Re: NOW what do I do?

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Hi,

If anyone should apologize it is your friend. Her grandson was

acting very rudely. She should have stopped him the first time. I would not

have tolerated that behavior at all no matter who he was talking about. I have

a big mouth since she did not say anything i would have told him to knock if

off. I would have made it loud and clear that i didnot approve of her

grandsons behavior. After the third time i would have told her it was time to go

home and that i could not enjoy myself when he is behaving that way. I would

not

allow my child to act that way nor would i tolerate someone elses.

Maureen

Mom to

9yr nda

4y ds

a 1y

Jillian 3/12/03

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In a message dated 11/2/2003 5:56:54 PM Eastern Standard Time, modoyo@...

writes:

> I would not

> allow my child to act that way nor would i tolerate someone elses.

>

I agree. I have no problem correcting someone else's child/grandchild when

they are that far out of line.

Kathy, Liam's mom( 5)

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In a message dated 11/2/2003 4:08:40 PM Central Standard Time,

yemaya_goddess@... writes:

> Here’s one of those dilemmas that many of us have been through and did not

> know what to do at the time. This is going to be long because I’m going to

> say some things I wanted to say but did not. What I really need is to know

> what, if anything, I should say later.

HI

I've had a few similar incidents, one not so long ago. A neighborhood boy age

7 told Sara in front of all of the neighborhood kids " You are so ugly you

must cry when you look in the mirror " AND " you are so dumb, you have an 11 yr.

old body and a 5 yr. old brain " Halle, Sara's buddy told me this and she was so

upset ..... Halle not Sara lol I asked her what Sara said or did and she said

Sara came back with " well you are FAT "

I decided to drop this incident since Sara told him off but my 14 yr. old

didn't agree so she told this boys brother (her friend age 14) Troy told on his

little brother and I heard his dad beat the tar out of his rear when he got

home from work ..... lol the South you know.

I am like Beth, I've weeded out some friends over my children, not just Sara

but for all of my kids but not without an explanation on why I couldn't

continue with the relationship

Kathy mom to Sara 11

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That behavior was not tolerated from my family, even before Brit was born.

Niether was staring at someone for that matter. I would have not only said

something but I wouldn't associate with this " friend " again. This has cost me

many an aquaintance but then my daughter's and my life is much less stressful.

I am fortunate that I don't need to have people around me and I am setting an

example for my 12m year old. One that I hope will help her stand up to peer

pressure and learn to be a leader and not a follower.

Good luck with your decision.

Hugs

Beth

I am the " special needs " child. I am your teacher. If you allow me, I will teach

you what is really important in life. I will give you and teach you

unconditional love. I gift you with my innocent trust and my total dependency. I

teach you about how precious this life is and about not taking things for

granted. I teach you about forgetting your own needs and desires and dreams. I

teach you giving. Most of all, I teach you hope and faith. ~Author Unknown~

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In a message dated 11/3/2003 3:48:18 PM Eastern Standard Time,

leslie-kerrigan@... writes:

> . She made a weak attempt to shut her child up

> (2nd grader), but this kid feeds on being the center of attention, so

> the more her mom tried to tell her to stop, the more she went on and on.

> (continuing the embarassment of my daughter). When I spoke with my

> friend about it, she didn't get it, cound't understand why I " didnt'

> like her daughter " ...... she understood that what her child said was

> totally inappropriate, but didn't know what I thought she should have

> done about it.

Wow. I don't mean to sound judgemental but if she can't control her child's

mean mouth at 7, what is she going to do when she's a teenager and supposed to

be difficult? Sounds like she's in for a tough time ahead.

Kathy, Liam's mom( 5)

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I have to tell you, I lost a good " friend " when I discussed her

daughter's treatment of my oldest daugher (non DS). My oldest is very

kind, sweet, and innocent. She likes everyone, and plays well with all

kids (except her sisters :-). The girl was snotty and rude to her one

to many times for me, and finally embarassed her in front of a group of

their friends one day after school was over. The mom was there, and

heard the whole thing. She made a weak attempt to shut her child up

(2nd grader), but this kid feeds on being the center of attention, so

the more her mom tried to tell her to stop, the more she went on and on.

