Re: Re: Info needed for this family

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I worked briefly at a live in state facility for the handicapped...which

would be similar to what I'm imagining the grandparents are talking

about.........

it was awful.

I only lasted 3.5 weeks... and it wasn't the individuals- I adored them- but

it was the employees. I could sugar coat it, but the truth was, many were

abusive to the people. It broke my heart...I went home every day crying, I

had to walk away.

A state facility really cannot be the answer they think it is...even the

cold grandparents! I'm so sad that they can't be more loving, and just step

up to help her make up the difference in what's lacking for him.

Angel

In a message dated 5/29/2008 11:59:51 A.M. Mountain Daylight Time,

laurensmom4561@... writes:

Depending on her area there several residental schools through out

the U.S. that she and her family could look into. They would relieve

her of the day to day care but still allow her to retain her rights

as a parent and see him,even bring him home for short visits. If

money is a problem and I am assuming it is due to the situation,

there are programs that could help with that. The schools themselves

would be able to arrange financial aid. There is one school in Ks

called Heartsprings and another in Colorado called Son Rise. I'm sure

there are others. If the boy is young it is possible that the

problems they are having now can be helped. It is very possible for

him to lead a life much like his parents if he gets the proper

treatment and therapy. If he is just signed over to the state it is

highly unlikley that he would get those things.

Hope this helps

Jo Ann

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> I found the following in a forum and wanted to help her but didn't

know how. Any information that I can pass on? It's a very sad

situation. Thanks.

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> My BFF since high school has an older sister (in her 30's) who's IQ

is literally right at 70. I would consider her pretty high

functioning.

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> Her older sister has been able to work, found love, move out on her

own, marry and now has 3 children (all boys), her middle boy has been

diagnosed (2 years ago now) with Aspergers.

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> Raising children is hard enough, added to the fact that she and her

hubby are both of a lower IQ than most parents, they are trying to

raise a special needs child themselves.

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> My friends sister has been experiencing " stomach " pain for several

months now, she finally went to the Dr. yesterday and found out she

is 7 MONTHS PREGNANT with baby #4.

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> I do have experience with special needs, but not on an Asperger's

level, I know their family (immediate family, there is no extended

family outside of her real dad, step mom and sister) as a whole

suffers so much because the parents are just not capable of properly

handling a special needs child.

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> My friend and her sisters real dad and step mom are REALLY pushing

her older sister to sign over custody of the middle boy to the state

and just put him in a home, they are telling her, she wont be able to

see him any more, they are pretty " cold " grandparents and have even

compared the middle boy to a dog, my BFF knows her sister is easily

convinced of things and knows her parents intentions, we are

wondering if there isn't something that would be a win/win for

everyone, like an open adoption or maybe a home he can live in and be

better cared for, but she'd still be allowed to see him as often as

she'd like.

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> This girl is not what you'd think of as " retarded " , she can carry

on a conversation, drive, cook, shop (not well, but she can), pay

bills, love her kids, not so great with hygiene, but she is VERY

aware and I just pray there is a mom on here that can help her, as a

mom myself, I am in tears just at the thought of what " could " happen

here. PLEASE send any ideas or information ASAP

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> She understands and agrees that she can not take care of the new

baby, plus the other 3 she has now and wants to find out if her

parents are right and all she can do is just sign him over to the

state or is there something else....

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