Re: I need some help (LONG)

[Guest guest]

CJ,

I can only agree with the advice Bill

gave you dear. From what you say the following is clear:

They are not listening to you

They do not want to listen to what you

have to say

The group is dysfunctional and you seem

to be a lone voice trying to make them see things more objectively

So let them stew in their own juice

dear. Life is too short to try helping people who do not want help.

I know you have tried your best.

All the best

Greg dx AS at 53

[Guest guest]

CJ

I've dealt with abusive people in the 'here and now', both AS and not. For the sake of your health and sanity, walk away. There is nothing you can say that will get through to these people. Everything you have said shows that they are not interested in reality. Thus walking away is the only way to to tend to your own emotional health. The impact from them bullying you won't go away because you stay there where they can still bully you.

The impact on you will start to dissipate as soon as you are not longer in their presense and no longer being abused. Then over time you will start to see it with more clarity and will heal more and more as you realize even more than you do right now, how silly those people really are.

I'm attempting here to not just dismiss as you asked. But honestly, everything you wrote screams "Walk Away" in my gut.

I kind of sense though that you have a larger issue that is connected to this that is what you really want help with... ? But if so... I'm missing it...

Jennie AS

I need some help (LONG)

Please don't dismiss me by suggesting that I just quit this dysfunctional group where adult babies rule the day. I already know that I should have stopped throwing pearls before swine a long time ago.Right now, my primary concern is the impact that the bullying is having on my emotional health, mostly due to my awareness of being alone in the world to fend for myself in so many others ways. The bullying is yet another reminder that so few people are willing to step up and openly support me, instead of taking the easy route and allowing me to get thrown under a bus by those who yell the loudest. That my experience is likely to be invalidated by those who prefer to believe that Aspies are not capable of the type of behaviors I describe.is the loneliest feeling of all.I am rapidly coming to the point where I am beginning to avoid and mistrust Aspies who are not known and 'safe' to me. To me, the AS community has become a dangerous place where I have come to feel regarded as an "outsider" and an enemy because I am often perceived as "too high functioning" to be considered "one of us".Best,~CJ