(continuing the embarassment of my daughter). When I spoke with my

friend about it, she didn't get it, cound't understand why I " didnt'

like her daughter " ...... she understood that what her child said was

totally inappropriate, but didn't know what I thought she should have

done about it. (No brainer..... take her to the car so she would have

to stop embarassing my child, if the mom has no control..... which she

doesn't, but that's another issue :-) My " friend " talked to a mutual

friend, went on and on..... " I thought was my friend, how could

she do this to me... blah, blah, blah. "

Interestingly, the mom can't forgive me, and it makes things kinda wierd

when we run into each other at school (though she does a good job of not

running into me). She is polite, but definitely a little

uncomfortable. Thankfully, my daughter has not had any problems with

the girl (so maybe the kid learned something, even if her mom couldn't).

I certainly wouldn't do things differently, and I'm glad I got a warm up

for the time (hopefully not) I have to say something for someone

treating poorly. I really encourage all my girls to stand up

for themselves, but I have realized that there are times that an adult

has to step in and help out.

, mom to (8), (5 DS), and (4)

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Don't you sometimes want to ask these people " Who's in charge here? " (meaning

you or your child)

Elaine

Re: Now what do I do?

I have to tell you, I lost a good " friend " when I discussed her

daughter's treatment of my oldest daugher (non DS). My oldest is very

kind, sweet, and innocent. She likes everyone, and plays well with all

kids (except her sisters :-). The girl was snotty and rude to her one

to many times for me, and finally embarassed her in front of a group of

their friends one day after school was over. The mom was there, and

heard the whole thing. She made a weak attempt to shut her child up

(2nd grader), but this kid feeds on being the center of attention, so

the more her mom tried to tell her to stop, the more she went on and on.

(continuing the embarassment of my daughter). When I spoke with my

friend about it, she didn't get it, cound't understand why I " didnt'

like her daughter " ...... she understood that what her child said was

totally inappropriate, but didn't know what I thought she should have

done about it. (No brainer..... take her to the car so she would have

to stop embarassing my child, if the mom has no control..... which she

doesn't, but that's another issue :-) My " friend " talked to a mutual

friend, went on and on..... " I thought was my friend, how could

she do this to me... blah, blah, blah. "

Interestingly, the mom can't forgive me, and it makes things kinda wierd

when we run into each other at school (though she does a good job of not

running into me). She is polite, but definitely a little

uncomfortable. Thankfully, my daughter has not had any problems with

the girl (so maybe the kid learned something, even if her mom couldn't).

I certainly wouldn't do things differently, and I'm glad I got a warm up

for the time (hopefully not) I have to say something for someone

treating poorly. I really encourage all my girls to stand up

for themselves, but I have realized that there are times that an adult

has to step in and help out.

, mom to (8), (5 DS), and (4)

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--- In , " heliotropium@... " <heliotropium@...>

wrote:

>Hi , put your rent money in an escrow account with your county. Tell them

you believe your apartment is contaminated with mold and that you have paid for

testing which supports your beliefs. Tell them your landlord is responsibile for

treating it. If he/she will not have the mold and mold spores remediated, you

need to break your lease and move elsewhere. You have tenant's rights and you

should not be forced to pay for a contaminated rental. If you still do not get

justice, go to your county or state's attorney office and file a complaint.

Otherwise, do not risk any good health you may have left by remaining in a

deadly environment. A Salvation Army or a YWCA shelter would be better by far

than dying a little bit each day staying in a mold infested apartment.

> Hello,

>

> NOW what do I do?

>

> A few months ago, I moved into a moldy duplex and couldn't afford to move out.

The landlord used Kilz and bleach, which of course did not work. He wouldn't

listen when I told him it wouldn't work. It still smells and is making me sick.

>

> The Health Department doesn't do mold and Code Enforcement told my roommate

and I to get our own mold inspector, which we did. The test said there is more

mold inside than out, 10 times, to be precise.

>

> The mold inspector says he has done this for years and found only 2 houses

that had a problem. This is the 3rd.

>

> The landlord spoke with him and the mold inspector says the mold levels are

" low. " HA! Wish he would live here awhile, he'd sing a different tune.

>

> Thanks,

>

>