do what I do. ;-) Emma ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile. yahoo.com/ ;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR 8HDtDypao8Wcj9tA cJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Yeah, and I bet if they had to do what you do, they would put grandma in a nh! Good planning. Glad you took the reins and did what you needed to do for you and grandpa before things got worse. Money should be coming out of that account anyway in case she does have to go to a nh eventually. There needs to be some money set aside for stuff that they don't even know yet. Happy New Year and get some rest. Hugs, Donna R Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine. Re: Re: When do you start thinking about a NH? Carol/June. Good for you Emma. Good luck with the new arrangement. Doris, daughter of Ramona, 78yrs old, first diagnosed with AD in Sep 2004, then changed to LBD in March of 2005. Living independently with much support until now. On waiting list for NH. Meds: Reminyl, Wellbutrin and Seroquel. (Mississauga, Canada) Re: When do you start thinking about a NH? Carol/June. Hi all, Sorry I haven't been responding much the last day or two. I HAVE been reading all of your posts and advice but I just didn't have anything good to say and was starting to feel like I abuse all of your niceness with my whining. ;-) We have at least a temporary solution now, after a fashion. I will be physically here 7am-3pm Sunday thru Friday and will be on-call (as usual) the rest of the time, an aid will be here 7:30am-2pm on Saturdays, and that same aid will start doing overnights 11pm-7am Sunday thru Thursday so Bob and I can sleep without one ear open. Mom and I talked about this when she came over on Sunday to snipe at me but apparently we were having 2 different conversations. When I got down to business making phone calls yesterday and got all of this set up she got angry at me again because apparently I wasn't doing what she wanted me to. I got a lot of " someone to stay FIVE nights?? Thats too expensive! Why would you do that? What about X, Y, Z??!! " All stuff we had already discussed! Yes, an aid that much is not cheap but its not like Grandma is destitute! The woman has $25,000 in ONE checking account alone! That doesn't take in her several savings accounts and all her investments. AND the more we search the more bank accounts we have found that she never told anyone about. I don't think she's a millionaire but its looking like she's damn close and there os still more coming INTO her checking account each month than is getting spent. I think we're doing ok with the money. Not that I want to spend all her money away but if thats what it takes to keep her at home like my mom is so vehement about than thats what it takes! A few hours after all this I got an email she sent to my uncles filling them in on things and of course she made it sound like it was all her idea and she did all the work to make it happen and she is SOOOOOOOOOO exhausted and stressed out. Cute how she jumps all over me initially then realizes what I did was the right thing and takes all the credit. Jan, you are right that my mother " taking care " of my step-dad doesn't involve all that much actual care. The only " more work " than usual factor with him is that he is on a low bacteria diet so they have to get a little creative with the grocery shopping and he can't eat leftovers if they've been around more than 24 hours so there has to be a " real " cooked dinner every night. Otherwise he is pretty capable of taking care of himself and except for a minor bit of " chemo-brain " he is mentally very capable. Mostly that just seems to effect his reading. He can't focus enough to read a book so he watches a lot of TV instead. He also can't leave the house to go out into the big germy world just yet. So mostly her care of him is just her worrying. I need to get over my own need to protect her. She doesn't handle emotional stress well and starts doing stupid things (like drinking) when she has too much to deal with. Thats why I am where I am. Having had to " take care " of alcoholic parents when I was young turned me into the caregiver I am and I can't seem to shake that role when it comes to her. And now she expects it of me. Sorry I don't have more good things to say. I'm so glad that I can keep telling all of you all of this and I know you don't think I'm exaggerating or being dramatic like my family seems to. I wish I could make them understand they way you all do. But I suppose the only way for me to do that would be for me to leave and MAKE them try to do what I do. ;-) Emma ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile. yahoo.com/ ;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR 8HDtDypao8Wcj9tA cJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Emma, Sounds like you have made significant headway with your mom! So what if she takes the credit, at least the deed is done. Hope it all works out for you. lisa Engles SEIU-UHW Shop Steward ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Jan, evidently Kaiser was paying his primary costs instead of Medicare. The Medicare rules I was writing about are federal, I'm sure, and you can't put them in a hospital with Medicare being the primary carrier without a very good reason, nor can they go into the NH on Medicare for the reasons I stated previously. If they do, improvement has to be made in the area in which they are put in the NH within the 20 days Medicare