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Of course, back in those days neither one of us was aware of AS. From his NT perspective, he regarded me as self-centered, willful, disrespectful, and a spouse who did not really value the marriage. Any behavioral 'improvements' that I was able to make were simply too little, too late for him.CJ:This is so true of me and my marriage at the time. We had different skill sets when it came to AS and different time tables of the road to the mountain. It is easier to look back on your life and critique it through a different lens, then make the changes one needs to do at the time as you are so caught up in the moment. AS/NT relationships are not in the text books in Universities at this time, but hopefully that will change over time as there are several research projects waiting in the wings that have not been published. BUT, I am sure when the first study is published it will cause a flurry regardless of their results. Social norms take years to shift. We are still fighting civil rights and equality for women and autism rights are just in its infancy. Change never comes fast enough for the folks that feel the inequality the most. I like to think that there is more intelligent life on another planet, because surely we are not it. <wink>Best.