Re: I shouldn't suffer b/c of HR's incompetence!

[Guest guest]

Hi Amy,

thanks for you sharing your work.

I noticed you left out the question:

" How do I react when I believe the thought....? "

Was that accidental or on purpose?

I notice you explore this somewhat in your answer to question #4, but

it seems like there could surface a lot more when you sit with it and

explore it some more.

For me, my answers to the third question are often the most

interesting and reveiling, and surprising sometimes.

Answers to this question confront me with the many ways in which the

thought is hurting me. Realizing this, moving away from the hurting

thought happens more naturally and easily.

Best,

Eva

>

> I am filing a grievance at work, and wow, they call it a GRIEVance

for something because I

> have been crying everyday. It's killing my morale and taking such a

toll on me emotionally

> and financially. So, here goes:

>

> I should not have to suffer for Human Resource's incompetence!

>

> IIT?

> This is true. . .it is their job to know the ins and outs of our

benefits, programs,

> regulations, etc. I am so tired of dealing with blatantly

irresponsible people in chronically

> underfunded, understaffed situations. God forbid they actually be

helpful. Where is the

> HUMAN in HR?

>

> IIRT?

> No, Obviously I am suffering.

>

> Without the thought?

> I would be free, happy, have time and energy to do what I enjoy, not

hold grudges or feel

> bitter. I wouldn't have this terrible lump in my throat or pain in

my chest I wouldn't go to

> work feeling like I want to cry and end each day feeling like I want

to scream. I wouldn't

> sit at home digging through files and compiling evidence against

them. I would laugh and

> play with my kids, read a book, go for a walk, eat ice cream, lay on

the beach. . .

>

> Turn it Around:

> I SHOULD have to suffer for HR's incompetence

>

> well, like i said, i already am. . .

>

> HR shouldn't have to suffer b/c of my incompetence

>

> i guess i could have been more diligent in following up with them. .

..i could see that they

> were not actioning on my memo but i was too busy to follow up

sooner. I just wanted to

> enjoy my leave in peace without having to mess with carrots and

sticks with HR.

>

> I shouldn't have to suffer for my incompetence

>

> no, don't see the truth in this one.

>

> I shouldn't have to suffer b/c of my thoughts

>

> yes, it's true. . .it's only my thoughts about the situation that

are bringing me this

> suffering. . .

>

> more turnarunds, please. . .i still feel some stress so i know there

must be more. . .i think

> the real stressfu thought is:

>

> I shouldn't stay at my job because it makes me feel incompetent,

it's a bad match for me, I

> can't/won't deal with the bureacracy, it makes me feel awful about

myself, it's not my true

> calling in life.

>

> But I'm scared to quit b/c I worked for two years to get this job

and it creates a nice

> lifestyle for myself and my children. Plus, I have two domestic

employees who are

> depending on me. . .if I quit, they will be out of a job as well.

>

> I've already decided to quit in May, after I get tenure, so that I

can come back more easily

> if I want to. So why am I still struggling with this?

>

> Ok, send thoughts please and more work to come. . .

>

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi Amy,

>

> Another question you might ask is: HR is incompetent. Is it true?

[Guest guest]

Here are just a few thoughts when I read your response to " Is it

true? " It sounds like there are some beliefs in there that you could

do the work on as well?

They should " know the ins and outs of our benefits, programs,

regulations, etc. " Is that true? (What's the reality, according to

you, of it?)

They are " blatantly irresponsible people in chronically underfunded,

understaffed situations? " Is that true? Can you absolutely know it's

true?

And they " shouldn't be irresponsible? " Is that true? Maybe they

should be, until they're not? Could it be possible there is some

spiritual lesson those people need to learn that they could only learn

through being irresponsible? Or some spiritual lesson those who are

dealing with them will learn from their irresponsibility (maybe

patience, compassion, etc?).

And " God forbid they actually be helpful. " Is it true that they are

not helpful? Never, ever unhelpful? Is it absolutely true that they

are unhelpful?

And if I were you I would also do the work on the thoughts you brought

up here of...

> I shouldn't stay at my job because it makes me feel incompetent,

it's a bad match for me, I

> can't/won't deal with the bureacracy, it makes me feel awful about

myself, it's not my true

> calling in life.

>

> But I'm scared to quit b/c I worked for two years to get this job

and it creates a nice

> lifestyle for myself and my children. Plus, I have two domestic

employees who are

> depending on me. . .if I quit, they will be out of a job as well.

For example, is it true that it creates a nice lifestyle for you and

your children? You say you're stressed out, feeling incompetent,

suffering, etc. That doesn't sound like a nice lifestyle to me.

And " have two domestic employees who are depending on me. . .if I

quit, they will be out of a job as well. " Can you absolutely know

it's true that they'll be out of a job or that they won't find

something even better?

Blessings and enjoy the journey through your thoughts.

>

> I am filing a grievance at work, and wow, they call it a GRIEVance

for something because I

> have been crying everyday. It's killing my morale and taking such a

toll on me emotionally

> and financially. So, here goes:

>

> I should not have to suffer for Human Resource's incompetence!

>

> IIT?

> This is true. . .it is their job to know the ins and outs of our

benefits, programs,

> regulations, etc. I am so tired of dealing with blatantly

irresponsible people in chronically

> underfunded, understaffed situations. God forbid they actually be

helpful. Where is the

> HUMAN in HR?

>

> IIRT?

> No, Obviously I am suffering.

>

> Without the thought?

> I would be free, happy, have time and energy to do what I enjoy, not

hold grudges or feel

> bitter. I wouldn't have this terrible lump in my throat or pain in

my chest I wouldn't go to

> work feeling like I want to cry and end each day feeling like I want

to scream. I wouldn't

> sit at home digging through files and compiling evidence against

them. I would laugh and

> play with my kids, read a book, go for a walk, eat ice cream, lay on

the beach. . .

>

> Turn it Around:

> I SHOULD have to suffer for HR's incompetence

>

> well, like i said, i already am. . .

>

> HR shouldn't have to suffer b/c of my incompetence

>

> i guess i could have been more diligent in following up with them. .

..i could see that they

> were not actioning on my memo but i was too busy to follow up

sooner. I just wanted to

> enjoy my leave in peace without having to mess with carrots and

sticks with HR.

>

> I shouldn't have to suffer for my incompetence

>

> no, don't see the truth in this one.

>

> I shouldn't have to suffer b/c of my thoughts

>

> yes, it's true. . .it's only my thoughts about the situation that

are bringing me this

> suffering. . .

>

> more turnarunds, please. . .i still feel some stress so i know there

must be more. . .i think

> the real stressfu thought is:

>

> I shouldn't stay at my job because it makes me feel incompetent,

it's a bad match for me, I

> can't/won't deal with the bureacracy, it makes me feel awful about

myself, it's not my true

> calling in life.

>

> But I'm scared to quit b/c I worked for two years to get this job

and it creates a nice

> lifestyle for myself and my children. Plus, I have two domestic

employees who are

> depending on me. . .if I quit, they will be out of a job as well.

>

> I've already decided to quit in May, after I get tenure, so that I

can come back more easily

> if I want to. So why am I still struggling with this?

>

> Ok, send thoughts please and more work to come. . .

>

[Guest guest]

Nice work iedreams :-)

The piece about domestic employees stuck out for me - the belief that

'they depend on me'.

With thanks,

Jon