Memory being taken over by delusions and paranoia

January 12, 2008

My FIL was found unconscious about 1-2 months ago on one of his

demands to go to HIS house. His girlfriend fed him cake and candy

because he has a sweet tooth...well, he also has diabetes. We know he

fell sometime between 9PM and 11AM, no one can piece the details

completely. While in the hospital for 3 days, he had no idea who

anyone was, and apparently became quite verbally abusive to those at

the hospital. Since his release he has moved in with us. Before, I

thought much of his actions were made up for attention. Seeing him on

a daily basis I'm seeing it is not make believe. He's chatting with

his invisible friends now, asking if he should wake them for dinner.

We tell him they must be tired so maybe it's best to let them rest.

He seems to be struggling with memory issues which is made worst when

he thinks his son is a complete stranger out to take advantage of him.

Sometimes it's easier for me to deal with his situation because I

don't have the emotional ties like my husband does.

It's getting very difficult emotionally when he questions why we are

being so nice to him. He goes between we are out to steal his money,

glasses, phone, whatever is around him at that moment to depression.

He's sure that he heard the doctors say he has little time left.

Trying to figure out resources/information to give my husband to help

him cope with his father's illness. Between his hypersensitivity and

the lack of sensitivity brought about by LBD, most days have become a

very careful walk upon egg shells. When not angry over his fathers

lack of appreciation, he's riddled with guilt.

I've read all the pamphlets on caregiving. I know it's a brutal job,

but am having a difficult time giving suggestions. I've ended up as a

caregiver for my ex husband who passed on a few years ago. My skin

has toughened, but all the " don't take it personally, it's his disease

speaking " just seem to add to the frustration rather than help.

It's difficult to watch my FIL wither away from this disease, and get

concerned that the stress is going to take my husband to his grave

unless we can figure out how to help him cope.

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