Re: why do both man and woman cheat?

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What a relief Manish!

Thanks for the reasoning!

Parag

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why do both man and woman cheat?

came across this article on a blog. found it interesting. let's see what's

your

say..........

To be honest, both men and women cheat. But with that said, men are more

likely

than women to cheat and there are some important differences between the sexes

when it comes to cheating. In order to understand why men cheat, it helps to

understand what causes both men and women to be unfaithful.

The science of cheating is very clear on this point: Roughly 3% of all

mammals,

including humans, practice what is called pair bonding or monogamous mating.

However, even within the 3% of mammals that practice monogamy, very few

species,

including humans, are truly monogamous. In fact, when it comes to both men and

women, monogamy is not our natural sexual strategy.

To make a long story short, for millions of years, the desire to mate with

multiple partners was a very useful reproductive strategy. Men and women, who

cheated on a partner, were more likely to succeed at having more children than

people who were completely faithful to a mate. Cheating was a strategy to

increase reproductive success and diversify risk. Or think about it this way:

investing in a mutual fund (multiple stocks) is, on average, a better

financial

strategy than putting all of your resources into a single stock. Because

cheating

was a better reproductive strategy than monogamy, all of the men and women who

are

alive today are the descendants of people, who for millions of years had the

propensity or the desire to cheat on a partner. Simply put, we have inherited

this trait from our ancestors – it is a part of our human nature. This does

not

mean that everyone will cheat on a partner or that people are fully aware of

their

unconscious sexual desires.

How are men and women different when it comes to cheating?

While both men and women cheat, there are important sex differences when it

comes

to cheating. The sex differences that influence cheating are based on two

basic

biological differences between men and women.

First, men and women differ when it comes to eggs and sperm. Men can produce

hundreds of millions of sperm per day. By comparison, women are born with a

million or so eggs, but only a fraction, roughly one egg released every 28

days

over a short period of time - from puberty to menopause - has the potential to

create life. Simply stated, women have about 400 viable eggs to use (and

taking

into account gestation, only about 20 actual opportunities to reproduce),

while

men are capable of producing billions and billions of sperm.

The second basic biological difference deals with gestation. Embryos grow and

develop in women, not men. For men, reproduction can literally take just a few

minutes of effort; while for women it involves, at the very least, a

nine-month

process.

From a biological point of view, men can constantly and quickly engage in

reproduction while women are much more limited in their ability to do so.

These biological differences influenced our psychological desires before the

invention of modern forms of birth control and still influence our unconscious

sexual desires today. Men are more likely than women to think about sex and

fantasize about having sex with multiple partners. In fact, a multi-billion

dollar industry - pornography - exploits this basic sexual difference.

Given this basic biological difference, here are some key differences between

men

and women when it comes to cheating:

Men are more likely than women to cheat with someone who is less attractive

than

their current partner. Women cheat up while men are more opportunistic when it

comes to cheating.

Men are more likely than women to have a one-night stand. Women are more prone

to

having emotional affairs.

Men are less likely to consider leaving their partners after cheating. When

women

cheat, it tends to be more emotionally involved so they are more likely to

consider ending their current relationship.

Men are more likely than women to repeatedly cheat on a spouse or partner

manish kothari