Guest guest Posted July 8, 2012 Report Share Posted July 8, 2012 Bharat Sir  I found your article very tastefully written & crisp. The language is simple & easy to understand even for a great Hinglish pundit like me! The article is a purists view of assesing a person. To my mind, one only makes acquaintainces after a certain age & time. These are people who can be useful to one's life & are probably honest to one in this while. Let us all think carefully how many real friends have we made in the last 10 years. I am sure the number is far & few. The changing times has made it even tougher to rely on any person to be called as friend in a short period & is a tough ask i believe. I think the real friends are all made in one's childhood or college days & those associations are very honest & without expectations from one another....lets see how many agree with me!  Rakesh My Best Regds  Rakesh Khera Sr Consultant Dept Of Urology,Robotics & Renal transplant Medanta Medicity Gurgaon Cell- 9810549377 Subject: The People We Meet To: " mgims " <mgims > Date: Sunday, July 8, 2012, 4:10 PM   I need not explain why I have written this piece. I would like to have your comments on its quality. Please pay attention to language (Is it easy to understand?), coherence (Do the thoughts flow out smoothly and are they linked properly?) and logic (Have different points been explained adequately and convincingly? ).                                The People We Meet We meet a number of persons routinely for various reasons and in different circumstances. A few of them become our friends. Others are just social acquaintances. Then there are those who spend a lot of time with us at the workplace. Everyone has different opinions and feelings about the people in their contact. In some way or the other, we tend to assess anybody we meet. This judgment decides how close the other person would be. It also helps us know how much we value that person and how enjoyable a relationship with him would be. We carry out this social appraisal all the time. It happens automatically and subconsciously.    We can apply some deliberate methods to evaluate a person. First, it should be clear as to what needs to be checked. One would naturally like to know as much as possible about others. Sometimes a complete assessment is imperative in formal settings. For a simple assessment, one needs to know personal, social and functional attributes of the person. An idea about that person’s intelligence, communication skills and interests will complete the picture.  Knowing a person completely is an elaborate process because of the complex structure of every personality. Therefore, only a few easily observable and understandable attributes should be the focus. These qualities are also important because they are reflective of our basic personality and denote our real worth as a person. Our personality is the basis for the people to like us and establish a bond. The important personal qualities are as follows: 1.   Honesty   It represents righteousness. Honesty gives solidity to our personality. An honest person will be seen as credible and reliable. 2.   Confidence    A person’s confidence reflects his self-esteem. Confidence enables a man to handle all situations easily and effectively. 3.   Rationality   It is easy to understand and accept a person with rational thinking. Rationality has a tremendous effect on the functional life because it is equated with reasoning, problem solving and decision-making. 4.   Consideration   A considerate person has due concern for others. He respects their views and makes concessions for their feelings. He has patience for people with a different and, sometimes, difficult nature, He has more tolerance and acceptance for their shortcomings. This quality is essential for a true and long-lasting friendship. 5.   Modesty   Modesty is a sign of greatness. A        modest person will never be overbearing with others. He has the ability to see his abilities and achievements in perspective. 6.   Warmth   It is a special quality: easily felt, but difficult to describe. We immediately know when we meet a person with an open mind and a warm heart. One feels comfortable and good in the company of a warm person.  “Man is a social animal†is an age-old cliché. However, this aphorism and its meaning will be pertinent eternally. Everybody has a status and role in the society. However, at the basic level, we are interested in a person’s behavior in the common social settings. In such circumstances, we are judged by the degree of our social refinement and adaptability. Our sociability is the factor that makes others pleased with us.  Everyone spends a large part of his life as a functional entity. We have to undertake some work either for a living or, in a few cases, driven by a personal or public cause. The output of our work and its quality defines our functional capacity. In our work, it is important to have compatibility with others. This enables us to integrate our ideas and initiatives with those of people working with a similar purpose. Others also assess us with regard to the positive (and the negative) influence that we have on them. Authority is an integral part of our functional life. Our response to superiors in the hierarchy shows our firmness (not to be confused with rigidity) in our principles and the flexibility (not to be confused with submissiveness) in our approach. Since power is an important test of a person’s beliefs and values, people always watch us to know how we use the authority vested in our position. We demonstrate our maturity and justness through our authority. People constantly evaluate and appreciate our functional accomplishments.  