new book - 22 things a woman with aspergers wants her partner to know

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Hi all,

I am a new member that has been floating around in the back ground for a little

while now.

I have been learning all kinds of interesting things because of all of your

posts and have found something that i felt i should share as it just might help

someone.

I know that as women with ASD we are often over looked when it comes to

publications about relationships, but i have found a great book that deals

specifically with a relationship where the woman is the one on the spectrum.

The book is called " 22 things a woman with asperger's syndrome wants her partner

to know "

By Rudy Simone, published by Kingsley Publishers.

It is a great book for partners, friends and family and is a light, easy read.

The book is broken into short, fun chapters and is very affordable. A great book

for partners that don't do a lot of reading as it is almost like a book of small

magazine articles.

My partner and i have been going through the book one subject at a time, i read

him the short chapter and then we have a chat and usually a laugh or two. it has

been a great way to help him understand the inner workings of my head better,

and to help us see the lighter side if some of my quirks!

The first thing that we found to laugh over was on the contents page - chapter 4

reads " No wire hangers...ever! Why she has control issues . . .

Before my partner moved in with me some years ago, i gave him a list of things

that he could not bring to my house . . . Wire coat hangers were right at the

top of the list!!

This book is not exactly the " instruction manual " that should have come with

your female aspie partner, but my husband and i found it helped.

My partner knew i had Aspergers when we met and it has never been a problem for

him.

We have always enjoyed each others quirks, he keeps the wire hangers in the shed

(they are always useful for something!) and i don't expect him to eat eggs. . .

everyone is unique in some way aren't they?

I hope this post helps other aspie women give their significant other some

insight, and ease the stresses that can come from misunderstanding each other.

In my opinion learning to laugh at yourself can help a partner cope too. My

husband laughs with me almost every day at some left of field way i have of

doing things - one of his favourites is my insistence that there is always a

left and a right sock, he find this endlessly amusing!

many thanks to the folks out there that remind us that a happy, healthy, long

term relationship is possible for everyone - even the socially inept aspie.

Wishing you all a happy day and a few laughs at yourself to keep life in

perspective.

,

Australia