Re: When do you start thinking about a NH?/(((Emma)))

[Guest guest]

Imogene,

You're right, Jan did have some VERY good ideas. I am actually thinking I need

to buckle

down and start really writing the book that I want to write about all of this.

I had a burst

of creativity one day and did an outline, now I just need to get down to

business and start

doing some writing. Maybe I can make my millions that way! ;-) Or at least

prove to

myself that my expensive English degree isn't useless! ;-)

Emma

>

>

> Emma, when I read your letter, it really upset me for you. I started to

> write and was afraid I would say something I would regret, so I erased the

thing,

> and then forgot

> about it for a spell.

>

> Jan is right on! She said it like I couldn't. Please pay heed, and make a

> life for yourself. She gave some excellent suggestions.

>

> Best to you dear girl,

>

> Love a bunch,

> Imogene

>

>

> In a message dated 1/7/2008 4:09:42 AM Central Standard Time,

> janetcolello@... writes:

>

> Dear Emma,

> My heart is breaking for you when I read how you are so trapped at your age.

> You should be able to continue your studies and have a career. Your mom has

> no idea the frustrations of taking care of a LO with LBD.

> It is not easy to be a caregiver of any kind, but your mom really has it a

> lot easier than you do, I believe. I am sure she has her stresses too, but

her

> husband still has his mind I believe and is more cooperative and independent

> most likely. I don't know all his symptoms, I think I read he has cancer,

> but I'm guessing he can still reason and do things independently. You have a

> lot on you watching after your grandma's well being. Your mother should be

> concerned about Bob driving and should contact his doctor to have his license

> revoked. Of course, then it would be taking away from transportation for your

> grandma and grandpa and your mother doesn't want to face that burden of how

to

> get them around.

> Your mother does not have a right to put you in that position. I know, you

> are between a rock and a hard place, because now you can't even afford a

place

> of your own since you can't work full time. Have you thought of taking

> online classes that you can get a job and work from home online? It could

help you

> get out of the rut while having to be trapped. You can go at your own pace

> with online classes. Some classes, such as Medical Transcriptionist, only

take

> 4 months and are not that much in tuition with no interest fees and can be

> paid in installment payments and they can work things out for you for

tuition.

> You have got to build a life for yourself while you are being trapped. If

> you have a part time job, you can work that too and work the job from home

> online for extra income. You can work your own time from home.

> You deserve a life at your age or you will forever be in a rut on making a

> living for yourself and being independent in your own right.

> You go girl and get to it and dig your way out. When there is a will there

> is a way! No one should ever put you in a position you can't get out of. You

> are not stuck.

> If you take an online job, it can also help to build up a savings account,

> so when you are finally out from caregiving you can afford to put money

toward

> your tuition for the classes and job you really want or you can afford to go

> out and rent a place of your own. It can be helpful in many ways and it will

> build your self-esteem that you are making extra money while being trapped.

> Think about it.................. Cyber Hugs, Jan

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

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>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Emma,

I am sorry, I had no idea you had a degree. I had read another post from you

sometime back where you were having a hard time to complete your courses or have

a job, because of your time spent with your grams and that your mom is paying

you to be the caregiver and you're living in the basement and I had no idea you

had a degree. Thank goodness you do have that behind you. I was thinking how

stuck you were not to beable to complete your courses and get a job and stuck in

a basement with your mom paying you. I wanted to get you out of that rut. LOL I

had this image of you never having an independent life and your mom forever in

control of you, because you had no way out. Best of Luck to you on

getting your book pulblished. I will surely buy it, so get to

work!...................Jan

emsyfay wrote:

Imogene,

You're right, Jan did have some VERY good ideas. I am actually thinking I need

to buckle

down and start really writing the book that I want to write about all of this. I

had a burst

of creativity one day and did an outline, now I just need to get down to

business and start

doing some writing. Maybe I can make my millions that way! ;-) Or at least prove

to

myself that my expensive English degree isn't useless! ;-)

Emma

>

>

> Emma, when I read your letter, it really upset me for you. I started to

> write and was afraid I would say something I would regret, so I erased the

thing,

> and then forgot

> about it for a spell.

>

> Jan is right on! She said it like I couldn't. Please pay heed, and make a

> life for yourself. She gave some excellent suggestions.

>

> Best to you dear girl,

>

> Love a bunch,

> Imogene

>

>

> In a message dated 1/7/2008 4:09:42 AM Central Standard Time,

> janetcolello@... writes:

>

> Dear Emma,

> My heart is breaking for you when I read how you are so trapped at your age.

> You should be able to continue your studies and have a career. Your mom has

> no idea the frustrations of taking care of a LO with LBD.

> It is not easy to be a caregiver of any kind, but your mom really has it a

> lot easier than you do, I believe. I am sure she has her stresses too, but her

> husband still has his mind I believe and is more cooperative and independent

> most likely. I don't know all his symptoms, I think I read he has cancer,

> but I'm guessing he can still reason and do things independently. You have a

> lot on you watching after your grandma's well being. Your mother should be

> concerned about Bob driving and should contact his doctor to have his license

> revoked. Of course, then it would be taking away from transportation for your

> grandma and grandpa and your mother doesn't want to face that burden of how to

> get them around.