We feel real enjoyment in certain relationships. Going beyond enjoyment, some experiences lead to enrichment. It is a privilege to be with an intelligent person. Common interests give depth to our relationships. Even a person with a sharp intellect and varied interests should be able to communicate his thoughts coherently and precisely to engage others meaningfully. People who can match your intelligence, share your interests and comfort you with their conversations have a special place in your life.  There is a considerable overlap between the different aspects of our character. We do not always deal with others in totality. There are situations when we interact with people in a restricted manner. Notwithstanding the nature and the strength of our relationship with a person, we still assess him against our own and the general standards. The real assessment demands that the assessor himself should have a stable and positive personality without any gross aberrations. We must judge ourselves before we decide to judge others. Bharat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2012 Report Share Posted July 8, 2012 Bharat, Please pay attention to language (Is it easy to understand?) YES , coherence (Do the thoughts flow out smoothly and are they linked properly?) YES and logic (Have different points been explained adequately and convincingly? ). YES Coming to the people we meet. Over the last many years 99% of the people I met have been my patients. And I didn't ever need to judge them on any socio-economic guidelines because the intention was never to form friendship. However a different kind of relationship developed as we all term it the patient - doctor relationship. Some considered me close and I was invited to birthdays, anniversaries, weddings and even trayodashi sanskars. Therefore on happy and sad occasions. But that I wouldn't term friendship. Talking about friendship - 99% of the friends that I have (my " good friends " ) are either those whom I know since school, or those who lived in my neighborhood (they have now moved away and I'm still in touch and still consider them good friends), or my batchmates from college, colleagues with whom I have worked under the same roof. They are my good friends. But the last category are friends because we share a common profession, interest, schedule, etc. If you note from the above, judgmental attitude may work at a subconscious level - but that's about all. Ravin '82 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2012 Report Share Posted July 8, 2012 Dear Bharat, I have gone trough your writings and(sorry to say), I feel that you have deviated from your original line of thought as you have progressed in your writings. Are you trying to analyze as to what constitutes a real friendship vis-a-vis a mere casual acquaintence? Or, are you trying to analyze as to how does a true friend come to our life and how does that person stay there and for how long ? Or, do you want to know the qualities that fit into a befitting " true " friend ???? We all are aware that we make a select group of friends as we go along in life. They are there to stay as a permanent phenomenon..whether we like it or not. That special relationship can not be replicated ever. However, we should not belittle the importance of our acquaintences. They constitute our daily lifestyle and are the basis of what we do and respond on a day-2-day basis. They can-not be wished away and they are the ones who shape our understanding and our everyday behavioural patterns. If we are in a pensive mood at the end of the day or we loose our sleep in the night , it is because of these people and not because of people whom we have known all our life, are comfortable with, but, still manage to meet them probably once a year.. Food for thought ...... Sunil Takiar(76) ________________________________ To: mgims <mgims > Sent: Sunday, 8 July 2012 4:10 PM Subject: The People We Meet   I need not explain why I have written this piece. I would like to have your comments on its quality. Please pay attention to language (Is it easy to understand?), coherence (Do the thoughts flow out smoothly and are they linked properly?) and logic (Have different points been explained adequately and convincingly? ).                                The People We Meet We meet a number of persons routinely for various reasons and in different circumstances. A few of them become our friends. Others are just social acquaintances. Then there are those who spend a lot of time with us at the workplace. Everyone has different opinions and feelings about the people in their contact. In some way or the other, we tend to assess anybody we meet. This judgment decides how close the other person would be. It also helps us know how much we value that person and how enjoyable a relationship with him would be. We carry out this social appraisal all the time. It happens automatically and subconsciously.    We can apply some deliberate methods to evaluate a person. First, it should be clear as to what needs to be checked. One would naturally like to know as much as possible about others. Sometimes a complete assessment is imperative in formal settings. For a simple assessment, one needs to know personal, social and functional attributes of the person. An idea about that person’s intelligence, communication skills and interests will complete the picture.  Knowing a person completely is an elaborate process because of the complex structure of every personality. Therefore, only a few easily observable and understandable attributes should be the focus. These qualities are also important because they are reflective of our basic personality and denote our real worth as a person. Our personality is the basis for the people to like us and establish a bond. The important personal qualities are as follows: 1.   Honesty   It represents righteousness. Honesty gives solidity to our personality. An honest person will be seen as credible and reliable. 2.   Confidence    A person’s confidence reflects his self-esteem. Confidence enables a man to handle all situations easily and effectively. 