new to the group, confused

[Guest guest]

Hello all, my name is Debbi. A little background info on me/hubby/us: I

am a 40 year old female. In 1988, I met a man who would later become my

husband. Later that year, I was involved in a tramatic car accident & suffered

a traumatic brain injury. After hospitialization & rehab, I remet this man and

began dating him. He was wonderful for me, as he had suffered a closed head

inury many years earlier. He seemed to understand a lot of what I was going

thru.

We have been married for almost 21 years now (WOW!!). We have two sons,

ages 15 & 10. Recently, we went back to our home state for a visit and his

sister-in-law told me, in private, that she suspects that Tim might suffer from

Aspergers Syndrome. She works with special needs populations in the public

schools so I value her opinion. She recalls my husband at a much younger age

and reflecting back, she can even recall traits at that time.

My husband has tried seeking answers before. He was convinced that he was

bi-polar for a while. What concerns me is that he thinks every condition is

curable with some sort of medication! I see a little obsessive behavior here.

Looking at asperger websites, I understand a lot! Tim is an accounting

manager at a local hotel. He is VERY good at his job, yet I manage our families

finances?? He is often distant in social settings, even within our immediate

family! I need advice on what to do first!!! ¢¾ Thanks ¢¾

[Guest guest]

> My husband has tried seeking answers before. He was convinced that he was

bi-polar for a while. What concerns me is that he thinks every condition is

curable with some sort of medication! I see a little obsessive behavior here.

Welcome! Keep reading here, I think you'll learn a lot of useful things.

As far as medication, I'm sure your husband wouldn't take meds for blue eyes. AS

is a brain wiring condition, and won't respond to medication any more than eye

color does. While it's true that medication can help with some related

conditions, (anxiety, depression), the Aspie brain will always be an Aspie

brain.

--Liz

AS woman with AS ex-husband