RE: Re: Can you improve this email to my co-workers?

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> I agree with Steve's advice.

> - Helen

Add me to the group who believes that the email is likely to create more

problems than it resolves.

Best,

~CJ

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I'd like to add my support to the comments by Steve, CJ, and Helen. Sending an Email to people you already know at work may produce unanticipated results, some of which can be quite negative. It's good that you've used this forum to seek feedback on what you've already written.

First, take a deep breath, and review why you've concluded it would be necessary to disclose to your co-workers at work. Doing that by itself should "slow down" your interest in getting something out quickly that might confuse co-workers or possibly contribute to a worsening of what may already have started to happen.

There are a couple of good books on "disclosing" you might consider as you weigh the way in which you'd like to share information about yourself. One of them has a couple of chapters by folks who really have given the issue of disclosure a lot of thought: "Ask and Tell," edited by Shore, published by Kingsley Publishers in 2004 or 2005 is a start. The observations of Liane Holliday Willey are quite helpful, as are some of the straightforward suggestions of Kassiane Sibley. Another decent book covers all aspects and all sides of disclosure or not disclosing, and it's "Coming Out Asperger" edited by Dinah Murray, also published by Kingsley Publishers. Also, there are all kinds of blogs written by very articulate adults that touch on the topic of disclosing at work, as well as some good advice from folks in the business community. It may not hurt to look at the web site of Malcolm , the author of "Managing with Asperger Syndrome," Kingsley Publishers (2005) for some good case studies and some pretty sound advice. His website is at http://www.aspergermanagement.com/.

I'm not going to try to edit your material. That should come at the "end of the process" of considering the basic W's of journalism, which are "what, who, what, why, where" and the "H" of "how." I'm sure I've forgot some other considerations that go into disclosure, but I hope you get the idea. Also, consider reading Rudy Simone's excellent short book on AS and Employment, published by Future Horizons this year or at the end of last year. She's a very clear writer, and she's been there and "done that."

Good luck.

N. Meyer

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Hi Sorry to state what you already thought was coming. I can only offer advice without an understanding of your circumstances. At the end of the day it is only you that can decide what is the best way forward. I certainly err caution though. has provided some good advice on “disclosing”. Good luck with whatever you decide. Regards Steve From: aspires-relationships [mailto:aspires-relationships ] On Behalf Of Sent: 31 August 2012 19:00To: aspires-relationships Cc: 'Ralph Wilps'Subject: Re: Can you improve this email to my co-workers? -- in response to-- " Gaskill " bassman_720 I was hoping not to get the inevitable " don't send something like this " response. We rarely try to communicate with our cohorts about our condition, and I think that effort makes a lot of sense. I'm also lucky in the sense that I don't think there is a lot of downside in my work environment to the disclosure. If people can help me with the communication itself, I'd be grateful. Thanks,-