3.   Rationality   It is easy to understand and accept a person with rational thinking. Rationality has a tremendous effect on the functional life because it is equated with reasoning, problem solving and decision-making. 4.   Consideration   A considerate person has due concern for others. He respects their views and makes concessions for their feelings. He has patience for people with a different and, sometimes, difficult nature, He has more tolerance and acceptance for their shortcomings. This quality is essential for a true and long-lasting friendship. 5.   Modesty   Modesty is a sign of greatness. A        modest person will never be overbearing with others. He has the ability to see his abilities and achievements in perspective. 6.   Warmth   It is a special quality: easily felt, but difficult to describe. We immediately know when we meet a person with an open mind and a warm heart. One feels comfortable and good in the company of a warm person.  “Man is a social animal†is an age-old cliché. However, this aphorism and its meaning will be pertinent eternally. Everybody has a status and role in the society. However, at the basic level, we are interested in a person’s behavior in the common social settings. In such circumstances, we are judged by the degree of our social refinement and adaptability. Our sociability is the factor that makes others pleased with us.  Everyone spends a large part of his life as a functional entity. We have to undertake some work either for a living or, in a few cases, driven by a personal or public cause. The output of our work and its quality defines our functional capacity. In our work, it is important to have compatibility with others. This enables us to integrate our ideas and initiatives with those of people working with a similar purpose. Others also assess us with regard to the positive (and the negative) influence that we have on them. Authority is an integral part of our functional life. Our response to superiors in the hierarchy shows our firmness (not to be confused with rigidity) in our principles and the flexibility (not to be confused with submissiveness) in our approach. Since power is an important test of a person’s beliefs and values, people always watch us to know how we use the authority vested in our position. We demonstrate our maturity and justness through our authority. People constantly evaluate and appreciate our functional accomplishments.  We feel real enjoyment in certain relationships. Going beyond enjoyment, some experiences lead to enrichment. It is a privilege to be with an intelligent person. Common interests give depth to our relationships. Even a person with a sharp intellect and varied interests should be able to communicate his thoughts coherently and precisely to engage others meaningfully. People who can match your intelligence, share your interests and comfort you with their conversations have a special place in your life.  There is a considerable overlap between the different aspects of our character. We do not always deal with others in totality. There are situations when we interact with people in a restricted manner. Notwithstanding the nature and the strength of our relationship with a person, we still assess him against our own and the general standards. The real assessment demands that the assessor himself should have a stable and positive personality without any gross aberrations. We must judge ourselves before we decide to judge others. Bharat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2012 Report Share Posted July 9, 2012 I was very specific when I asked for your comments. It was strictly about the three questions at the beginning. There was no intention to talk about friendship. In fact, there is no mention of friendship in the article. Also, there is no attempt to categorise people as good or bad (they are what they are and they will be what they will be). I was simply interested in knowing your opinion about the technical quality of the write-up. However, whatever else anybody has to say is welcome. I am sure it would be interesting. Bharat ________________________________ To: " mgims " <mgims > Sent: Monday, 9 July 2012 12:00 AM Subject: Re: The People We Meet  Dear Bharat, I have gone trough your writings and(sorry to say), I feel that you have deviated from your original line of thought as you have progressed in your writings. Are you trying to analyze as to what constitutes a real friendship vis-a-vis a mere casual acquaintence? Or, are you trying to analyze as to how does a true friend come to our life and how does that person stay there and for how long ? Or, do you want to know the qualities that fit into a befitting " true " friend ???? We all are aware that we make a select group of friends as we go along in life. They are there to stay as a permanent phenomenon..whether we like it or not. That special relationship can not be replicated ever. However, we should not belittle the importance of our acquaintences. They constitute our daily lifestyle and are the basis of what we do and respond on a day-2-day basis. They can-not be wished away and they are the ones who shape our understanding and our everyday behavioural patterns. If we are in a pensive mood at the end of the day or we loose our sleep in the night , it is because of these people and not because of people whom we have known all our life, are comfortable with, but, still manage to meet them probably once a year.. Food for thought ...... Sunil Takiar(76) ________________________________ To: mgims <mgims > Sent: Sunday, 8 July 2012 4:10 PM Subject: The People We Meet   I need not explain why I have written this piece. I would like to have your comments on its quality. Please pay attention to language (Is it easy to understand?), coherence (Do the thoughts flow out smoothly and are they linked properly?) and logic (Have different points been explained adequately and convincingly? ).                                