allows for 80 percent pay. If they don't improve, as my husband didn't, then you go on private pay or Medicaid if you have that established. His first 20 days were fully paid by Medicare and BCBS, our secondary carrier, but the next 80 days (of the 100 MC allows) were private pay with no secondary coverage because Medicare didn't approve. After I got him approved for Medicaid, they did make it retroactive, so I only had to pay the share we were assessed by Medicaid instead of the full $157 a day. So, I would guess that your insurance company coverage was the reason Medicare wasn't used. Apparently, they must have the same 3-day hospital rule as Medicare, though, if they kept him 3 days. Are you sure that Medicare didn't pay that? S--- Janet Colello wrote: > Maybe Kaiser does things differently. Jim was never > on Medicare before entering the nh. I had him > admitted by paramedics to ER, because he was highly > aggressive. They would ask him questions too and he > would pull the " Show Time " and answer things > appropriately, but the paramedics knew me from so > many visits and they would ask what I wanted to do > and I would say take him to ER. On the day I > decided to put Jim in a nh,I asked to speak to the > social worker at the hospital and told her I was > ready to put Jim in a nh and she gave me a list of > nhs that provided doctors from Kaiser in our area > and I visited all the nh and selected my top three > and the first two were booked and my third had a > room for him. They kept Jim with a sitter for 3 days > in the hospital, because yes, 3 days in the hospital > is a rule, before they could transport him to a nh > and they had to watch that he was not aggressive > before sending him to the nh. He was never put on > Medicare and didn't receive any > therapy or any intervenous drugs. I had seen an > Elder Care Attorney for about a year and a half who > told me that nhs will not usually accept coming in > with Medicaid, they'd rather have pay out of pocket, > so I paid for the first few months and then I > applied for Medicaid and began on that when it > processed through. > Kaiser has even kept Jim over a night or two when > I needed respite when he was living at home. They > told me they could hold him an extra night before > releasing him. They were always very understanding > and actually everytime Jim was in ER they would ask > if I wanted to put Jim in a facility. Nothing to do > with Medicare, usually a UTI or some kind of > infection like Pneumonia that didn't require therapy > or an IV drug only antibiotics orally. They were > always willing to help me move him to a nh when I > was ready. > My Elder Care Attorney told me when I was ready > to put Jim in a nh, to follow the guidelines he gave > me and that is what I did and it all processed > through. > I have also been told by others when one is on > Medicaid that they can only go home 18 days out of > the year. Medicaid and the nh staff have all agreed > that Jim can go home every weekend. > Since I am the one that admitted Jim to the nh, I > know he was not on Medicare. I would have loved if > he could have received physical therapy, since he > was losing his walking abilities at the nh. > There was a time several years back that Jim was > in the hospital for two weeks and they transported > him to a Convalescent Home for another two weeks and > that was on Medicare, because he needed continued > care with an IV. I was not ready to leave him there > at the time and when he was well he was released to > go home. But this time, since I am the one that > admitted him to the nh, there was no Medicare for > therapy involved.........Jan > > > adhd5464 wrote: > Yep! You understand it completely! We weren't > fully aware of all the > in's and out's and we had Millie transported by > ambulance after 2 cop > cars, a fire truck and an ambulance were all parked > in our yard. > > Her psychiatrist ended up calling the sheriff and > insisted that if > the ambulance would not take her, the deputy was to > deliver Millie to > the hospital himself in the squad car. > > Medics didn't want to take her because she knew she > was in her yard, > the day of the week, and her name! This was the day > she came after > us with a board and was threatening to kill all of > us, and the > bastard dogs. > > Had we tried to transport, she could have easily > broken a wrist, hip, > or arm if we tried to force her into the car. > > Other than that, Mrs.Lincoln, how did you enjoy the > play? > > Carol > > > > > > > > > > > When Millie had a UTI and we needed some > respite, > > > they put Millie in a nursing home for several > weeks > > > to build her back up, but inside of three weeks > they > > > could not find enough wrong with her to allow > her to > > > stay and still get paid by Medicare. They pretty > > > much said she could not stay unless she were > > > bedbound. > > > > > > LewyBody was not enough of a dx to allow her to > > > stay. Incontinence, might have been enough, but > not > === message truncated === ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! 