Re: Social Cues as an Adult

[Guest guest]

Thanks on the luck comment, Bob. I have never won at the lottery or anything

else in my life. Knowing me, someone else is always winning money or whatever.

Sure, I was gifted with being able to calculate numbers without the use of a

calculator and had superb spatial skills at a very young age, but that was about

it. I didn't talk until I was about three or four. I stuttered my words a lot

while in high school, and became increasingly frustrated during speech pathology

sessions. I saw English as a foreign language, and felt that math and music

should have been the world's official languages. I only took three years of

English in high school (as that was the absolute minimum requirement when I was

in high school, so that is what I did), and did everything humanly possibly to

avoid taking English classes in the name of math and music. I flunked a

remedial English class the first time in college, before passing it the second

time. I flunked English 101 twice in a row before passing it a third time in

college.

Relationships were never an easy thing for me, as someone who has lived with

AS/HFA my entire life. I do know that my mom taught me how to respect women,

and I thank her for it. I asked one woman out in high school, and she rejected

me. So, I didn't ask anyone until after I graduated from high school. I was

very oblivious to relationships, and literal to the point where I believed what

everyone said about relationships. In my health science class in college, my

then-girlfriend said to me, " The book says we should not have sex until we have

known each other for two years. " So, we didn't have sex. I was a virgin until

the first night of the honeymoon at the age of 32.

Although I have gotten better with the social aspect of relationships over time,

I still struggle with it. Just last night, my " sig other " and I went dancing

for the first time. We learned to dance swing, which was interesting. However,

I did not feel comfortable dancing with the other women. I did not feel

comfortable talking with them while practicing, and wished I was sitting down.

But, I stuck it out, and was thankful when the dance session ended. I won't be

going to any dances soon, where I am supposed to dance with women who are at the

same table as me at least once.

I am grateful and thankful that someone loves me as I love them, and I'll leave

it at that.

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> Lucky guy.

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[Guest guest]

I'm really grateful for the responses, just snowed under this week. I tend to have more time to read carefully and respond over the weekends -- and I plan to do just that. Thanks for the support and your patience! pinot