The People We Meet We meet a number of persons routinely for various reasons and in different circumstances. A few of them become our friends. Others are just social acquaintances. Then there are those who spend a lot of time with us at the workplace. Everyone has different opinions and feelings about the people in their contact. In some way or the other, we tend to assess anybody we meet. This judgment decides how close the other person would be. It also helps us know how much we value that person and how enjoyable a relationship with him would be. We carry out this social appraisal all the time. It happens automatically and subconsciously.    We can apply some deliberate methods to evaluate a person. First, it should be clear as to what needs to be checked. One would naturally like to know as much as possible about others. Sometimes a complete assessment is imperative in formal settings. For a simple assessment, one needs to know personal, social and functional attributes of the person. An idea about that person’s intelligence, communication skills and interests will complete the picture.  Knowing a person completely is an elaborate process because of the complex structure of every personality. Therefore, only a few easily observable and understandable attributes should be the focus. These qualities are also important because they are reflective of our basic personality and denote our real worth as a person. Our personality is the basis for the people to like us and establish a bond. The important personal qualities are as follows: 1.   Honesty   It represents righteousness. Honesty gives solidity to our personality. An honest person will be seen as credible and reliable. 2.   Confidence    A person’s confidence reflects his self-esteem. Confidence enables a man to handle all situations easily and effectively. 3.   Rationality   It is easy to understand and accept a person with rational thinking. Rationality has a tremendous effect on the functional life because it is equated with reasoning, problem solving and decision-making. 4.   Consideration   A considerate person has due concern for others. He respects their views and makes concessions for their feelings. He has patience for people with a different and, sometimes, difficult nature, He has more tolerance and acceptance for their shortcomings. This quality is essential for a true and long-lasting friendship. 5.   Modesty   Modesty is a sign of greatness. A        modest person will never be overbearing with others. He has the ability to see his abilities and achievements in perspective. 6.   Warmth   It is a special quality: easily felt, but difficult to describe. We immediately know when we meet a person with an open mind and a warm heart. One feels comfortable and good in the company of a warm person.  “Man is a social animal†is an age-old cliché. However, this aphorism and its meaning will be pertinent eternally. Everybody has a status and role in the society. However, at the basic level, we are interested in a person’s behavior in the common social settings. In such circumstances, we are judged by the degree of our social refinement and adaptability. Our sociability is the factor that makes others pleased with us.  Everyone spends a large part of his life as a functional entity. We have to undertake some work either for a living or, in a few cases, driven by a personal or public cause. The output of our work and its quality defines our functional capacity. In our work, it is important to have compatibility with others. This enables us to integrate our ideas and initiatives with those of people working with a similar purpose. Others also assess us with regard to the positive (and the negative) influence that we have on them. Authority is an integral part of our functional life. Our response to superiors in the hierarchy shows our firmness (not to be confused with rigidity) in our principles and the flexibility (not to be confused with submissiveness) in our approach. Since power is an important test of a person’s beliefs and values, people always watch us to know how we use the authority vested in our position. We demonstrate our maturity and justness through our authority. People constantly evaluate and appreciate our functional accomplishments.  We feel real enjoyment in certain relationships. Going beyond enjoyment, some experiences lead to enrichment. It is a privilege to be with an intelligent person. Common interests give depth to our relationships. Even a person with a sharp intellect and varied interests should be able to communicate his thoughts coherently and precisely to engage others meaningfully. People who can match your intelligence, share your interests and comfort you with their conversations have a special place in your life.  There is a considerable overlap between the different aspects of our character. We do not always deal with others in totality. There are situations when we interact with people in a restricted manner. Notwithstanding the nature and the strength of our relationship with a person, we still assess him against our own and the general standards. The real assessment demands that the assessor himself should have a stable and positive personality without any gross aberrations. We must judge ourselves before we decide to judge others. Bharat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2012 Report Share Posted July 10, 2012 Dear Bharat, Wonderful,is the word which comes after reading your article.Even I had same thoughts about the people , but you could very nicely put it into clear words and precise manner. Keep it up ,all of us are witnessing the birth of a great literary talent ! V.K.Gupta 76 ________________________________ To: mgims <mgims > Sent: Sunday, 8 July 2012 4:10 PM Subject: The People We Meet   I need not explain why I have written this piece. I would like to have your comments on its quality. Please pay attention to language (Is it easy to understand?), coherence (Do the thoughts flow out smoothly and are they linked properly?) and logic (Have different points been explained adequately and convincingly? ).                                