Sexual encounters of the third kind.... :(

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Ok, not sure if I am on my own, but I find that Jon is a little (read as very)

inconsiderate in the bedroom, leaving me feeling rather more like a housekeeper

come prostitute. We actually managed to 'have it off' on Monday after a long

period of time with no contact. After, I took time to explain to him that as a

rule, doing it at bedtime would not be ideal as I have to take medication which

makes me really sleepy, so it's not the nicest experience for me.

Then yesterday pm, I said to him 'I am available for having sex, you just need

to let me know when you fancy it, so I can make sure I am not half way through

cooking dinner and so on.'

Then fast forward to bed time. I hear him splashing in the bedroom, which he

doesn't normally do. Asked what he was up to, and he said he was washing his

privates ready for sex. I had to turn him down as I was well on the way with my

sleepy meds, and really he'd not given me any interaction, any affection

whatsoever, just assumed I was permanently 'open for business'. And had

conveniently forgotten everything to do with getting ready for sex that he has

read, about foreplay, about hugs, all the discussions we've had about intimacy,

about my fire needing fanning before sex as I am not a machine. And previous

approaches he has made in the more considerate ways, I know he can do it and

make it a lovely experience.

I feel really deflated and disappointed. He was just lazy, and I need to broach

it with him, as it means a lot to me to get this sorted, especially if we're

meant to be trying for a baby in the next few months!!! I don't want it to be a

mechanical experience!

Any advice from anyone!?