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Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Hi June, Yes, I am sure that Medicare did not pay for Jim's stay in the nh at first. From day one I paid out of pocket until Medicaid kicked in. You are right, Kaiser does pay for Jim's primary costs instead of Medicare/Medicaid. They pick up all of his medications too. It is 0 payments for Jim's medications and no copayments and 0 payments for hospital stays. That is why I was so confused why you and Carol were saying that Medicare rules played a part in getting your LO in a nh. The only time that happened for Jim is when Kaiser transported him from a hospital stay to a Convalescent Home for continued treatment of an IV. Kaiser has different rules, but they did the 3 day stay in the hospital with a sitter in Jim's room all three days, because I admitted him to ER when he was highly aggressive and requested to the Social Worker to admit him to a nh and then he had to stay the 3 days with a sitter in his room that was a Kaiser sitter to make sure he was not aggressive before admitting him to a nh. Unless someone is on Kaiser, I see I am misleading everyone. Thanks so much, now I see the difference. I'm glad you cleared that up. It was not difficult for me at all to admit Jim to the nh when I was ready. It is too bad it is not like that for everyone who wants to admit a LO to a nh when they feel they can no longer handle it. Because of Kaiser, it is also why I can have Jim home for the weekends. I hear from so many about there are 18 days a year that a LO can go home for a visit. It makes so much more sense to me that a LO can go home on weekends if it is possible for them to do so. I know it lifts Jim's spirits to be home and gives him something to look forward to each week. It seems so much more humane and the CNAs love it, it's one less person to take care of at the nh for them on those days. They are on overload. It works for me with the respite inbetween the days that Jim comes home. It's an all around winner. I was thinking this worked for everyone, but now I see the Insurance Coverage is different than most. Thanks June. June Christensen wrote: Jan, evidently Kaiser was paying his primary costs instead of Medicare. The Medicare rules I was writing about are federal, I'm sure, and you can't put them in a hospital with Medicare being the primary carrier without a very good reason, nor can they go into the NH on Medicare for the reasons I stated previously. If they do, improvement has to be made in the area in which they are put in the NH within the 20 days Medicare allows for 80 percent pay. If they don't improve, as my husband didn't, then you go on private pay or Medicaid if you have that established. His first 20 days were fully paid by Medicare and BCBS, our secondary carrier, but the next 80 days (of the 100 MC allows) were private pay with no secondary coverage because Medicare didn't approve. After I got him approved for Medicaid, they did make it retroactive, so I only had to pay the share we were assessed by Medicaid instead of the full $157 a day. So, I would guess that your insurance company coverage was the reason Medicare wasn't used. Apparently, they must have the same 3-day hospital rule as Medicare, though, if they kept him 3 days. Are you sure that Medicare didn't pay that? S--- Janet Colello wrote: > Maybe Kaiser does things differently. Jim was never > on Medicare before entering the nh. I had him > admitted by paramedics to ER, because he was highly > aggressive. They would ask him questions too and he > would pull the " Show Time " and answer things > appropriately, but the paramedics knew me from so > many visits and they would ask what I wanted to do > and I would say take him to ER. On the day I > decided to put Jim in a nh,I asked to speak to the > social worker at the hospital and told her I was > ready to put Jim in a nh and she gave me a list of > nhs that provided doctors from Kaiser in our area > and I visited all the nh and selected my top three > and the first two were booked and my third had a > room for him. They kept Jim with a sitter for 3 days > in the hospital, because yes, 3 days in the hospital > is a rule, before they could transport him to a nh > and they had to watch that he was not aggressive > before sending him to the nh. He was never put on > Medicare and didn't receive any > therapy or any intervenous drugs. I had seen an > Elder Care Attorney for about a year and a half who > told me that nhs will not usually accept coming in > with Medicaid, they'd rather have pay out of pocket, > so I paid for the first few months and then I > applied for Medicaid and began on that when it > processed through. > Kaiser has even kept Jim over a night or two when > I needed respite when he was living at home. They > told me they could hold him an extra night before > releasing him. They were always very understanding > and actually everytime Jim was in ER they would ask > if I wanted to put Jim in a facility. Nothing to do > with Medicare, usually a UTI or some kind of > infection like Pneumonia that didn't require therapy > or an IV drug only antibiotics orally. They were > always willing to help me move him to a nh when I > was ready. > My Elder Care Attorney told me when I was ready > to put Jim in a nh, to follow the guidelines he gave > me and that is what I did and it all processed > through. > I have also been told by others when one is on > Medicaid that they can only go home 18 days out of > the year. Medicaid and the nh staff have all agreed > that Jim can go home every weekend. > Since I am the one that admitted Jim to the nh, I > know he was not on Medicare. I would have loved if > he could have received physical therapy, since he > was losing his walking abilities at the nh. > There was a time several years back that Jim was > in the hospital for two weeks and