The People We Meet We meet a number of persons routinely for various reasons and in different circumstances. A few of them become our friends. Others are just social acquaintances. Then there are those who spend a lot of time with us at the workplace. Everyone has different opinions and feelings about the people in their contact. In some way or the other, we tend to assess anybody we meet. This judgment decides how close the other person would be. It also helps us know how much we value that person and how enjoyable a relationship with him would be. We carry out this social appraisal all the time. It happens automatically and subconsciously.    We can apply some deliberate methods to evaluate a person. First, it should be clear as to what needs to be checked. One would naturally like to know as much as possible about others. Sometimes a complete assessment is imperative in formal settings. For a simple assessment, one needs to know personal, social and functional attributes of the person. An idea about that person’s intelligence, communication skills and interests will complete the picture.  Knowing a person completely is an elaborate process because of the complex structure of every personality. Therefore, only a few easily observable and understandable attributes should be the focus. These qualities are also important because they are reflective of our basic personality and denote our real worth as a person. Our personality is the basis for the people to like us and establish a bond. The important personal qualities are as follows: 1.   Honesty   It represents righteousness. Honesty gives solidity to our personality. An honest person will be seen as credible and reliable. 2.   Confidence    A person’s confidence reflects his self-esteem. Confidence enables a man to handle all situations easily and effectively. 3.   Rationality   It is easy to understand and accept a person with rational thinking. Rationality has a tremendous effect on the functional life because it is equated with reasoning, problem solving and decision-making. 4.   Consideration   A considerate person has due concern for others. He respects their views and makes concessions for their feelings. He has patience for people with a different and, sometimes, difficult nature, He has more tolerance and acceptance for their shortcomings. This quality is essential for a true and long-lasting friendship. 5.   Modesty   Modesty is a sign of greatness. A        modest person will never be overbearing with others. He has the ability to see his abilities and achievements in perspective. 6.   Warmth   It is a special quality: easily felt, but difficult to describe. We immediately know when we meet a person with an open mind and a warm heart. One feels comfortable and good in the company of a warm person.  “Man is a social animal†is an age-old cliché. However, this aphorism and its meaning will be pertinent eternally. Everybody has a status and role in the society. However, at the basic level, we are interested in a person’s behavior in the common social settings. In such circumstances, we are judged by the degree of our social refinement and adaptability. Our sociability is the factor that makes others pleased with us.  Everyone spends a large part of his life as a functional entity. We have to undertake some work either for a living or, in a few cases, driven by a personal or public cause. The output of our work and its quality defines our functional capacity. In our work, it is important to have compatibility with others. This enables us to integrate our ideas and initiatives with those of people working with a similar purpose. Others also assess us with regard to the positive (and the negative) influence that we have on them. Authority is an integral part of our functional life. Our response to superiors in the hierarchy shows our firmness (not to be confused with rigidity) in our principles and the flexibility (not to be confused with submissiveness) in our approach. Since power is an important test of a person’s beliefs and values, people always watch us to know how we use the authority vested in our position. We demonstrate our maturity and justness through our authority. People constantly evaluate and appreciate our functional accomplishments.  We feel real enjoyment in certain relationships. Going beyond enjoyment, some experiences lead to enrichment. It is a privilege to be with an intelligent person. Common interests give depth to our relationships. Even a person with a sharp intellect and varied interests should be able to communicate his thoughts coherently and precisely to engage others meaningfully. People who can match your intelligence, share your interests and comfort you with their conversations have a special place in your life.  There is a considerable overlap between the different aspects of our character. We do not always deal with others in totality. There are situations when we interact with people in a restricted manner. Notwithstanding the nature and the strength of our relationship with a person, we still assess him against our own and the general standards. The real assessment demands that the assessor himself should have a stable and positive personality without any gross aberrations. We must judge ourselves before we decide to judge others. Bharat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2012 Report Share Posted July 11, 2012 Hi Bharat ! Friendship just happens when u like/vibe with some one ! Its not something deliberate post analysis or planned !! Few people get close to u easily and few don't despite efforts !Friends may not have all the great qualities u expect but u like them as they anyway !! Bye friend ! Vinchy Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless device The People We Meet   I need not explain why I have written this piece. I would like to have your comments on its quality. Please pay attention to language (Is it easy to understand?), coherence (Do the thoughts flow out smoothly and are they linked properly?) and logic (Have different points been explained adequately and convincingly? ).                                