Growing up in an Asperger Family

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sorry linda, i don't understand this question? The information in this document is confidential and is intended solely for the addressee. Access to this document by anyone else is unauthorized. If you are not the intended recipient, any disclosure, copying, distribution or any action taken or omitted to be taken in reliance on it, except for the purpose of delivery to the addressee, is prohibited and may be unlawful. This document and the content remains the intellectual property of To: "aspires-relationships " <aspires-relationships > Sent: Wednesday, 4 July 2012, 2:17 Subject: Growing up in an Asperger Family :What IF the AS parent/adult is in denial? Any suggestions?Best.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~``````````````````````If an AS parent has a child and that child is AS then it is more likely that the ASparent is going to be able to look intuitively at that child...more so than the non-AS parent. 40 AS father to an AS son....pretty intuitive......sick of the titanic centenary " celebrations"...it sank, they

died..why celebrate?The information in this document is confidential and is intended solely for the addressee. Access to this document by anyone else is unauthorized. If you are not the intended recipient, any disclosure, copying, distribution or any action taken or omitted to be taken in reliance on it, except for the purpose of delivery to the addressee, is prohibited and may be unlawful. This document and the content remains the intellectual property of ________________________________To: shahmeran@...Sent: Wednesday, 4 July 2012, 1:52Subject: (article) Growing up in an Asperger FamilyThis article really spoke to me, as I grew up in a

family that (had weknown the term) would probably earn itself an AS diagnosis. Of the lot,I am the most able to fly under the radar (although it wasn't alwaysthat way). Sometimes I wonder how much of my AS is the product of myneurobiology, and how much I've been "Aspergated" by my bizarre familylife, a life that represented the only 'normal' I knew while growing up.With respect to the article, keep in mind that when the author talksabout Aspies lacking "empathy", she does not mean that AS folks have noconcern for others. There are many facets to empathy (and the absence ofit), some of which are characteristic traits of AS. The inability to putoneself in the other person's shoes comes to mind, as does the fact thatothers have thoughts and perceptions different than one's own.Although not all Aspies will struggle to the same degree in this area,for when you've met one Aspie, you've met... well,

you know the rest ofthe song.This excerpt from the article really spoke to me:"The AS parent will not be able to look intuitively into their child’smind and recognise the invisible qualities their child has, such askindness, caring, and honesty. They may judge their child by what isvisible - tidiness, school achievements and time-keeping, for example.They may treat their children as mini-adults and have the sameexpectations of them as they have of themselves. "I grew up in the role of mini-adult myself, sometimes to the point whereengaging in childlike games (for example, play acting) was actuallyridiculed. This is one of the greatest regrets of my childhood, that Iwas never able to develop a fantasy life.Even today, I feel very inhibited about any issue that requiresrole-playing. Or indulging the imagination for its own sake. I've oftenwondered to what degree my stunted

growth in this area has contributedto my lack of interest in fiction. In particular, fiction that involvesrealms not of this earth. But give me an encyclopedia and a bunch ofmaps, and I'm happy as a pig in... well, you know. :)Anyway, I liked the article. Maybe you will too.Growing up in an Asperger Familyhttp://www.maxineaston.co.uk/published/Asperger_Family.shtmlEnjoy (or not),~CJ (The "Little Professor")~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~"The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfway."~~ Henry Boyle------------------------------------ "We each have our own way of living in the world, together we are like a symphony.Some are the melody, some are the rhythm, some are the harmonyIt all

blends together, we are like a symphony, and each part is crucial.We all contribute to the song of life." ...Sondra We might not always agree; but TOGETHER we will make a difference.ASPIRES is a closed, confidential, moderated list.Responsibility for posts to ASPIRES lies entirely with the original author. Do NOT post mail off-list without the author's permission. When in doubt, please refer to our list rules at: http://www.aspires-relationships.com/info_rules.htm ASPIRES ~ Climbing the mountain TOGETHER http://www.aspires-relationships.com<http://www.aspires-relationships.com/>

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oh..i get this.my advice...get a good lawyer. 40 AS been there......had a bad lawyer.....The information in this document is confidential and is intended solely for the addressee. Access to this document by anyone else is unauthorized. If you are not the intended recipient, any disclosure, copying, distribution or any action taken or omitted to be taken in reliance on it, except for the purpose of delivery to the addressee, is prohibited and may be unlawful. This document and the content remains the intellectual property of To: "aspires-relationships " <aspires-relationships > Sent: Wednesday, 4 July 2012, 2:26 Subject: Growing up in an Asperger Family :Let me rephrase. What advice would you give adults that have AS that don't accept the diagnosis and are angry at the suggestion that anyone would think they are different from the pact?Does this make sense?________________________________From: aspires-relationships [aspires-relationships ] On Behalf Of david bailey [daysbays@...]Sent: Tuesday, July 03, 2012 6:18 PMTo: aspires-relationships Subject: Re: Growing up in an Asperger Familysorry linda, i don't understand this question?The information in this document is confidential and is intended solely for the addressee. Access to this document by anyone else is unauthorized. If you are not

