Gladys

[Guest guest]

{{{{{Gladys}}}}} It sounds like you're overwhelmed. If it can't be

done, it can't be done - we won't think any less of you. We can only do

so much and when help is not readily available it's even less time that

we're able to handle.

I know your mom is still getting settled - maybe she's not at her

baseline yet. Maybe you'll think differently once she's settled. You've

juggled so much in the past few weeks - YOU could use a break. Have you

looked into any respite services in your area yet? (those who have had

respite, pipe in here) A break might be just what you need to keep

going. If not, and it's that time to look into other living

arrangements, that's fine too. You should probably look into other

options anyway - just to be mentally prepared. But, who has the time?!

Actually there's a free service that does this - A Place for Mom

(http://www.aplaceformom.com) - they get a commission from the place

they find - they do all the searching for you - although when I used

them they still gave a # of referrals that you still had to take time

to check.

Anyway - hoping this feeling is another 'this too shall pass' and

things settle down for you. Getting that note from your sister doesn't

help matters either.

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[Guest guest]

Thanks,

After getting 's note, I took a deep breath and began to do my Sunday

catch up " cleaning. Ruthie went in to clean Mom's " place " . At my

suggestion, she asked Mom to help her dust because I don't think Mom should

just be " vegging " . Well, Mom couldn't do it. She just couldn't dust. She

almost fell on her head and couldn't figure out how to do it. So Ruthie

gave her a Clorox wipe and suggested she wipe out the sinks.

At any rate, after Ruthie went out, Mom called me in and let me have it in

spades because she doesn't like being treated like a maid and because I

made all kinds of promises to her and haven't kept one.... this is not HER

place and she shouldn't have to clean it.... etc., etc., etc. "

I wish I could say its the disease, but there are reasons why my sisters are

all screwed up. I think the big thing is that Mom no longer has the impulse

control to prevent herself from saying what she is thinking.

I'm just trying to stay patient and regroup with My Lord who is the only One

who can give me the strength to get through this.

I can't tell you how much it means to have you all here to vent to, but I

feel like I'm taking so much more than I'm giving. I feel so selfish.

Gladys

-- Gladys

{{{{{Gladys}}}}} It sounds like you're overwhelmed. If it can't be

done, it can't be done - we won't think any less of you. We can only do

so much and when help is not readily available it's even less time that

we're able to handle.

I know your mom is still getting settled - maybe she's not at her

baseline yet. Maybe you'll think differently once she's settled. You've

juggled so much in the past few weeks - YOU could use a break. Have you

looked into any respite services in your area yet? (those who have had

respite, pipe in here) A break might be just what you need to keep

going. If not, and it's that time to look into other living

arrangements, that's fine too. You should probably look into other

options anyway - just to be mentally prepared. But, who has the time?!

Actually there's a free service that does this - A Place for Mom

(http://www.aplaceformom.com) - they get a commission from the place

they find - they do all the searching for you - although when I used

them they still gave a # of referrals that you still had to take time

to check.

Anyway - hoping this feeling is another 'this too shall pass' and

things settle down for you. Getting that note from your sister doesn't

help matters either.

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> I don't think I can do this.......

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