Re: Millie mystery clues! OT, but rather interesting, and revealing!/Carol

January 20, 2008

That is so touching! Sometimes the worst brings out the best in us and now Jim

is reaching out to let you know his hurt and pain from years gone by. You can

connect the dots now to why he is so aloof to his mother.

adhd5464 wrote: You guys are getting to know me well

enough now and you know Jim is

pretty distant emotionally from his mother, and that is part of the

reason I am doing the caregiving!

Jim never talks about stuff and this morning he shared that when he

was a kid and was having asthma attacks and couldn't breathe, and

needed to go to the hospital, his mom always refused to take him, and

his Dad would have to override Millie and take him anyway!

I have been married to Jim for over 30 years, and this is the first

time I am hearing this story. What a telling story! I can certainly

undedratnd more of the dyanmics of their relationship.

Now he does all of her legal work and is the POA, but I can certainly

understand more now.

So, an upshot of LBD is that Jim is finally telling me things I

should have known 30 years ago.

I hope in his subconscious mind he doesn't think that I am aiding and

abetting the enemy. In his right mind, I know he doesn't feel that

way, but I can tell he is peeling away years of hurt, here!

So, through all of this, there is promise.

I just find it so incredible, and you are my cyber family, and I

needed to share with someone.

Carol

Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

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