The People We Meet We meet a number of persons routinely for various reasons and in different circumstances. A few of them become our friends. Others are just social acquaintances. Then there are those who spend a lot of time with us at the workplace. Everyone has different opinions and feelings about the people in their contact. In some way or the other, we tend to assess anybody we meet. This judgment decides how close the other person would be. It also helps us know how much we value that person and how enjoyable a relationship with him would be. We carry out this social appraisal all the time. It happens automatically and subconsciously.    We can apply some deliberate methods to evaluate a person. First, it should be clear as to what needs to be checked. One would naturally like to know as much as possible about others. Sometimes a complete assessment is imperative in formal settings. For a simple assessment, one needs to know personal, social and functional attributes of the person. An idea about that person’s intelligence, communication skills and interests will complete the picture.  Knowing a person completely is an elaborate process because of the complex structure of every personality. Therefore, only a few easily observable and understandable attributes should be the focus. These qualities are also important because they are reflective of our basic personality and denote our real worth as a person. Our personality is the basis for the people to like us and establish a bond. The important personal qualities are as follows: 1.   Honesty   It represents righteousness. Honesty gives solidity to our personality. An honest person will be seen as credible and reliable. 2.   Confidence    A person’s confidence reflects his self-esteem. Confidence enables a man to handle all situations easily and effectively. 3.   Rationality   It is easy to understand and accept a person with rational thinking. Rationality has a tremendous effect on the functional life because it is equated with reasoning, problem solving and decision-making. 4.   Consideration   A considerate person has due concern for others. He respects their views and makes concessions for their feelings. He has patience for people with a different and, sometimes, difficult nature, He has more tolerance and acceptance for their shortcomings. This quality is essential for a true and long-lasting friendship. 5.   Modesty   Modesty is a sign of greatness. A        modest person will never be overbearing with others. He has the ability to see his abilities and achievements in perspective. 6.   Warmth   It is a special quality: easily felt, but difficult to describe. We immediately know when we meet a person with an open mind and a warm heart. One feels comfortable and good in the company of a warm person.  “Man is a social animal†is an age-old cliché. However, this aphorism and its meaning will be pertinent eternally. Everybody has a status and role in the society. However, at the basic level, we are interested in a person’s behavior in the common social settings. In such circumstances, we are judged by the degree of our social refinement and adaptability. Our sociability is the factor that makes others pleased with us.  Everyone spends a large part of his life as a functional entity. We have to undertake some work either for a living or, in a few cases, driven by a personal or public cause. The output of our work and its quality defines our functional capacity. In our work, it is important to have compatibility with others. This enables us to integrate our ideas and initiatives with those of people working with a similar purpose. Others also assess us with regard to the positive (and the negative) influence that we have on them. Authority is an integral part of our functional life. Our response to superiors in the hierarchy shows our firmness (not to be confused with rigidity) in our principles and the flexibility (not to be confused with submissiveness) in our approach. Since power is an important test of a person’s beliefs and values, people always watch us to know how we use the authority vested in our position. We demonstrate our maturity and justness through our authority. People constantly evaluate and appreciate our functional accomplishments.  We feel real enjoyment in certain relationships. Going beyond enjoyment, some experiences lead to enrichment. It is a privilege to be with an intelligent person. Common interests give depth to our relationships. Even a person with a sharp intellect and varied interests should be able to communicate his thoughts coherently and precisely to engage others meaningfully. People who can match your intelligence, share your interests and comfort you with their conversations have a special place in your life.  There is a considerable overlap between the different aspects of our character. We do not always deal with others in totality. There are situations when we interact with people in a restricted manner. Notwithstanding the nature and the strength of our relationship with a person, we still assess him against our own and the general standards. The real assessment demands that the assessor himself should have a stable and positive personality without any gross aberrations. We must judge ourselves before we decide to judge others. Bharat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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