Guest guest Posted February 13, 2008 Report Share Posted February 13, 2008 Hi, , I know it is very upsetting when a LO refuses to eat. This could just be a temporary thing for your dad. See how he does over the next few days. My dad would have days when he was just so tired, and ate very little, then he would bounce back somewhat. He eventually did stop eating, but that was later. You will know within a few days what is happening. Let us know how he is doing whenever you can. I will be keeping you and your dad in my thoughts. Hugs, Piper **************The year's hottest artists on the red carpet at the Grammy Awards. Go to AOL Music. (http://music.aol.com/grammys?NCID=aolcmp00300000002565) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2008 Report Share Posted February 13, 2008 , I would also check and see what meds he is getting. Some meds depress the appetite. Maybe some can be cut back a little. To often in nhs, to many drugs are given. Just a thought. Donna R Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine. Refusal to EAT My 94 year old father in a NH refused to eat lunch or dinner yesterday...saying he was too weak,too tired, and not hungry. They did manage to coherce him into eating some breakfast today by telling him they would put him right back to bed after he ate something. He ate very little and then requested they put him back to bed. Does anyone have experience with this? When I go to visit, which I do daily, he is on his bed, very little conversation and pretty flat affect. Any help apprecciated. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2008 Report Share Posted February 20, 2008 dianne daddy went thru on/off eating habits, and then he went thru sweets,hewould eat boxes of cookies at a siting and since he was not diabetic i figured some food if better than no food, but he did eat his regular food, could it be he is having trouble cutting his food, or chewing it or swallowing and is choking and may need to go to pureed foods, or like anything with lbd a stage that he will come/go out of it. how is mom doing with the help, is she able to rest more and is he treating her better since she isntthe bad guy, to make him do things he doesn t want to do. how are yu and tom doing, are you iwth your parents more now or still traveling a lot??? think about you often hugs.sharon Dianne wrote: My dad is at home with 24/7 caregivers and my mom. Mom's life seems to revolve around what she's going to fix him for lunch and dinner each day. The caregiver gets him out of bed around 1 pm for lunch--that's his first meal of the day--and then dinner is around 7 pm. Some days he will clean his plate at both meals and he always looks forward to an afternoon snack of M & Ms or something like crackers and cheese and his dessert of ice cream or cookies after dinner. He eats well most days. Some days, however, he won't eat anything (or if he does it's very little) for lunch or dinner. My mom worries constantly when that happens and it may last for a couple of days. Then it seems that he is back to his old self and ready to eat again. I can't really explain it, but on the days he doesn't want to eat he seems physically weaker--needing more assistance to walk and wanting to be in bed more. Then when he " snaps out of it " he goes back to being a bit more wakeful during the day, more steady on his feet, even feeding himself rather than having the caregiver do it. I try to ease my mom's mind when he has those spells by telling her that he's not expending much energy and so isn't building up an appetite, but it could be that he's just exercising control over his life (like Sharon said). I wish I had an explanation... Dianne P daughter of Bill, 84 seanmhairx2 wrote: My 94 year old father in a NH refused to eat lunch or dinner yesterday...saying he was too weak,too tired, and not hungry. They did manage to coherce him into eating some breakfast today by telling him they would put him right back to bed after he ate something. He ate very little and then requested they put him back to bed. Does anyone have experience with this? When I go to visit, which I do daily, he is on his bed, very little conversation and pretty flat affect. Any help apprecciated. Thanks --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2008 Report Share Posted February 20, 2008 Dianne, Don't we all wish we had some explanations for some of the behavior. I remember all the guessing I did. Sometimes I got it and many times I didn't Hugs, Donna R. Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine. Re: Refusal to EAT My dad is at home with 24/7 caregivers and my mom. Mom's life seems to revolve around what she's going to fix him for lunch and dinner each day. The caregiver gets him out of bed around 1 pm for lunch--that's his first meal of the day--and then dinner is around 7 pm. Some days he will clean his plate at both meals and he always looks forward to an afternoon snack of M & Ms or something like crackers and cheese and his dessert of ice cream or cookies after dinner. He eats well most days. Some days, however, he won't eat anything (or if he does it's very little) for lunch or dinner. My mom worries constantly when that happens and it may last for a couple of days. Then it seems that he is back to his old self and ready to eat again. I can't really explain it, but on the days he doesn't want to eat he seems physically weaker--needing more assistance to walk and wanting to be in bed more. Then when he " snaps out of it " he goes back to being a bit more wakeful during the day, more steady on his feet, even feeding himself rather than having the caregiver do it. I try to ease my mom's mind when he has those spells by telling her that he's not expending much energy and so isn't building up an appetite, but it could be that he's just exercising control over his life (like Sharon said). I wish I had an explanation... Dianne P daughter of Bill, 84 seanmhairx2 wrote: My 94 year old father in a NH