the intended recipient, any disclosure, copying, distribution or any action taken or omitted to be taken in reliance on it, except for the purpose of delivery to the addressee, is prohibited and may be unlawful. This document and the content remains the intellectual property of ________________________________To: "aspires-relationships " <aspires-relationships >Sent: Wednesday, 4 July 2012, 2:17Subject: Growing up in an Asperger Family:What IF the AS parent/adult is in denial? Any

suggestions?Best.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~``````````````````````If an AS parent has a child and that child is AS then it is more likely that the ASparent is going to be able to look intuitively at that child...more so than the non-AS parent. 40 AS father to an AS son....pretty intuitive......sick of the titanic centenary " celebrations"...it sank, they died..why celebrate?The information in this document is confidential and is intended solely for the addressee. Access to this document by anyone else is unauthorized. If you are not the intended recipient, any disclosure, copying, distribution or any action taken or omitted to be taken in reliance on it, except for the purpose of delivery to the addressee, is prohibited and may be unlawful. This document and the content remains the intellectual property of ________________________________From: CJ

>To: shahmeran@...Sent: Wednesday, 4 July 2012, 1:52Subject: (article) Growing up in an Asperger FamilyThis article really spoke to me, as I grew up in a family that (had weknown the term) would probably earn itself an AS diagnosis. Of the lot,I am the most able to fly under the radar (although it wasn't alwaysthat way). Sometimes I wonder how much of my AS is the product of myneurobiology, and how much I've been "Aspergated" by my bizarre familylife, a

life that represented the only 'normal' I knew while growing up.With respect to the article, keep in mind that when the author talksabout Aspies lacking "empathy", she does not mean that AS folks have noconcern for others. There are many facets to empathy (and the absence ofit), some of which are characteristic traits of AS. The inability to putoneself in the other person's shoes comes to mind, as does the fact thatothers have thoughts and perceptions different than one's own.Although not all Aspies will struggle to the same degree in this area,for when you've met one Aspie, you've met... well, you know the rest ofthe song.This excerpt from the article really spoke to me:"The AS parent will not be able to look intuitively into their child’smind and recognise the invisible qualities their child has, such askindness, caring, and honesty. They may judge their child by what isvisible

- tidiness, school achievements and time-keeping, for example.They may treat their children as mini-adults and have the sameexpectations of them as they have of themselves. "I grew up in the role of mini-adult myself, sometimes to the point whereengaging in childlike games (for example, play acting) was actuallyridiculed. This is one of the greatest regrets of my childhood, that Iwas never able to develop a fantasy life.Even today, I feel very inhibited about any issue that requiresrole-playing. Or indulging the imagination for its own sake. I've oftenwondered to what degree my stunted growth in this area has contributedto my lack of interest in fiction. In particular, fiction that involvesrealms not of this earth. But give me an encyclopedia and a bunch ofmaps, and I'm happy as a pig in... well, you know. :)Anyway, I liked the article. Maybe you will too.Growing up in an Asperger

Familyhttp://www.maxineaston.co.uk/published/Asperger_Family.shtmlEnjoy (or not),~CJ (The "Little Professor")~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~"The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfway."~~ Henry Boyle------------------------------------ "We each have our own way of living in the world, together we are like a symphony.Some are the melody, some are the rhythm, some are the harmonyIt all blends together, we are like a symphony, and each part is crucial.We all contribute to the song of life." ...Sondra We might not always agree; but TOGETHER we will make a difference.ASPIRES is a closed, confidential, moderated

list.Responsibility for posts to ASPIRES lies entirely with the original author. Do NOT post mail off-list without the author's permission. When in doubt, please refer to our list rules at: http://www.aspires-relationships.com/info_rules.htm ASPIRES ~ Climbing the mountain TOGETHER http://www.aspires-relationships.com<http://www.aspires-relationships.com/><http://www.aspires-relationships.com/>Yahoo! Groups

Links------------------------------------ "We each have our own way of living in the world, together we are like a symphony.Some are the melody, some are the rhythm, some are the harmonyIt all blends together, we are like a symphony, and each part is crucial.We all contribute to the song of life." ...Sondra We might not always agree; but TOGETHER we will make a difference.ASPIRES is a closed, confidential, moderated list.Responsibility for posts to ASPIRES lies entirely with the original author. Do NOT post mail off-list without the author's permission. When in doubt, please refer to our list rules at: http://www.aspires-relationships.com/info_rules.htm ASPIRES ~ Climbing the mountain TOGETHER http://www.aspires-relationships.com<http://www.aspires-relationships.com/>

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CJ: I would totally agree, but that is just MY personal perpective.

Best.

A lot of Aspies live in a " universe of one " . If these folks were so intuitive,

they wouldn't be constantly at each other's throats on the internet. lol

Best,

~CJ