Re: Re: advice please! My husband doesn't believe that the house is making me sick!

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I am wondering if you're possibly dealing with offgassing from urethanes

from the hardwood floors, formaldehyde from the carpeting and/or linoleum,

in addition to the mold.

I am so new to this, I don't know what type of professional you could get to

test for these things, but I wanted to add my 2 cents.

Also, I wanted to say I feel so badly for you that your husband is not

believing you and being supportive. You might want to consider seeing a

counselor if this situation is affecting your relationship. I know how

horrible it can feel to be sick and not have loved ones believe me. It would

be easier if I wore a cast for a broken bone or had an ultrasound to prove a

cancer diagnosis.

I think I heard that 30% or so of the US population has some kind of

environmental illness and that number is rising. As it gets more mainstream

press coverage, more people will have to accept the reality of it. Kids are

getting sick and dying from mold exposure. It sounds like your infant is

also sick. Do folks like your husband think infants and children are making

it up because they are also mentally ill? This is a topic near and dear to

my heart...

Also, I hope you, your baby and your fetus are not sharing secondhand smoke

from your husband's smoking. That will exascerbate (sp?) any symptoms you

have from the other toxic elements, and of course do damage to your health

overall.

Good luck and hopefully others here will have more solid ideas on solutions,

Deb

On Thu, Nov 13, 2008 at 5:35 AM, TheBeth <thebethinator@...> wrote:

> We did have a professional come in and do a pretty thorough visual

> check (on the main floor only-not in the attic or crawl space) and he

>

[Guest guest]

Jeanine, AKA who, can share her horror story about that one if she so chooses.

You are entering the biggest problem ever if your house does end up being toxic.

PLEASE seek a true proffesionals help on testing it before you loose your mind.

I am sure you will here from one of them from our group before long. They are

good peoples...

    

From: TheBeth <thebethinator@...>

Subject: [] Re: advice please! My husband doesn't believe that the

house is making me sick!

Date: Thursday, November 13, 2008, 4:49 AM

I live in new mexico. Our floors are wood,

[Guest guest]

VISUAL???? That is not a proffesional and can tell you nothing. He skipped the

most important places that NEED to be checkes and TESTED, not looked at. Ha ha,

if it were only that simple. Disregard anything he told you about not haveing a

problem until testing is done. And dont hire anyone untill you here from one of

our pros here so you know what to ask...  This si serious.

 

Chris...

From: TheBeth <thebethinator@...>

Subject: [] Re: advice please! My husband doesn't believe that the

house is making me sick!

Date: Thursday, November 13, 2008, 5:35 AM

We did have a professional come in and do a pretty thorough visual

check (

[Guest guest]

Sorry to hear about your dad Joe. That is a tough one for sure. (what does IMHO

mean?)

 

Anyway great post and said well, you are exactly right in your advice. That is

the same tactic for those that get involved in litigation for other reasons as

well such as myself. Although I had no choice to leave as my reactions were

severe but great post.

 

Take care of yourself Joe your a good guy and a great member, you know we are

all behind you and will help in anyway possiable.

    

 

 

 

 

 

 

   

       

From: joseph salowitz <josephsalowitz@...>

Subject: [] Re: advice please! My husband doesn't believe that the

house is making me sick!

Date: Friday, November 14, 2008, 1:42 PM

IMHO, your marriage is already over, and you should now focus on the

most important issue of your post-married life, which is KEEPING

YOUR DAUGHTER ALIVE. My 92 year old father died last month, as a

direct result of one hour of mold exposure, 7 days a week, for 2

years. The mold was in his car. Death, from our illness, comes first

to the very old and the very young. You will know when you are in

danger of dying, but your 3 month old daughter will NOT know when

she is in danger of dying. She will just die.

When you get to divorce court, if your husband can convince the

judge that you are " crazy " , the judge may give your husband custody

of your daughter, which would be a DEATH SENTENCE for your daughter,

if your husband continues to keep her in your present home.

I have read all the postings on Sickbuildings, for a few years, and

I can not recall ANYONE ever describe a situation where they were

able to convince a spouse that their sickness was real, AFTER the

spouse had already formed the opinion that they were " CRAZY " .

Again, IMHO, any " CRAZY TALK " , on your part, without taking the

ACTION of moving out of your death house IMMEDIATELY, will be used

by your husband's divorce lawyer as substantiation of the fact that

your MOLD FEARS were not REAL, as you did not ACT on your fears, by

leaving the home that you thought was making you, and your daughter,

sick. I am not a lawyer, or a doctor. I am just a very sad person,

in mourning for my deceased father, wishing that I had taken action

as soon as I realized that mold was killing him. I did not take any

action. I just tried to convince him, by talking. He is now dead.

You, and your daughter, are still alive. I hope that you will be

smarter, and braver, than I was, when faced with your moment of

decision, and your moment of ACTION.

............. ......... ......... ......... .

--- In , " TheBeth " <thebethinator@ ...>

wrote:

> But my husband thinks I'm making all of this up because I don't

want

> to live here anymore which is what I told him after the house

started

> making me sick.

> He's talking about divorce because I'm crazy, he just wants his

normal

> life back, which is all I want more than anything too, but he

doesn't

> believe me. He thinks I am just doing this because I'm crazy. He's

a

> good dad and normally a really great guy but I don't know what to

do

> to get him to believe just how miserable the house makes me feel.

It

> makes everything to do with the house miserable for me too, he gets

> mad at me because I wont decorate.

> I've tried to explain how I feel to him and I thought he

understood,

> but then when I talk about it again, he tells me he thought I was

done

> being crazy!

>

[Guest guest]

Right. I need to use that one more myself. I can sure sympathize with you on

that one and it is worth everything that you have at least recognized where you

made a wrong decision and know now what you would do if you had to do all over

again. I can speak for myself, there are to many around me that continue to do

as they do despite the consequenses it brings me and my health. You are a good

man and I know your dad knows that so hold no regrets. Your knowledge now can be

of much help to others and I am sure that is what your dad would want you to do.

 

Take care my friend...   

       

Thanks for the kind words. The letters " IMHO " are email

shorthand for " In My Humble Opinion " . It's a way of showing that the