Re: new book - 22 things a woman with aspergers wants her partner to know

[Guest guest]

Thank you very much for the book recommendation, and for sharing your story,

. Welcome to ASPIRES!

- Helen

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> Hi all,

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> I am a new member that has been floating around in the back ground for a

little while now.

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> I have been learning all kinds of interesting things because of all of your

posts and have found something that i felt i should share as it just might help

someone.

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> I know that as women with ASD we are often over looked when it comes to

publications about relationships, but i have found a great book that deals

specifically with a relationship where the woman is the one on the spectrum.

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> The book is called " 22 things a woman with asperger's syndrome wants her

partner to know "

> By Rudy Simone, published by Kingsley Publishers.

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> It is a great book for partners, friends and family and is a light, easy read.

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> The book is broken into short, fun chapters and is very affordable. A great

book for partners that don't do a lot of reading as it is almost like a book of

small magazine articles.

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> My partner and i have been going through the book one subject at a time, i

read him the short chapter and then we have a chat and usually a laugh or two.

it has been a great way to help him understand the inner workings of my head

better, and to help us see the lighter side if some of my quirks!

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> The first thing that we found to laugh over was on the contents page - chapter

4 reads " No wire hangers...ever! Why she has control issues . . .

> Before my partner moved in with me some years ago, i gave him a list of things

that he could not bring to my house . . . Wire coat hangers were right at the

top of the list!!

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> This book is not exactly the " instruction manual " that should have come with

your female aspie partner, but my husband and i found it helped.

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> My partner knew i had Aspergers when we met and it has never been a problem

for him.

> We have always enjoyed each others quirks, he keeps the wire hangers in the

shed (they are always useful for something!) and i don't expect him to eat eggs.

.. . everyone is unique in some way aren't they?

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> I hope this post helps other aspie women give their significant other some

insight, and ease the stresses that can come from misunderstanding each other.

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> In my opinion learning to laugh at yourself can help a partner cope too. My

husband laughs with me almost every day at some left of field way i have of

doing things - one of his favourites is my insistence that there is always a

left and a right sock, he find this endlessly amusing!

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> many thanks to the folks out there that remind us that a happy, healthy, long

term relationship is possible for everyone - even the socially inept aspie.

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> Wishing you all a happy day and a few laughs at yourself to keep life in

perspective.

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> Australia

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