they transported > him to a Convalescent Home for another two weeks and > that was on Medicare, because he needed continued > care with an IV. I was not ready to leave him there > at the time and when he was well he was released to > go home. But this time, since I am the one that > admitted him to the nh, there was no Medicare for > therapy involved.........Jan > > > adhd5464 wrote: > Yep! You understand it completely! We weren't > fully aware of all the > in's and out's and we had Millie transported by > ambulance after 2 cop > cars, a fire truck and an ambulance were all parked > in our yard. > > Her psychiatrist ended up calling the sheriff and > insisted that if > the ambulance would not take her, the deputy was to > deliver Millie to > the hospital himself in the squad car. > > Medics didn't want to take her because she knew she > was in her yard, > the day of the week, and her name! This was the day > she came after > us with a board and was threatening to kill all of > us, and the > bastard dogs. > > Had we tried to transport, she could have easily > broken a wrist, hip, > or arm if we tried to force her into the car. > > Other than that, Mrs.Lincoln, how did you enjoy the > play? > > Carol > > > > > > > > > > > When Millie had a UTI and we needed some > respite, > > > they put Millie in a nursing home for several > weeks > > > to build her back up, but inside of three weeks > they > > > could not find enough wrong with her to allow > her to > > > stay and still get paid by Medicare. They pretty > > > much said she could not stay unless she were > > > bedbound. > > > > > > LewyBody was not enough of a dx to allow her to > > > stay. Incontinence, might have been enough, but > not > === message truncated === ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! 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Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 emma -- sooooo happy to hear of a plan -- hope it works well!!! xo anna Re: When do you start thinking about a NH? Carol/June. Hi all, Sorry I haven't been responding much the last day or two. I HAVE been reading all of your posts and advice but I just didn't have anything good to say and was starting to feel like I abuse all of your niceness with my whining. ;-) We have at least a temporary solution now, after a fashion. I will be physically here 7am-3pm Sunday thru Friday and will be on-call (as usual) the rest of the time, an aid will be here 7:30am-2pm on Saturdays, and that same aid will start doing overnights 11pm-7am Sunday thru Thursday so Bob and I can sleep without one ear open. Mom and I talked about this when she came over on Sunday to snipe at me but apparently we were having 2 different conversations. When I got down to business making phone calls yesterday and got all of this set up she got angry at me again because apparently I wasn't doing what she wanted me to. I got a lot of " someone to stay FIVE nights?? Thats too expensive! Why would you do that? What about X, Y, Z??!! " All stuff we had already discussed! Yes, an aid that much is not cheap but its not like Grandma is destitute! The woman has $25,000 in ONE checking account alone! That doesn't take in her several savings accounts and all her investments. AND the more we search the more bank accounts we have found that she never told anyone about. I don't think she's a millionaire but its looking like she's damn close and there os still more coming INTO her checking account each month than is getting spent. I think we're doing ok with the money. Not that I want to spend all her money away but if thats what it takes to keep her at home like my mom is so vehement about than thats what it takes! A few hours after all this I got an email she sent to my uncles filling them in on things and of course she made it sound like it was all her idea and she did all the work to make it happen and she is SOOOOOOOOOO exhausted and stressed out. Cute how she jumps all over me initially then realizes what I did was the right thing and takes all the credit. Jan, you are right that my mother " taking care " of my step-dad doesn't involve all that much actual care. The only " more work " than usual factor with him is that he is on a low bacteria diet so they have to get a little creative with the grocery shopping and he can't eat leftovers if they've been around more than 24 hours so there has to be a " real " cooked dinner every night. Otherwise he is pretty capable of taking care of himself and except for a minor bit of " chemo-brain " he is mentally very capable. Mostly that just seems to effect his reading. He can't focus enough to read a book so he watches a lot of TV instead. He also can't leave the house to go out into the big germy world just yet. So mostly her care of him is just her worrying. I need to get over my own need to protect her. She doesn't handle emotional stress well and starts doing stupid things (like drinking) when she has too much to deal with. Thats why I am where I am. Having had to " take care " of alcoholic parents when I was young turned me into the caregiver I am and I can't seem to shake that role when it comes to her. And now she expects it of me. Sorry I don't have more good things to say. I'm so glad that I can keep telling all of you all of this and I know you don't think I'm exaggerating or being dramatic like my family seems to. I wish I could make them understand they way you all do. But I suppose the only way for me to do that would be for me to leave