Guest guest Posted February 27, 2008 Report Share Posted February 27, 2008 donna j i am an only child and had my motives and my mans motives distruted, his sister and mother lived in ny city, my mom his ex wife lives in arizona and i moved in with donnie at dad s request, he told donnie you are not to work your job is to take care ofthis house and of me and sharon i make enough money for all of us to live off of. but he told his sister that donnie wasnt tryin g to work, we went thru hell , of course when daddy talked on phone with them it was showtime. keep your chin up and if you wish to email me personally as i too am an only child please feel free to hugs sharon donnasetapart wrote: You all have inspired me to charge on! To be honest, I have been sick and tired of dealing and fighting with my mom, the doctors, the nurses, the attorneys, family and everyone one else concerning my mom. The doctors just want to keep her 'comfortable', they mean sedated. The nurses just want her to stay off the call light and quit yelling out, resulting in sedation. Mom has always treated me bad which has resulted in the doctors questioning my motives. Like someone would deal with an LBD LO for money. There isn't enough money to replace the years of stress this causes. This has all resulted in a guardianship hearing on top of everything. I'm the only kid, how hard is this to figure out. But the attorney's need to 'win' their case so it's all about that and not mom's well being. During the first few months after diagnosis she convinced family and temporary roomates that I was the bad guy, so again I'm fighting. I was really considering letting it all work itself out on it's own, meaning 'sedation' and it would all be over soon enough. But after reading your words of encouragement, I have chosen to charge on! Tomorrow I'll be going to the behavioral unit and dealing with the doctor. I'll spend this afternoon becoming armed and dangerous. If this doctor does not listen, I will pursue one that will. So thank you all for holding my chin up and shoving me in the right direction:) You are all loved and appreciated for the work and time you spend supporting us worn out caregivers. love and hugs to all, Donna Jean --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2008 Report Share Posted February 27, 2008 --- Hi Donna This is awesome, it certainly sounds like you have them on the right track.My best to you Ron In LBDcaregivers , " donnasetapart " wrote: > > You all have inspired me to charge on! > > To be honest, I have been sick and tired of dealing and fighting with > my mom, the doctors, the nurses, the attorneys, family and everyone > one else concerning my mom. The doctors just want to keep > her 'comfortable', they mean sedated. The nurses just want her to > stay off the call light and quit yelling out, resulting in sedation. > Mom has always treated me bad which has resulted in the doctors > questioning my motives. Like someone would deal with an LBD LO for > money. There isn't enough money to replace the years of stress this > causes. This has all resulted in a guardianship hearing on top of > everything. I'm the only kid, how hard is this to figure out. But the > attorney's need to 'win' their case so it's all about that and not > mom's well being. During the first few months after diagnosis she > convinced family and temporary roomates that I was the bad guy, so > again I'm fighting. I was really considering letting it all work > itself out on it's own, meaning 'sedation' and it would all be over > soon enough. But after reading your words of encouragement, I have > chosen to charge on! > > Tomorrow I'll be going to the behavioral unit and dealing with the > doctor. I'll spend this afternoon becoming armed and dangerous. If > this doctor does not listen, I will pursue one that will. So thank > you all for holding my chin up and shoving me in the right > direction:) You are all loved and appreciated for the work and time > you spend supporting us worn out caregivers. > > love and hugs to all, > Donna Jean > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 Dear Donna - Way to go! Having been an abused child and teen - and my LBD'd mom's caregiver for nearly 5 years - I can relate to others' wondering about getting involved. Don't know how it will turn out for you; hopefully, as it has for me. Once my mom was on the meds she needed (and some of which would have helped her 30 years ago), all her cruelty and nastiness disappeared. She " remembers " good family times (not in my memory bank) and became actually warm and rather affectionate. However that goes, though, you have my admiration for joining your mom on her journey through LBD, and for your spirit. It will hold you in good stead - and please let me - and all of us here - know if and when we can be of help. Keep us posted! Lin dawgg4456 wrote: --- Hi Donna This is awesome, it certainly sounds like you have them on the right track.My best to you Ron In LBDcaregivers , " donnasetapart " wrote: > > You all have inspired me to charge on! > > To be honest, I have been sick and tired of dealing and fighting with > my mom, the doctors, the nurses, the attorneys, family and everyone > one else concerning my mom. The doctors just want to keep > her 'comfortable', they mean sedated. The nurses just want her to > stay off the call light and quit yelling out, resulting in sedation. > Mom has always treated me bad which has resulted in the doctors > questioning my motives. Like someone would deal with an LBD LO for > money. There isn't enough money to replace the years of stress this > causes. This has all resulted in a guardianship hearing on top of > everything. I'm the only kid, how hard is this to figure out. But the > attorney's need to 'win' their case so it's all about that and not > mom's well being. During the first few months after diagnosis she > convinced family and temporary roomates that I was the bad guy, so > again I'm fighting. I was really considering letting it all work > itself out on it's own, meaning 'sedation' and it would all be over > soon enough. But after reading your words of encouragement, I have > chosen to charge on! > > Tomorrow I'll be going to the behavioral unit and dealing with the > doctor. I'll spend this afternoon becoming armed and dangerous. If > this doctor does not listen, I will pursue one that will. So thank > you all for holding my chin up and shoving me in the right > direction:) You are all loved and appreciated for the work and time > you spend supporting us worn out caregivers. > > love and hugs to all, > Donna Jean > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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