refused to eat lunch or dinner yesterday...saying he was too weak,too tired, and not hungry. They did manage to coherce him into eating some breakfast today by telling him they would put him right back to bed after he ate something. He ate very little and then requested they put him back to bed. Does anyone have experience with this? When I go to visit, which I do daily, he is on his bed, very little conversation and pretty flat affect. Any help apprecciated. Thanks --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2008 Report Share Posted February 21, 2008 We just took my grandmother in to see her PMD yesterday. He was very kind and open minded about adjusting her medication. One on his concerns is her blood sugar fluctuating extremely frequently. One day she might be in the low 30s and by the evening she's over 300. We explained to him that she refuses to eat frequently, and when she does, we insist in having her take a Diabetic Boost to supplement her meals. drinking fluids have also become a difficult task with her. Her physician wants us to consider a G-tube. He says that its important that she gets adequate fluids and nutrition for the best control of her sugar and electrolytes and preventing septic shocks. She would still eat what ever she wants whenever she wants too, but for those days that she refuses...we would use her G-Tube. So we asked if we can thin about it, and we will respond to his solution on next 's week appointment Donna Mido wrote: Dianne, Don't we all wish we had some explanations for some of the behavior. I remember all the guessing I did. Sometimes I got it and many times I didn't Hugs, Donna R. Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine. Re: Refusal to EAT My dad is at home with 24/7 caregivers and my mom. Mom's life seems to revolve around what she's going to fix him for lunch and dinner each day. The caregiver gets him out of bed around 1 pm for lunch--that's his first meal of the day--and then dinner is around 7 pm. Some days he will clean his plate at both meals and he always looks forward to an afternoon snack of M & Ms or something like crackers and cheese and his dessert of ice cream or cookies after dinner. He eats well most days. Some days, however, he won't eat anything (or if he does it's very little) for lunch or dinner. My mom worries constantly when that happens and it may last for a couple of days. Then it seems that he is back to his old self and ready to eat again. I can't really explain it, but on the days he doesn't want to eat he seems physically weaker--needing more assistance to walk and wanting to be in bed more. Then when he " snaps out of it " he goes back to being a bit more wakeful during the day, more steady on his feet, even feeding himself rather than having the caregiver do it. I try to ease my mom's mind when he has those spells by telling her that he's not expending much energy and so isn't building up an appetite, but it could be that he's just exercising control over his life (like Sharon said). I wish I had an explanation... Dianne P daughter of Bill, 84 seanmhairx2 wrote: My 94 year old father in a NH refused to eat lunch or dinner yesterday...saying he was too weak,too tired, and not hungry. They did manage to coherce him into eating some breakfast today by telling him they would put him right back to bed after he ate something. He ate very little and then requested they put him back to bed. Does anyone have experience with this? When I go to visit, which I do daily, he is on his bed, very little conversation and pretty flat affect. Any help apprecciated. Thanks --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2008 Report Share Posted February 21, 2008 Holly... One of the things we're facing now is that my mom will go for days without eating more than a couple of bites of food (usually pancakes), refuses most everything else, including Ensure...we did manage to get her to drink an occasional Carnation Instant Breakfast. When Mom was in the hospital, she pulled out catheters and IV's and all...I know she wouldn't sit still for a naso-gastric feeding tube, and God only knows what she would do with a gastric tube that was surgically implanted. We know that she's not going to get better. In fact, she continues a downhill slide, with only brief, intermittent periods of rational, clear thought. I just felt that the kindest, most loving thing to do was to let her choose the course she wants. There's no turning back the tide of LBD. I know that if she were thinking clearly, she would refuse one. I wouldn't do to her what she wouldn't want done if she were herself. Of course, that's just my feelings on the matter...you must make the choice you are most comfortable with. Jannis --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Thanks Pratt, I been thinking alot about the feeding tube and honestly I have mixed feelings about it. I am very confused and I wish my grandmother can tell me what her wishesd are, but this week, she had manu hallucinations and she seems to be living in a different era. I am confused....... Patti Winters wrote: Hi Holly, Have they tried anything to enhance appetite? The meds that are given for LBD often have a side effect of changing the flavor of foods or reducing the appetite. My MIL has been on Megace for a while now and is doing quite well on it. Patti > My 94 year old father in a NH refused to eat lunch or dinner > yesterday...saying he was too weak,too tired, and not hungry. They did > manage to coherce him into eating some breakfast today by telling him > they would put him right back to bed after he ate something. He ate > very little and then requested they put him back to bed. > > Does anyone have experience with this? > > When I go to visit, which I do daily, he is on his bed, very little > conversation and pretty flat affect. > > Any help apprecciated. > > Thanks > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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