I'm so upset-can I vent here?

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My son's new apartment is a moldy pit. I cannot believe he is going to

live there with his new wife. It's in a basement and I visited and

left so so upset. They are paying a fortune and it's such a toxic dump.

I'm worried he is going to get really sick but because he never really

believed I was " sick " he's just pooh poohing me. Even when he starts

reacting he won;t believe me. And they have a year lease! Oh my god,

if he gets sick i will never forgive him for being so stupid. And I

adore my son but he's 27 and my daughters keep telling me, Ma, maybe

it's time you just let go.

Needless to say, I will NEVER be visiting and I am terrified that

their clothing will stink when they come visit. I originally offered

to let them use my washing machine and dryer but now I don't know-what

if it gets mold spores in my dryer?

This is a disaster I never expected.

How do i handle this without becoming a bad mother-in-law? I don't

think there's a way I can come out looking good here.

This is so upsetting. This makes me so angry! I was feeling so much

better but the stress of this has sent me back to where I was last

year. I'm actually much angrier than I thought I would be-because it

is clear my son has not heard or believed a word I've said. It really

hurts to know your own child thinks you are nuts.

Thanks for listening, Surella