Update on Ron

[Guest guest]

To everyone in the group, a huge, huge thank you from Ron and myself

for keeping us in your thoughts, and all the prayers that were sent up

for Ron as he underwent his lateral internal sphincterotomy. He

returned home this afternoon around 2:30ish and the procedure went

very well. Unfortunately, he is in more pain now then before the

surgery and the Dr. says he will continue to be in pain for approx. a

week. But at least we are on the road to recovery. Yeah!! When I

left his home to return to mine, he was resting a little easier as the

double dose of Vicodin was taking its effect. He said to thank you

all! I would also like to say thank you for your warm welcoming

responses as I bared all today, I am so glad that its finally out in

the open and now that I am officially apart of your family you can

watch my grow........I have been waiting for what seems to be an

eternity to actually feel as if I could help Ron out with Bettys care

and it happened this week. On Tuesday, I got to stay with Betty for

just a couple of hours while Ron was out and his sister could not

cover, I was so happy. But when it was over, I feared it would be a

long time before I got that opportunity again. The very next morning

Rons sister forgot he needed coverage and I raced over once again,

staying with Betty for another couple of hours. Then I expressed my

feelings to Ron, if I could only win her trust and be able to dress

and bathe Betty, we might really stand a chance at being a complete

family and maybe eventually having Betty and Ron move in with me. He

agreed. Low and behold, two days later, which was today, I got the

opportunity to stay with her most of the day.....knowing she is used

to bathing once daily, I simply asked her, " would you like me to help

you with your bath today Betty " and she comfortably responded, " that

would be fine " . OMG I thought there was less than a 1% chance it

would happen today. I had Ron walk me thru how to dress and undress

an adult and the best way to get her in and out of the tub. It wasn't

the most thorough bath and somehow I was as wet as Betty, water all

over the floor, she even commented that I was getting a shower too, I

told her it would be our secret that we showered together today and

she laughed. I was very nervous. How wonderful it feels to actually

help someone. I work third shift at a prison, me, my partner and 240

inmates, its boring, and extremely unfulfilling. What a negative

environment. Been doing it for almost 11 years. What a blessing to

make something positive happen in my day. Sorry, I'm rambling, thank

you to all, I have learned so much from all of you. Can't wait to

meet you in August!

Holly aka