and MAKE them try to do what I do. ;-) Emma ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile. yahoo.com/ ;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR 8HDtDypao8Wcj9tA cJ ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 So, then if they are paying for his meds, he doesn't have to join the Medicare D, right? Although, if he is on Medicaid, that would pay all his meds, too. I was curious why Kaiser is his primary carrier? Was that insurance through his workplace and could continue after he retired? I took early retirement from my place of work (at 62), and was able to keep the school district insurance until 65, when they make you go to Medicare as primary, and then you can pick up their insurance (BCBS) as the secondary or select any other company you want or use nothing at all for secondary. It costs me somewhere around $200 plus a month for Medicare and the secondary, but I haven't paid any medical bills except deductibles since I went on Medicare. Darrell didn't have to, either, and the last time I figured up his bills, it was near $100,000 for medical care only - that didn't count anything for his NH costs. I am still getting bills for some of his expenses - they show paid, but boy, are they really behind. And, I'm still getting a credit balance on the NH bill, but they haven't paid it yet. I guess I'll have to call them again. I'm sure they will do everything they can not to pay it, but it sure wasn't that way when I owed them. Oh, the medical system!!! And, I'm afraid it will just get worse as more and more people are on MCare and MCaid. --- Janet Colello wrote: > Hi June, > Yes, I am sure that Medicare did not pay for Jim's > stay in the nh at first. From day one I paid out of > pocket until Medicaid kicked in. You are right, > Kaiser does pay for Jim's primary costs instead of > Medicare/Medicaid. They pick up all of his > medications too. It is 0 payments for Jim's > medications and no copayments and 0 payments for > hospital stays. That is why I was so confused why > you and Carol were saying that Medicare rules played > a part in getting your LO in a nh. The only time > that happened for Jim is when Kaiser transported him > from a hospital stay to a Convalescent Home for > continued treatment of an IV. Kaiser has different > rules, but they did the 3 day stay in the hospital > with a sitter in Jim's room all three days, because > I admitted him to ER when he was highly aggressive > and requested to the Social Worker to admit him to a > nh and then he had to stay the 3 days with a sitter > in his room that was a Kaiser sitter to make sure he > was not aggressive before > admitting him to a nh. > Unless someone is on Kaiser, I see I am misleading > everyone. > Thanks so much, now I see the difference. I'm glad > you cleared that up. > It was not difficult for me at all to admit Jim to > the nh when I was ready. > It is too bad it is not like that for everyone who > wants to admit a LO to a nh when they feel they can > no longer handle it. Because of Kaiser, it is also > why I can have Jim home for the weekends. I hear > from so many about there are 18 days a year that a > LO can go home for a visit. It makes so much more > sense to me that a LO can go home on weekends if it > is possible for them to do so. I know it lifts Jim's > spirits to be home and gives him something to look > forward to each week. It seems so much more humane > and the CNAs love it, it's one less person to take > care of at the nh for them on those days. They are > on overload. It works for me with the respite > inbetween the days that Jim comes home. It's an all > around winner. I was thinking this worked for > everyone, but now I see the Insurance Coverage is > different than most. > Thanks June. > > > > > > June Christensen wrote: > Jan, evidently Kaiser was paying his primary costs > instead of Medicare. The Medicare rules I was > writing > about are federal, I'm sure, and you can't put them > in > a hospital with Medicare being the primary carrier > without a very good reason, nor can they go into the > NH on Medicare for the reasons I stated previously. > If they do, improvement has to be made in the area > in > which they are put in the NH within the 20 days > Medicare allows for 80 percent pay. If they don't > improve, as my husband didn't, then you go on > private > pay or Medicaid if you have that established. His > first 20 days were fully paid by Medicare and BCBS, > our secondary carrier, but the next 80 days (of the > 100 MC allows) were private pay with no secondary > coverage because Medicare didn't approve. After I > got > him approved for Medicaid, they did make it > retroactive, so I only had to pay the share we were > assessed by Medicaid instead of the full $157 a day. > So, I would guess that your insurance company > coverage > was the reason Medicare wasn't used. Apparently, > they > must have the same 3-day hospital rule as Medicare, > though, if they kept him 3 days. Are you sure that > Medicare didn't pay that? > > > S--- Janet Colello wrote: > > > Maybe Kaiser does things differently. Jim was > never > > on Medicare before entering the nh. I had him > > admitted by paramedics to ER, because he was > highly > > aggressive. They would ask him questions too and > he > > would pull the " Show Time " and answer things > > appropriately, but the paramedics knew me from so > > many visits and they would ask what I wanted to do > > and I would say take him to ER. On the day I > > decided