Re: Re: (article) Forgive and forget

[Guest guest]

Agreed. Forgiveness doesn't require that one forget the lesson

learned.

Best,

~CJ

Learning how to let go of hate and forgive is definitely

important. But one thing I've seen a lot of people misunderstand

is that forgiving someone does not mean you forgo learning from

the experience. Forgiveness doesn't require you to open yourself

up to the same harm all over again.

For example, I have a pair of friends who are always late to

events. This has lead to awkwardness and upset in the past. I've

since forgiven the upset and let go of any anger, but I don't

place myself in a position where I must depend on them to be on

time.

Forgiving lets you move on. If you truly forget it, like it

never happened, then you put yourself at risk again. You have to

use judgement though. Some things are worth forgetting, if they

aren't likely to ever happen again--an accident or a thoughtless

moment whose lesson was learned.