Loving-what-is] Re: I have recently learnt . . .

[Guest guest]

Please...do The Work. This is a lot of blah blah blah.

B

--- adithya_comming wrote:

> - It was a mistake to expect people to

> be honest or truthful. In our

> " civilized " , " cultured " , " educated "

> society honesty and truthfulness were

> no longer a 'norm' but rather an

> 'exception'.

>

> Many people were so used

> to being dishonest and lying now that

> they didn't even realize it anymore. It

> become part of who they are - and, by

> expecting them to do something else was

> akin to expecting a cat to bark!

>

> With this understanding, it was possible for

> me to be pleasantly surprised and very thankful

> and grateful for honesty, truthfulness whenever I

> encountered it and be relatively fine with

> dishonesty, lies as I understood it as the was part

> of

> 'normal condition'.

>

> I discovered that this version was closer to reality

> and

> honesty and truthfulness in the

> " civilized " world was more a part of

> fantasy and keeping that 'expectation'

> largely hurt as it was against common

> reality!

>

>

> - I hated fighting, long arguments,

> struggles, wars and, I noticed that reason

> I hated it was because of what I 'went

> thru' during fights, arguments and

> battles!

>

> I went through rage, anger,

> hate, resentment and each of them felt

> very bitter and unpleasant to my body

> and my mind.

>

> Later, I learnt to *fight*,

> argue, criticize, use strong words

> without feeling anger, resentment, hate

> or rage inside - but, just as a " tool " ,

> a means for some purpose.

>

> Whenever I *fought* this way - " fighting " didn't

> hurt Inside!

>

>

>

> - Once the anger had set in - I was

> better off getting in total touch with

> it and expressing it honestly,

> truthfully and literally.

>

> When I didn't do it - it felt like a poison inside!

>

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