to put Jim in a nh,I asked to speak to the > > social worker at the hospital and told her I was > > ready to put Jim in a nh and she gave me a list of > > nhs that provided doctors from Kaiser in our area > > and I visited all the nh and selected my top three > > and the first two were booked and my third had a > > room for him. They kept Jim with a sitter for 3 > days > > in the hospital, because yes, 3 days in the > hospital > > is a rule, before they could transport him to a nh > > and they had to watch that he was not aggressive > > before sending him to the nh. He was never put on > > Medicare and didn't receive any > > therapy or any intervenous drugs. I had seen an > > Elder Care Attorney for about a year and a half > who > > told me that nhs will not usually accept coming in > > with Medicaid, they'd rather have pay out of > pocket, > > so I paid for the first few months and then I > > applied for Medicaid and began on that when it > > processed through. > > Kaiser has even kept Jim over a night or two when > > I needed respite when he was living at home. They > > told me they could hold him an extra night before > > releasing him. They were always very understanding > > and actually everytime Jim was in ER they would > ask > > if I wanted to put Jim in a facility. Nothing to > do > > with Medicare, usually a UTI or some kind of > > infection like Pneumonia that didn't require > therapy > > or an IV drug only antibiotics orally. They were > > always willing to help me move him to a nh when I > > was ready. > > My Elder Care Attorney told me when I was ready > > to put Jim in a nh, to follow the guidelines he > gave > > me and that is what I did and it all processed > > through. > > I have also been told by others when one is on > > Medicaid that they can only go home 18 days out of > > the year. Medicaid and the nh staff have all > agreed > > that Jim can go home every weekend. > > Since I am the one that admitted Jim to the nh, I > > know he was not on Medicare. I would have loved if > > he could have received physical therapy, since he > > was losing his walking abilities at the nh. > > There was a time several years back that Jim was > > in the hospital for two weeks and they transported > > him to a Convalescent Home for another two weeks > and > > that was on Medicare, because he needed continued > > care with an IV. I was not ready to leave him > there > > at the time and when he was well he was released > to > > go home. But this time, since I am the one that > > admitted him to the nh, there was no Medicare for > > therapy involved.........Jan > > > > > > adhd5464 wrote: > > Yep! You understand it completely! We weren't > > fully aware of all the > > in's and out's and we had Millie transported by > > ambulance after 2 cop > > cars, a fire truck and an ambulance were all > parked > > in our yard. > > > > Her psychiatrist ended up calling the sheriff and > > insisted that if > > the ambulance would not take her, the deputy was > to > > deliver Millie to > > the hospital himself in the squad car. > > > > Medics didn't want to take her because she knew > she > > was in her yard, > > the day of the week, and her name! This was the > day > > she came after > > us with a board and was threatening to kill all of > > us, and the > > bastard dogs. > > > > Had we tried to transport, she could have easily > > broken a wrist, hip, > > or arm if we tried to force her into the car. > > > > Other than that, Mrs.Lincoln, how did you enjoy > the > > play? > > > > Carol > > > > > > > > > === message truncated === ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your home page. http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 <snip> We have at least a temporary solution now, after a > fashion. I will be physically here 7am-3pm Sunday > thru Friday and will be on-call (as usual) the rest of > the time, an aid will be here 7:30am-2pm on Saturdays, > and that same aid will start doing overnights 11pm-7am > Sunday thru Thursday so Bob and I can sleep without > one ear open. <snip> Wonderful news! So glad to hear that you're getting some help that you need!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 Carol, we had so many episodes like what you described, mom even grunted at the cats and was calling them pigs. She also, put pillows and rugs at the botom of all the bedroom doors and then tried to start the house on fire " to stop the government from taking it and to stop the little people that live in the basement from hurting us " . She also stood in a darkened corner one night and when my brother walked through the house to check on her, she tried to hit him over the head with (of all things) a statue of St ! She threw a pillow right in front of his feet as he walked by to trip him. That was NOT my mom, she was in a whole other place then - we had no idea who this person was and had the fire and police at the house a number of times. I do have a question about her being on private pay now in the NH, we are paying her real estate taxes out of her accounts, but that is a a frozen rate and a senior discount. I am afraid that we need to come forward and possibly sell the house now. Does anyone know? I have an appointment with a geriatric atty next Tuesday - any suggestions on how I can prepare with the proper questions? Thanks everyone and God Bless. - Daughter of Clarice LYB & TTFN! -Cyn' ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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