Guest guest Posted March 18, 2008 Report Share Posted March 18, 2008 > Because his absence is so painful to her, and since he will > not call, visit or write , I do so as him. I drop notes " from him " > and have a male friend call her, as " her son. " She doesn't go into a > lot of detail, and in 3-4 minutes she is satisfied for another week. > She thinks this is wonderful, and the job I took on involves keeping > her comfortable in body, mind and heart. talks about being > a " pragmatic caregiver, " and I find these " loving lies " don't bother > me at all. Suggestion from Lin > > Yet another great suggestion - it's something that I should have done > for my mother since my brother was incognito during her journey. It's > something that #1 not thought of as an option #2 you need to be > emotionally split to consider it -- what I mean is separate the > emotions about the incognito brother whom you're aggravated w/ b/c he > doesn't think of others besides himself, but think of the LO who > needs the emotional support and it makes sense it's the right thing > to do - these 'loving lies'. Wish I had thought of this myself, b/c I > would most certainly have done it - would have made things much > easier in the long run had mom thought her son was in fact keeping in > touch. I, personally, have a tough time being anything but extremely > honest. Sometimes to a fault. If I say or do anything, that is even > the slightest bit dishonest, it's written all over my face. > > But this " loving lie " I wish I had thought of. It's brilliant! :) > Saving this... > > > > > ------------------------------------ > > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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