> Your mother does not have a right to put you in that position. I know, you

> are between a rock and a hard place, because now you can't even afford a place

> of your own since you can't work full time. Have you thought of taking

> online classes that you can get a job and work from home online? It could help

you

> get out of the rut while having to be trapped. You can go at your own pace

> with online classes. Some classes, such as Medical Transcriptionist, only take

> 4 months and are not that much in tuition with no interest fees and can be

> paid in installment payments and they can work things out for you for tuition.

> You have got to build a life for yourself while you are being trapped. If

> you have a part time job, you can work that too and work the job from home

> online for extra income. You can work your own time from home.

> You deserve a life at your age or you will forever be in a rut on making a

> living for yourself and being independent in your own right.

> You go girl and get to it and dig your way out. When there is a will there

> is a way! No one should ever put you in a position you can't get out of. You

> are not stuck.

> If you take an online job, it can also help to build up a savings account,

> so when you are finally out from caregiving you can afford to put money toward

> your tuition for the classes and job you really want or you can afford to go

> out and rent a place of your own. It can be helpful in many ways and it will

> build your self-esteem that you are making extra money while being trapped.

> Think about it.................. Cyber Hugs, Jan

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jan,

You didn't really get it wrong at all. I DO have a bachelors in English but

since taking care

of Grandma and managing a group home for adults with developmental disabilities

before

this I've been wanting to take courses to become a nurse. In a perfect world I

would get

my next BS in nursing and then set to work getting a masters focusing on

treatment for

people with moderate/severe developmental disabilities. When I graduated high

school it

was expected that I go to college and so I did but I had NO idea at 18 what I

wanted to do

so I got a degree in Literature because I've always been such a book worm. ;-)

Unfortunately all the jobs I have had since college were morally satisfying but

didn't pay

much so I have yet to be able to have any kind of savings account. That is why

I talk about

being stuck. If for some reason my mother freaks out when I get up the nerve to

tell her

my turn at this is over I will be walking out of here with nothing but the

clothes on my

back and my dog and my cat. My numerous student loans have stopped me from

being

able to get anything significant in the way of lines of credit as well so pretty

much if I can't

carry it or stuff it in the car I won't be able to take it. I am praying

fervently that mom

won't disown me but she's a hard one to read.

I have terrificly supportive friends and I could get my job back at the group

home in a

minute but re-starting from scratch with no familial support will be very

difficult.

Emma

PS...after my AHHHHHHH post I have taken several darvocets for my back and

greatly over

indulged in pepperoni pizza and am at least not in pain anymore and that helps a

bit.

> >

> >

> > Emma, when I read your letter, it really upset me for you. I started to

> > write and was afraid I would say something I would regret, so I erased the

thing,

> > and then forgot

> > about it for a spell.

> >

> > Jan is right on! She said it like I couldn't. Please pay heed, and make a

> > life for yourself. She gave some excellent suggestions.

> >

> > Best to you dear girl,

> >

> > Love a bunch,

> > Imogene

> >

> >

> > In a message dated 1/7/2008 4:09:42 AM Central Standard Time,

> > janetcolello@ writes:

> >

> > Dear Emma,

> > My heart is breaking for you when I read how you are so trapped at your age.

> > You should be able to continue your studies and have a career. Your mom has

> > no idea the frustrations of taking care of a LO with LBD.

> > It is not easy to be a caregiver of any kind, but your mom really has it a

> > lot easier than you do, I believe. I am sure she has her stresses too, but

her

> > husband still has his mind I believe and is more cooperative and independent

> > most likely. I don't know all his symptoms, I think I read he has cancer,

> > but I'm guessing he can still reason and do things independently. You have a

> > lot on you watching after your grandma's well being. Your mother should be

> > concerned about Bob driving and should contact his doctor to have his

license

> > revoked. Of course, then it would be taking away from transportation for

your

> > grandma and grandpa and your mother doesn't want to face that burden of how

to

> > get them around.

> > Your mother does not have a right to put you in that position. I know, you

> > are between a rock and a hard place, because now you can't even afford a

place

> > of your own since you can't work full time. Have you thought of taking

> > online classes that you can get a job and work from home online? It could

help you

> > get out of the rut while having to be trapped. You can go at your own pace

> > with online classes. Some classes, such as Medical Transcriptionist, only

take

> > 4 months and are not that much in tuition with no interest fees and can be

> > paid in installment payments and they can work things out for you for

tuition.

> > You have got to build a life for yourself while you are being trapped. If

> > you have a part time job, you can work that too and work the job from home

> > online for extra income. You can work your own time from home.

> > You deserve a life at your age or you will forever be in a rut on making a

> > living for yourself and being independent in your own right.

> > You go girl and get to it and dig your way out. When there is a will there

> > is a way! No one should ever put you in a position you can't get out of. You

> > are not stuck.

> > If you take an online job, it can also help to build up a savings account,

> > so when you are finally out from caregiving you can afford to put money

toward

> > your tuition for the classes and job you really want or you can afford to go

> > out and rent a place of your own. It can be helpful in many ways and it will

> > build your self-esteem that you are making extra money while being trapped.

> > Think about it.................. Cyber Hugs, Jan

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > **************Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape.

> > http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489

> >

> >

> >