Guest guest Posted August 25, 2012 Report Share Posted August 25, 2012 ... illustrating once again that AS or NS, men and women *are* different - Helen His & Her Diary from the Same Day http://imgur.com/6icZ3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2012 Report Share Posted August 25, 2012 Yeah, it definitely illustrates different thinking patterns, but it always annoys me when that image pops up with sexist comments, usually to the tune of " hur, hur, see? women are crazy. " The thing is, the same person can be think both ways. If I actually notice someone acting oddly, I wind up following the " her " pattern, trying and failing miserably at understanding the reasons behind the other person's change in behavior. But if I have a problem that I'm trying to solve, I'm totally in the " his " pattern of thinking, ignoring everything and everyone until I solve the problem. Okay, I'll stop here. The purpose was levity, and I started picking it apart. I'll just back away now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2012 Report Share Posted August 25, 2012 Hi , Most of comments to that humour piece were made tongue in cheek, but, concrete and literal thinker or not, we process them through the filters of our own experiences and the emotions they stir up, and some are bound to strike a nerve. A few of the comments really *are* infuriating (if not just stupid) but they do reinforce that the challenges that AS/NS couples face aren't unique at all. There is a broader issue of the great communication divide between " gender " " roles. " Now it is very interesting to hear your perspective on this one, . Please do go on. Dr. Gottman has been researching relationships for over 30 years, and has written articles, books and has many informative videos on what, in their observation, makes or breaks a relationship. I have posted links here before but can share again if anyone asks. Gottman has studied heterosexual and same sex relationships. The challenges couples face turn out to be very similar. I'm sure this is a surprise to many, as it is logical to assume that there would be fewer misunderstandings in same sex partnerships. Ah, there is much we need to understand about the relationship " roles " that each partner assumes. .. Others? - Helen > > Yeah, it definitely illustrates different thinking patterns, but it always > annoys me when that image pops up with sexist comments, usually to the tune > of " hur, hur, see? women are crazy. " > > > The thing is, the same person can be think both ways. If I actually notice > someone acting oddly, I wind up following the " her " pattern, trying and > failing miserably at understanding the reasons behind the other person's > change in behavior. But if I have a problem that I'm trying to solve, I'm > totally in the " his " pattern of thinking, ignoring everything and everyone > until I solve the problem. > > Okay, I'll stop here. The purpose was levity, and I started picking it > apart. I'll just back away now. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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