Re: Re: Social cues as an adult

[Guest guest]

On Wed, 11 Jan 2012 at 19:30:22 -0000, gcaspiesinchatt wrote:

> Sure, I was gifted with being able to calculate numbers without the use of a

calculator and had superb spatial skills at a very young age, but that was about

it. I didn't talk until I was about three or four. I stuttered my words a lot

while in high school, and became increasingly frustrated during speech pathology

sessions. I saw English as a foreign language, and felt that math and music

should have been the world's official languages.

Hmmm... that's quite an interesting comment. So are you saying that

you're better at communicating in binary than you are with the spoken

and written word?

Just wondering if perhaps you've been missing your vocation and ought to

be more into coding and programming instead of struggling against the

odds in more conventional occupations??

[Guest guest]

Bill, CJ,

Yes, CJ remembers correctly and has it right. I'm 70 years old

and the " value " involved is multi-millions (at least in local currency)

so I just can't walk away from that. Where would I go anyway? For

such a serious move to another country, there'd have to be positive

reasons to go and settle there, not just negative ones to leave the

present one, so until I find those positive reasons, I just have to

try and make the best of a bad job.

I'm a UK citizen so I could go there, but it's cold and I'd have to

buy a house and set it all up on my own. start paying the UK tax man

and join the rat race again, and all for what? I don't have a

purpose; that's my main trouble.

But thanks for asking. I appreciate the thoughts, and it does

force me to try and re-assess (yet again) wtf I'm doing here.

--- Re: Re: Social cues as an adult

Date: Wed, 18 Jan 2012 02:46:33 -0800

Reply-To: aspires-relationships

To: aspires-relationships

WD Loughman wrote:

>

> I hesitated a long while -- whether or not to ask: If it truly is so

> bleak for the two of you, what's the point of staying together? Is

> there some value in it I'm missing??

>

Unless I'm confusing with another member, I seem remember a

previous post where the pragmatics of a split were discussed. Something

about the financial costs involved, and perhaps even a citizenship issue.

Sometimes couples remain together because it's just too darn complicated

and expensive to do otherwise. Especially when the individuals involved

are older folks.

Best,

~CJ